Unreasonable and petty things that put you off a person

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NC, penis beaker, wailing michaelangelo etc

Just wondered if anyone else can relate to this - I seem to be easily put off people due to very petty things in the scheme of things.

For example, last month I had to pick up a male colleague on the way to a work meeting. I had to go in his house to help carry some things, which meant going through his garden. He had washing on the line, including his pants. I don't know why but this made me lose respect for him and feel a bit embarrassed for seeing a colleague's pants (not sure if I was embarrassed for me or him). He didn't seem to notice though. He's in his late 50s and I really didn't want to see his pants under any circumstances!

Another was a guy I was seeing years ago. On one occasion he tried for a kiss and I wasn't expecting it, and seeing his lips pierced ready for a kiss when I was completely off guard just disgusted me. It put me off and I didn't see him again

Once something like this has happened my view of them is tainted. Is this a known thing or am I just an unreasonable cow?

This is totally unreasonable, but the word seniors (in place of elderly, or old people) really gets on my nerves. It’s generally said in a wheedling, whiny way and irrationally annoys the hell out of me. “As a seeeeeeenior I can’t brush my own teeth, understand that young people can’t afford housing, haul my age bracket into political conversations about something entirely different.” I’m very fond of loads of old people, and will be retirement age myself in less than a decade (at which point I shall refer to myself as old).

I said it was irrational!

People who eat food in shops before they have paid for it, e.g. in supermarket queues.
Men with womanly bottoms.
Jeremy Clarkson types.
People who ‘hate vegans’ because they met a stroppy one once, or get over-defensive for no reason.
See also those offended if you are not drinking when they are, e.g. due to illness.
Loafers, especially if tasselled, and more so if worn without socks.
Golfing clothes.
Revving engines.
Bad spelling (unless dyslexic etc), ‘huns/babes’, text speech if over 18.
People who won’t queue. People who think they are above following rules.
People who slash and burn nature. Or are scared of it: “Ew, bugs!”. People whose ideas of gardens are immaculate gravel, paving, a bare overly neat lawn and one or two emasculated shrubs. Frigging astroturf!
People who buy period houses, rip out all the character and turn them into soulless modern boxes. Dunelm.
Driveway pavers of front gardens. Anyone who has more than 2 vehicles on the driveway (poss 3 if a tradesman lives there).
Fake nails. Fake tan. Too much overdone makeup (contouring).
Tracksuits as day wear (not for sport).
People who go horse racing.
Meat paste.
Gelled hair.
Man buns.

Dog people

Yes I know that's half the population. But they smell, they lick, they sh&t everywhere but their own gardens it seems... just gross. Absolutely disgusting.

Turtle neck tops on men

I tried to post earlier, but something went wrong. I hope I don't end up posting twice.

I have so many I almost feel embarrassed. Here are a few for starters:

False nails and long nails. Sorry. I like nails to be short, neat, and clean. Nail polish can be okay, though, if it's tidy and not chipped.

When I find out that someone I like is a cat lover and /or owner, I feel crestfallen. It really puts me off them. I am not a cat lover. I trod in cat poo (I have never owned a cat) in my own garden yesterday - whilst wearing my nice trainers - and am still very upset about this...I find many cat owners are very blasé about their pet doing its business in someone else's garden, and I find this totally unreasonable.

I quite like terms of endearment as a rule, but not hun / hunny, I'm afraid. I much prefer sunshine, sweetheart, poppet, or dear, dearie, love, pet. Haha.

When someone says "chalkboard", I just think, what utter nonsense! It's a blackboard. Unless it is a different colour, of course.

People who tweet about or post everything. Everything! Come on! Life is too short to be lived wholly through a screen or lens.

Unnecessary Americanisms. When a native English-speaking Brit says "movie", or "my bad", or doesn't use ordinal numbers in the date (i.e. they say "September nine", instead of "September the ninth"), I go right off them.

Tories.
People who vote Tory despite not identifying as one.
'Shy Tories'.

Do Americans say “September 9” though? I thought they said “the ninth of September” and the British was “September the 9th”. Or vice versa?

I think a few people have mentioned disliking the term “hunny”. It’s very common in Canada, but spelled as honey, as in sweet. So long as it’s towards people you know well and are fond of, I think it’s quite nice.

I think "honey" is much nicer than "hunny"!

Maybe it's film trailers that don't use ordinals, and I am mistaken in thinking it's an Americanism, when really it's a "trailerism". I have noticed it spilling over into life here, though.

