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To think some people are just loving it?

247 replies

PoppliosBubble · 11/04/2020 16:30

So many people seem to be taking so much pleasure in being absolutely furious with everyone else at the moment and I’m just amazed by it.

I live in a very touristy town, our local FB page is currently full of posts of people who have searched car registrations in their road and found some that aren’t registered to the area. Dozens of posts with photos of people queuing up outside co-op asking whether everyone will only be buying essentials, photos of very elderly sat on a bench saying that they might as well just kill themselves now, couples holding hands clearly being ABSOLUTE SELFISH B*S!!

All these posts followed by so many angry comments and talk of slashing tyres, complaining about hearing Midlands or London accents, comments that police should be throwing kids in prison.

I know it’s a scary time. It’s absolutely unprecedented and we’re underprepared and walking into the unknown. But I genuinely find the sheer rage that seems to be coming from some people quite frightening. I have to take my kids with me whenever I leave the house and I just know that someone will comment on it soon. I only have a tiny courtyard of outside space so I’m taking dc on a long walk with me every morning. Dc2 is only just 4 but I feel I can’t give him a drink as we’re walking along in case someone accuses us of having a picnic.

Is anyone else concerned by this? Anything I can do at all?

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Huncamuncaa · 11/04/2020 22:19

My DH had a flat tyre the other morning. He's an NHS worker and has been going in every day and most weekends too. He's been using my car as not had time to sort it out. We were talking about getting it to the garage earlier and we realised how odd it was to suddenly notice a puncture first thing in the morning having not has any warning light coming home the day before. It seems like someone has let it down. Maybe because he is going out a lot and doesnt wear a uniform and someone feels it's their job to police us?

Lookingforwardtomyeastereggs · 11/04/2020 22:21

Yanbu op, although I've only really seen it on here and on phone ins such as Jeremy Vine or in the Daily Mail. In real life most people I know/have seen seem to just be muddling through and minding their own business.

itsgettingweird · 11/04/2020 22:27

Blibbey I'm sure sure that beforehand it wasn't acceptable to post on SM.
All these people reporting the lockdown people for supposedly breaking guidelines are just replacing (or were the same people!) the people reporting those on planes, those in town centres, parks, car parks trains and buses for breaking their own set of personal guidelines.
Humans have always had a way of disapproving of those who don't act the way they do. Luckily most of us can say we disagree politely and face to face with evidence for our POV.
It's the same we see here all the time. Attachment parents, beneign neglect, those who vehemently disagree with private education, BF V FF. everyone has an opinion.

Just with this we are being encouraged as a society to report. More so than than it appears we have been previously for crime where it's been "if your car is broken into - ring the insurance company"

Sparklesocks · 11/04/2020 22:53

A lot of people on my local fb groups say we should ‘get the army in’ to help ‘deal’ with lockdown rule breakers. To do what exactly isn’t clear.
But yes it’s been fantastic for busy bodies and nosey parkers who now believe their curtain twitching is their duty, bravely serving their country by counting how many times their neighbour goes out and calling the police because someone in the co-op only appeared to be buying a bottle of wine and nothing else.

AgentCooper · 11/04/2020 23:05

I think some people are going to feel bereft when all this is finally over, because they won’t feel important anymore, not without a lockdown and the opportunity to police the behaviour of their neighbours.

GlummyMcGlummerson · 11/04/2020 23:45

I think (and thought from the beginning) that there's a lot of coppers rubbing their hands over the thought of exerting power so easily. Not a popular opinion, but based on my RL experiences (never been on the wrong end of a copper, never been arrested or told off but been pulled over twice and been victim to a crime a few times) - I think a disproportionate amount of police Officers are smarmy power hungry trumped up little people with God complexes and personal agendas. The threat a chief constable made to start searching trollies if people didn't "behave", and the police officer who went into someone's (long, fenced off and fairly secluded) front garden to tell a family they can't be in it are examples of how I see police forces. Also saw a video where a police officer fined a corner shop keeper for drawing lines 2m part outside so she could operate a 1 in 1 out system whilst ensuring social distancing outside.

Some of them will have waited their whole careers for this opportunity.

It's no wonder the government had to step in and tell them to back off.

Holidayaddict · 12/04/2020 00:17

www.thedailymash.co.uk/news/society/are-you-a-concerned-neighbour-or-a-petty-minded-little-busybody-20200410195360

Made me laugh and reflective of the lical social media pages round here for sure!

