I've name changed as I've been reading some of my old threads and they're a little identifiable.
I'm married and I have a male friend, we've been mates for about five years. I have zero sexual feelings towards him, he has alluded to feelings for me in the past (a long time ago) but he's never made a pass or been outright about it. We meet for coffees once or twice a month, speak on the phone a little and he was very helpful to me during a difficult time at work a couple of years ago.
He is a dreamer, very focused on star signs, the "Universe" all those sorts of things. Believes if he thinks hard enough about something it will happen, e.g. new car.
Anyway to get to my AIBU. He's always told me he has his own business, he works from home, and he makes regular business trips to London. I've never been inside his home, and although he's always talking about big deals and contracts I've never seen any evidence of this. I now believe all of this is a lie. I think he claims benefits and the house he lives in his rented by his parents. I think he lives in this bubble where if he believes he has a successful business strongly enough, it will happen for him.
There's just a few things that have happened recently that have made me think he's not all he claims to be. I wouldn't have cared who he worked for, or what he did or didn't do for a living if he'd said from the start. I just don't like being lied to.
I have always been a bit freaked out by people pretending to be someone else, it really scares me (childhood fright), and I've been really scared by this. AIBU?
I can't ask him directly as he'll be very upset if, a. I've got it all wrong and he is genuine (highly unlikely), or b. he is lying and I've found him out.