Not a person but a Diam bar or Crunchie just typing that pissed me off. I just get really irrationally wound up when I think about them and how if I ate one it would be stuck in my teeth

I've annoyed myself now just talking about it

The misuse of the reflexive pronoun: ‘Hello, Mrs X, you’re speaking with myself, Chardonnay, today, Mrs X, is that alright for yourself?’ I sometimes think I am the last person in the country who is happy to say ‘me’ and ‘you’.

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Drives me nuts.

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Robbie Williams... not his music, just him! He’s always got a silly smirk on his face and my palms itch, from dying to slap him😳 he just reminds me of a cocky teenager that is constantly being sent out of class for being disruptive. Grrrr

@Ozzfest God yes, Robbie Williams is and always has been an annoying smarmy fucker. He's constantly gurning, it's awful.

Regarding Mrs Hinch - I haven't lived in the UK for years and I am shocked this is a thing at all. A celebrity cleaner? What's next?

Oo er. I’ve just noticed some weird and completely irrelevant emojis attached to my last post that I didn’t mean to put there. Gawd knows how that happened.

Oh and now they’ve dIsappeared! What the hell?

PatriciaBateman How on earth can you tell why people are looking up and down a table, much less decide it’s because of cutlery holding?
I find it annoying when someone can’t use cutlery properly but fully expect that most people do yes it correctly. It’s always a surprise when the odd one can’t. It’s not a snobbery thing it just looks wrong.

I just thought of another one - people who use the three letter code for the airport instead of just the name, so like LHR for Heathrow.

Unless you're an air traffic controller, just stop it.

Actually, jargon of any kind. Meds for medication, blue lighted to the hospital, stuff like that.

@ChipShopChaCha

Not defensive. But smoking = untrustworthy? Bonkers. And I'm not a smoker.

When I find out that someone I like is a cat lover and /or owner, I feel crestfallen. It really puts me off them. I am not a cat lover. I trod in cat poo (I have never owned a cat) in my own garden yesterday - whilst wearing my nice trainers - and am still very upset about this...I find many cat owners are very blasé about their pet doing its business in someone else's garden, and I find this totally unreasonable

Same. Exactly. I love dogs, but I find cat owners weirdly blasé about their cat shitting in other people’s spaces yet THEY would go mad if my dog pooped in their garden! Why the double standard? Crap is crap. It doesn’t make it more pleasant or mean it smells of roses because it comes from a cat fgs. It also annoys me that cat owners seem to have a weird misplaced sense of pride that their cat is more independent than a dog, as if they makes them smarter and superior somehow. Lime your dog living you is some kind of over emotional fault. Ok- congrats that your pet doesn’t give a fck about you- happy now? Lol

Sorry that should be like your dog loving you

I went out with a guy who had never got along with his parents.

I noticed he held his fork in his right hand and his knife in his left. When I asked him why he did that, he said he had originally done it to annoy his mother and it became a habit.

The worst thing is that he started this, not as a stroppy child or admit, but a grown man.

The other thing that put me off was that he had Air Fix planes hanging from the ceiling of his bedroom and a collection Boy Scout annuals in his bedroom.

Oh, and he would never let me use his bath because only he was allowed to lose it.

Weird guy.

We should be friends, @Russellbrandshair!

Another thing that puts me off people is when they attach real value to people ( or not!) depending upon what car they drive. For me, a car is a convenience. A way of getting from A to B.
I find it really galling when people think that you have a personality flaw if you drive a car perceived to be "boring". Tbf, people who judge your personality based on your "cool" or "uncool" car are generally not my kind of people!

People who say OMG, LOL, etc in real life.

"Living my best life." Is that even English? And other "inspirational" quotes. No, no, no.

@LuxLuxLux84

Seeing men’s sex faces when they play musical instruments 😂

And @MitziK - your Hannibal Lecter punishment is inspired!!

*Oh also people who post ‘cleaned the kitchen today and organised the cupboards because my OCD won’t let me rest’

That isn’t OCD. My OCD makes me imagine pouring boiling water all over my newborns head, makes me plan the funeral of my children every time they sneeze and convinces me that I am the worlds worst person/mum and everybody knows*

@Tunnocks34 there are different manifestations of OCD though. I agree with you if it’s on the back of “I’m a bit OCD about cleanliness” or similarly flippant ideas about such a distressing disorder.