PoppliosBubble · 12/04/2020 09:54

glummy I think it’s that too. I’ve never had any dealings with the police and just assumed them to be ‘goodies’. To see so many of them just revelling in this extra bit of power is disheartening.

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CruCru · 12/04/2020 09:56

In the local paper from where I grew up there is a picture of an older man sweeping pebbles off the promenade by the seafront, along with a short story about him doing it to make socially distant walking easier. Christ, you’d think he was doing something dreadful judging from the comments.

BubblyBarbara · 12/04/2020 11:14

because they won’t feel important anymore, not without a lockdown and the opportunity to police the behaviour of their neighbours.

Don’t be silly, we’ll go back to posting CF threads on here dear

iklboo · 12/04/2020 11:24

Don’t be silly, we’ll go back to posting CF threads on here dear

And Parking Warz (with diagrams)

TheProdigalKittensReturn · 12/04/2020 13:22

A woman had her tyres slashed yesterday here and a nasty note left on her windscreen about leaving the house too often, she is a call handler at NHS 24.

JFC, what is wrong with people? And the thing is that once all of this is over those people will still be there, and we'll have to live next to them remembering full well how they behaved when given an excuse.

ilovecakeandwine · 12/04/2020 13:32

God I have a fb friend yesterday going I need to rant stay at home !! ., I'm not sure who she was talking too I mean anyone not actually at home would see her post and go oh I've got to get home .
And all those that are too lazy to check government legislation that it's not a hours exercise there are no restrictions on what you can and can't buy . Just cause Karen posted it on fb it's not true !!
And I'm fed up on my local fb group with the clapping videos and now the dancing on a Sunday night ffs Hmm

longtompot · 12/04/2020 14:54

I think fear does strange things to people. That and not having enough to do in the day so they have many hours devoted to being outraged of Tunbridge Wells etc

Greenpolkadot · 12/04/2020 17:24

Thankfully I haven't experienced any of this in the village where I live.
Are these people deranged?

Jack80 · 12/04/2020 17:43

I've just said this to my husband

SeedyM · 12/04/2020 18:01

People feel such a loss of control, coupled with fear and it seems to turn into anger which has to have a focus. Not that there aren’t genuine cases to be annoyed about - the middle aged men in a private jet denied entry into France where they were to be helicoptered to a rented villa with the twenty something female companions made me cross. It would be good if they found a more constructive way to channel their anger.

Susan1961 · 12/04/2020 18:08

Yes it's definitely medicine time, as Jack Nicholson would say! There seems to be irrational, unnecessary behaviour, it's brought out the worst, as well as the good in folks.

Fightthebear · 12/04/2020 18:11

I made the mistake of clicking on a Gransnet thread and about 80% of the posts were vehemently supporting dobbing in neighbours to the police. Strange mindset

MyWitzEnd · 12/04/2020 18:13

Some people just need telling to fuck off amd wind their neck in

Turquoise123 · 12/04/2020 18:17

Totally agree it’s really shocked me . Astonishing lack of empathy for people in different circumstances. I won’t be able to forget

DilemmaADay · 12/04/2020 18:20

I live in a large Northern city but have a Midlands accent due to being born and living there most my life. I'd be fuming if someone complained about me being a visitor based on how I speak....some people are honestly tragic Blush

starfishmummy · 12/04/2020 18:20

I'm in a facebook group for a place we go to on holiday a lot.

Its actually proving most amusing as they suddenly realise that they can't blame the tourists for the recent increase in dog poo, fly tipping or bad parking....

SpangleSparkle · 12/04/2020 18:21

Oh yes we have them here too, typically the same people in Facebook groups acting like people abu going out for their daily exercise etc even though they are doing exactly what the should be. There’s one woman who starting to really grate on me now thinking she’s above everyone else when actually she’s mostly in the wrong Angry

peaceanddove · 12/04/2020 18:26

Sadly a lot of people are deeply unpleasant and flawed human beings. It's why the Nazis were able to rise to power and why the witch trials happened. And human nature doesn't change. You have a handful who have good characters with strong ethics and a handful of mean spirited nasty bastards, with a huge number of neutral people in-between who are able to be easily influenced by either of the first two groups. I remember attending a guest lecture on herd mentality and diffusion of responsibility when I was at university and it was eye opening!