Unreasonable and petty things that put you off a person

[touchtheceiling]

NC, penis beaker, wailing michaelangelo etc

Just wondered if anyone else can relate to this - I seem to be easily put off people due to very petty things in the scheme of things.

For example, last month I had to pick up a male colleague on the way to a work meeting. I had to go in his house to help carry some things, which meant going through his garden. He had washing on the line, including his pants. I don't know why but this made me lose respect for him and feel a bit embarrassed for seeing a colleague's pants (not sure if I was embarrassed for me or him). He didn't seem to notice though. He's in his late 50s and I really didn't want to see his pants under any circumstances!

Another was a guy I was seeing years ago. On one occasion he tried for a kiss and I wasn't expecting it, and seeing his lips pierced ready for a kiss when I was completely off guard just disgusted me. It put me off and I didn't see him again

Once something like this has happened my view of them is tainted. Is this a known thing or am I just an unreasonable cow?

youok I know. What I mean is people who treat it as a fun quirk that means you like things clean, rather than a serious mental disorder which ruins your life.

@loveislovely

“Gurning”. Yes!! That’s the word I was searching for last night!! Thank you 🌸 and I’m glad it’s not just me who can’t stand his idiotic ways!

1. People who are martyrs - someone at work for example, keeps moaning about how much work they have to do and how stressed they are, yet keeps going for promotions and taking on more work... then the cycle begins again. I see it as either a humble brag or someone who like to reiterate their self importance

1. People tight with money. I understand peoples financial situations are different, but asking for 50p back or so really confuses me

1. Humblebraggers in general disguised as a put down "oh I look so bad without makeup..." when they look fantastic.

1. Booking things with people who have no consideration over other peoples earnings. "Oh this hotel is only £200 a night!" Sorry Susan, we're not all on £50k a year...

1. Rude people who dont thank waiters when their food comes

1. Very posh accents on men (sorry! I know this is irrational)

*Gwenhwyfar

You sound quite miserable phoenix. Chatting to colleagues is good for you, builds networks, stops the monotony..*

As does your reading comprehension... I did clarify yet that is what you got out of it.

I talk to my colleagues casually during breaks, lunch, when it’s slow and I know they are not busy, open to chatting, and if it is a group chatter. I go off the person so if I’ve noticed they aren’t the type to chat I simply greet them and leave it at that unless they choose to chat back. I don’t force conversation. I also read the work environment and adapt to it but most of what I’ve said still stands.

I’ve had no trouble with being promoted and have been praised for my demeanour and work ethic by many managers before and after the one who had an issue with it yet she ignored the fact that he never spoke to me either, rarely anyone else for that matter during work hours, and the position of my computer and desk made it difficult to chat even if we did since I would struggle to be able to work on my computer and talk at the same time especially when there was a colleague that sat between our desk most of the time.

Do Americans say “September 9” though? I thought they said “the ninth of September” and the British was “September the 9th”. Or vice versa?

We usually say “September 9th or September the 9th” but it depends on region.

But smoking = untrustworthy? Bonkers. And I'm not a smoker.

As bonkers as trying to call someone out for their opinion on a thread where they're calling themselves out....?

People who think it’s ok to be really nasty to colleagues first thing in the morning, and justify it by saying they haven’t had a coffee yet.

@didyoueverdancewiththedevil
"People who go on and on and on about themselves. They don't seem to have any self awareness and never seem to notice that your eyes have glazed over or that you are, in fact, walking away from them and they are still waffling on. Conversations require both talking but more importantly, listening. Some people cannot seem to manage the second one of these."

Yes!! I knew one of these! She could go on for hours without drawing up for air and was thoroughly exhausting to be around. Absolutely zero self awareness. Also claimed to be "one of the lads" because she flirted with men constantly and seemed to neglect friendships with the females she did know

*Dog people

Yes I know that's half the population. But they smell, they lick, they sh&t everywhere but their own gardens it seems... just gross. Absolutely disgusting*

@Whatdayisit2 I am a dog person but I don’t smell, lick anyone’s arse and I have never shat in the garden. Do you live next door to some sort of Crufts fetish club or an I just not getting dog ownership right?

I used to go out with someone who was tall. Not shockingly tall but the sort of tall that meant older relatives would say “Gosh, you’re very tall, aren’t you Simon?” He was about 6’4.

He was weirdly proud of being tall and would shoehorn it into conversations whenever he could. So now I’m really put off anyone who repeatedly mentions a specific physical attribute (being tall, having very long hair) because it really reminds me of this boring dude.

@BatleyTownswomensGuild
"I dumped a guy once because I really disliked the way he spoke to his Mum...."

