Unreasonable and petty things that put you off a person

[touchtheceiling]

NC, penis beaker, wailing michaelangelo etc

Just wondered if anyone else can relate to this - I seem to be easily put off people due to very petty things in the scheme of things.

For example, last month I had to pick up a male colleague on the way to a work meeting. I had to go in his house to help carry some things, which meant going through his garden. He had washing on the line, including his pants. I don't know why but this made me lose respect for him and feel a bit embarrassed for seeing a colleague's pants (not sure if I was embarrassed for me or him). He didn't seem to notice though. He's in his late 50s and I really didn't want to see his pants under any circumstances!

Another was a guy I was seeing years ago. On one occasion he tried for a kiss and I wasn't expecting it, and seeing his lips pierced ready for a kiss when I was completely off guard just disgusted me. It put me off and I didn't see him again

Once something like this has happened my view of them is tainted. Is this a known thing or am I just an unreasonable cow?

Oh yes people who talk non-stop about their diets.

Men who say "I love a woman who eats!", but also expects them to be a size 6.

Ha! Yes!

Diet bores, they're usually bullies and think they're the diet police. Then they're the first to queue up in an office when birthday cakes are brought in. They always seem to be mlm reps too

People who ramble on in conversations at work when you've got lots to do and they don't get to a particular point, just a constant stream of consciousness on their part with no interest in your original question or point......

People who can’t read the room!

I was in a room of people with limited means, discussing supermarket shopping. They were discussing budgeting and shopping at Lidl etc. This one woman took this as her cue to show off about shopping at Waitrose and how she just can’t help it she’s a snob blah blah. Like why would you say that?! It was so maddening!

People who can’t read the room!

I agree. This can be applied to many situations and circumstances. Emotional intelligence is everything.

And as I am fond of saying, 'know your audience!'

I've never met a smoker who didn't turn out untrustworthy.
Even those who've given it up are problematic in my experience.

@ChipShopChaCha

What a load of rubbish.

Diet bores, they're usually bullies and think they're the diet police. Then they're the first to queue up in an office when birthday cakes are brought in.

The people who are on diets and need to talk about it out loud and/or ask if they should eat the snacks that were brought in knowing people are going to encourage them and anyone who would say no would be deemed the automatic bad guy.

People who expect you to talk to everyone in the office even if you have no reason to talk to them and it would look unprofessional if you did.

Hangry People

I've never met a smoker who didn't turn out untrustworthy.
Even those who've given it up are problematic in my experience.

Wow, really? I'm about as anti-smoking as they come, but that, in my experience is utter nonsense. I can separate the wheat from the chaff along several lines, but smoking or not smoking doesn't come into it.

People who expect me to ‘police’ their diets for them!! Drives me mad!!
I work in a restaurant (nothing fancy, big chain) and the breakfast is just an average breakfast, no unusual items.
At least twice a day, a customer will come in and announce loudly ‘I’m vegan/vegetarian/gluten free/lactose intolerant/egg intolerant, allergic to fresh air etc ... what can I eat??’ and expect me to find them something (usually ‘off-menu’) that they might fancy to eat😡
It’s your diet decision or restriction - and I can’t believe that, as a grown adult, you don’t know what you can and can’t eat!! Our menus are clear and explain vegan, vegetarian options... and despite what you think, it’s not my fault that I cannot get you exactly what you demand!!
Most customers are lovely, and we can happily find them something that suits their diet ... but some are just..😬

Ooh, another gripe!

People who will gladly spend £80/100 on a night on the lash in town, pub crawl, club etc - but think I’m ‘posh’ for having a night at a nice hotel for (sometimes) way less than they spend in town!
Each to our own, surely?
And I’ve done the nights-in-town bit years ago, I like a nice night away now!

People who do not have a whatsapp picture. Some of my friends don't and it just drives me nuts!

Men who use those pound coin holders, or carry change in a coin purse. Just, no.

Anyone who has ever said to a new starter: “You don’t have to crazy to work here, but it helps!”, or any variation of that saying.

People who pride themselves on using phrases such as ‘calling a spade, a spade’ or ‘telling it like it is’, or anything else which indicates that they have the EQ of lettuce.

Dirty fingernails - 😑

Being male (I jest, I jest)

@motorcyclenumptiness

Clacky shoes, over-reacting to the presence of a wasp

Really made me laugh. Very specific :-)

Badly fitting jeans on men. Turns my stomach and I cant got back from that point onwards

"even if you have no reason to talk to them and it would look unprofessional if you did."

What? Who is it unprofessional to talk to?

People who smell of BO/dirty hair. Have a bloody shower.

The misuse of the reflexive pronoun: ‘Hello, Mrs X, you’re speaking with myself, Chardonnay, today, Mrs X, is that alright for yourself?’ I sometimes think I am the last person in the country who is happy to say ‘me’ and ‘you’.

An obsession with gin, wine and bloody Prosecco. Women are drinking at levels way in excess of the government guidelines and this is a dangerous experiment in our health. We don’t glamourise cigarettes or weed like this.

Referring to a long holiday as ‘Travelling’. Implying it’s a valid choice as opposed to working. Unless you’re going abroad because you need to for your work or study then it’s a holiday. Call it a holiday.

‘Can I get’ when ordering in a restaurant instead of ‘Please may I have’.

People who say ‘thee-ETTA’.

Poor table manners make me seethe. Do what you like when you’re eating on your own but when you’re eating with others, for the love of God use your manners.

@Gwen

Used to work in an open plan office. I had someone who sat behind me so to talk to them I would have to completely turn around and away from my desk. My team lead said I should casually talk to him more during working hours. Both of our jobs involved processing online exams and paperwork as quickly as possible. He often wore headphones since he had to watch videos of people taking tests to make sure they weren’t cheating so he needed to be focused on what he was doing so I rarely spoke to him. Our jobs rarely if ever coincided. I don’t like bothering people unnecessarily at work. Plus, constantly turning around to talk to someone for a casual chat when I’m supposed to be working doesn’t look good in most fields.

Will now add micromanagers to my list. I’ve worked for too many of those.

Is anyone else reading this and ticking off the things that you do?

I'll admit to one: whistling. I love it. I like to whistle and sing. I can also understand why it annoys people.

But I don't understand why so many people are complaining about it. I don't know anyone other than myself who whistles and I can't be everywhere. I reckon people I general stopped whistling and singing about two decades ago (and no - drunken ranting in the karaoke bar doesn't count).

What no one has mentioned is the modern equivalent of whistling: playing music on one's phone in public. That annoys me, especially when it's a male synthesized wheedle.

What a load of rubbish

@Pickupapenguinnnn
@touchtheceiling

Did you notice that this is a thread about petty and unreasonable things that put you off people?!

Why so defensive...?

What a load of rubbish

@Pickupapenguinnnn
@touchtheceiling

Did you notice that this is a thread about petty and unreasonable things that put you off people?!

Why so defensive...?

You sound quite miserable phoenix. Chatting to colleagues is good for you, builds networks, stops the monotony...

Men with huge bellies just gross me out. I marvel at how pregnant some men actually look and it disgusts me.

Men with small hands. Men with longish nails make me want to vomit too.

Men who are super active on FB - just comes across as a bit sad.

Men with that hair style where it’s shaved up the sides but kept long and greasy with gel on the top - ew