100% agree with you. I was talking to a man online dating who lived with his mum rent free (he was 24) and told me he swore at her because she was annoying him. Whether that was to "impress" me I never knew but it made me see him as an entitled man child with no respect for women and I never met up with him.

@crucru

Ooh! you just reminded me about this... I was mighty keen on a boy (late teens at the time) and he was tall and very stocky, played rugby etc. We were getting on fine but about 4 weeks in, we were walking through town one evening, and I saw our reflections in a big shop window... OMG, we looked ridiculous!! I am barely 5 foot - he was 6ft 5 😱 we looked like a cartoon!! I just went ‘nope’ and that was that.. we fizzled out but stayed mates, and still are.
When I mentioned this to my friends after, they all said “yes, we did say, but you wouldn’t listen”
I could only hear him speaking if he bent slightly down towards me...😣

@CruCru

Agreed. I find it with short women! They repeat it over and over just in case someone hasn't noticed they're tiny and oh so cute 😂😂🙄

Going on about how manly and good looking he was, how great he was in the sack expecting me to gush with praise and gratitude. He wasn't really the most gorgeous man I'd even seen/nor a sex god, I adored him though to begin with he was funny and we just clicked. We had been together for years looking for praise about his looks and sexual skill was progressively was popped into nearly every conversation, it absolutely put me off having sex with him I don't really know why though. I was heartbroken knowing I just couldn't stay with him, turns out he wasn't the only one he was looking for praise from I think he was just seeing which one of his ladies rated highest so lucky escape for me in the end 😂😂

*people who use the three letter code for the airport instead of just the name, so like LHR for Heathrow.

Unless you're an air traffic controller, just stop it.

Actually, jargon of any kind. Meds for medication, blue lighted to the hospital, stuff like that*

@LoveIsLovely I know what you mean. I always think it’s done to imply that they are a seasoned traveller or have some sort of knowledge which means they use the same shorthand as people who actually do have the knowledge. I’m thinking now of my neighbour; a great medical expert talking about meds etc, knowledge acquired through her Facebook group of fellow Juice Plus peddlers

@Wolfgirrl yes! And they always have the Shakespeare quote about being small but fierce on display somewhere in their home.

@thereluctantcountess

They do!! Or 'good things come in small packages'. Or they make cute little jokes about their boyfriend being so much taller even though he's like 5'10''. I even catch women who must be about 5'5'' doing it!

And they always call themselves petite, they never just use the word short. I'm tall and have no problem with the word. What else should I use? Great giantess?

People who say "I went to see mum" rather than "I went to see my mum". I don't know why it irritates me so much. But it does - irrationally so 😂

Adding to the list....

Man-babies, grown men in their 20s (and heavens even 30s and beyond) who dont know how to change their bedding, cook a meal etc because Mummy does it all. Just so unattractive.

Being passive aggressive without directly addressing you
Person A sends some work over to person B
Person B: Hello person C, please see amended copy of work as there were some mistakes in the original sent to me.
Urgh just fuck off

Humble braggers talking about how hard their worked to buy a car/house/cruise ship etc that was paid for by bank of mum and dad

Married couples still living off bank of mum and dad, at this point when you're married you should be standing on your own two feet.

Men in short trousers with long white ankle socks

The word "woke" trying to be cool

Tik Tock

Slow couples walking hand in hand blocking the pavement with zero self awareness

Facebook posts about your DP when you live in the same house, why!?

#MakingMemories

People who have grey crushed velvet sofas and mirrored furniture and plastic plants, I immediately assume they're thick as two short planks have never been proved wrong

People who have crap cheap wall paper which is badly hung.

@Wolfgirrl Great giantess ....I might make this my new nom de plume. If I may?

peaceanddove I’m very intelligent..I do have a false ikea hanging plant though. I just like the convenience of a plant that I only have to dust. I actually killed a succulent recently so green thumbed I ain’t.

@Pinkginhelps you may let's try and make it a thing!

Inappropriately singing/performing in front of others without being asked. When you're all otherwise doing something else but forced to be together (eg driving in a car, in a lift, on a tube train, in a meeting.) And I don't mean humming or singing to oneself, but you can tell when people are seeing it as an opportunity to perform in front of an audience just because there are others around. It makes me feel pressured to give them attention and I just don't have the energy for people like that.

People who choose to buy leather sofas because they think they look nice (without buying them because it's what they can afford or inheriting them from landlords in a rental property)

Memes/sayings/quotes on social media where people think they are sounding wise or clever or quoting ye olden days because they are speaking in the third person or using what they think is something akin to Latin or Greek syntax translation: eg "And so the people stayed at home etc," "She believed she could so she did."
Makes my blood boil.

People who kill insects for no reason apart from the fact they don't like them/are scared