Unreasonable and petty things that put you off a person

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NC, penis beaker, wailing michaelangelo etc

Just wondered if anyone else can relate to this - I seem to be easily put off people due to very petty things in the scheme of things.

For example, last month I had to pick up a male colleague on the way to a work meeting. I had to go in his house to help carry some things, which meant going through his garden. He had washing on the line, including his pants. I don't know why but this made me lose respect for him and feel a bit embarrassed for seeing a colleague's pants (not sure if I was embarrassed for me or him). He didn't seem to notice though. He's in his late 50s and I really didn't want to see his pants under any circumstances!

Another was a guy I was seeing years ago. On one occasion he tried for a kiss and I wasn't expecting it, and seeing his lips pierced ready for a kiss when I was completely off guard just disgusted me. It put me off and I didn't see him again

Once something like this has happened my view of them is tainted. Is this a known thing or am I just an unreasonable cow?

Fancy made up job titles - you're a receptionist, not a customer service executive
People who buy SUVs to drive around the suburbs

Someone reading out the menu in a restaurant out loud. As if the others needed their help and were unable to do this for themselves . Check please !

Brainengaged I have only just learned to stop doing this with my children. It drives them absolutely nuts. I forgot that they are not six anymore. They are 26.

It's hard wired into me after years of thinking FFS not pizza again. Seriously? Look at all these great dishes I know you'll love if you just tried, instead of just picking up the menu and homing straight in on the pizza or the hamburger.

Brainengaged I actually do that for my dad when we go out to eat - he never brings the right glasses! Only looks about 40 too so everyone probably thinks I'm being an overbearing wife

@Pickupapenguinnnn

YES TO HAIRY MOLES UUGGHHHHH

Men who are proud to say "I am just a big kid really", ugh, grow up fgs.

And like actors smoking, actors who are supposed to be skilled dancers, skaters or sports people whose whole posture is just wrong whilst walking etc.

Fake tans.

Things that put me off people are whiny voices; people that talk too much; women that put on cutesy voices making them sound like a 3 year old; people who jump on any conversation making it all about them, the know-it-alls that pipe up with "oh I've been there" or I've done that", people who shuffle their feet; people who can't spell; men wearing incredibly tight jeans, tan loafers and tight white tee shirts;

Cavities that are not filled

Are you a dentist? Otherwise how would you know someone needs a filling?

Groups of women in pubs who shriek with laughter every 5 seconds
Manspreading
Straggly neglected looking long hair
False eyelashes

Cracked heels in sandals
Nostril/ ear hair
Shouty people on FB/ MN
People who boast about how much their wine costs and insist on showing you the price of the wine on an app
Lol
Baby scans - I'm not interested
Bibs on babies when they aren't eating
Dressing children in matching outfits or all of their children in the same outfits
Fingernail drumming
People who say "To be honest at" the start of a sentence - they're normally lying
Stupid faddy diets - especially when boring me with the minutiae of their daily food intake and weight loss
MLM friends who try to sign me up via social media
People who don't floss
People who say "My bad"
Girls who keep pulling self consciously on their tight , short lycra skirts

That said, I'm guilty of many of the annoying things on this thread including: loving prosecco and gin AND mentioning that I do on social media etc; wearing baseball caps; botox; not washing my hair every day; saying Euw!; memes on what's app groups; maxi-dress wearing; fake tan; white veneers; dusty house

I do like this thread though... it's made me LOL (My bad)

Really loud people
Posh accents
People who are really snobby/rude about places they've never been
People who eat messy/smelly food in confined spaces
People who dont wash their hands properly
People who act like doing anything vaguely cultural is fancy and being up yourself
People bringing their kids into the office
Fussy eaters
Drama llamas
People who are overly chirpy, esp first thing in the morning

Clearly I'm v intolerant

I dislike men who employ pathetic power play moves or who use office jargon. For example: going in to shake hands with a high hand, palm down, so the other person has to be the submissive who goes under, palm up

@EugenesAxe Ooh, I'd be so tempted to gently lift it to my mouth and give it a kiss (if I didn't know that it had probably been down his trousers). Or patronisingly pat the top of it...

I forgot one:
People who go on about how great London is like it's the centre of the universe and how everywhere else is boring/shit.
Nothing against London but I hate this attitude.

I don't really know why but I've always been turned off by slicked-back hair on a man. The moment I see it I don't want to be anywhere near him, and he could be lovely in every other aspect! I also feel the same about women with thick black obviously drawn-on eyebrows.

Nobody will like my hair after lock down!

"I dislike men who employ pathetic power play moves or who use office jargon. For example: going in to shake hands with a high hand, palm down, so the other person has to be the submissive who goes under, palm up"

I always feel rather sorry for men like that, it must be crushing to live every human interaction like it's some kind of game that must be won. They're twats but I still feel bad for them.

I have less sympathy for men who do the negging thing. I have been out of the game for a long time but last time I went out, some arsehole tried this on me and I was just so confused until my younger friend explained that he was trying to shag me by being horrible to me. He kept saying stuff like "you'd be prettier if you had longer hair" and I wasn't even annoyed, just confused like why are you telling me this? It was very odd. He gave up quite quickly but how awful that men are so desperate that they do this.

Multiple kisses at the end of everything...

*@PatriciaBateman no, they really don’t. It just makes no sense and it makes you sound a bit paranoid. *

Yes, they really do. Please stop (wrongly) psycho-analysing me and just accept that your observations of life are not all-seeing.

I first became aware of this phenomena after my Gran gleefully brought up in conversation that she does this at any public meal so she can rule in/out people "worth associating with".

I thought it was the weirdest thing I'd ever heard, but after that I couldn't help but noticing her do exactly that as people picked up cutlery - casting her eyes up and down, and settling with a slightly smug expression on the ones doing it "wrong".

After that, I couldn't help but notice other people doing it too. And a significant minority percentage do.

It's nothing to do with any response toward me or my own "insecurity", it's people judging other people on this one basis that I dislike.

Please stop trying to tell me that this doesn't happen because you haven't seen it, and don't know about it. I have, and do.

Men who say "I love a woman who eats!", but also expects them to be a size 6.

Overly made up women
Coiffured men
Using the word entitled
People who don’t save even though they could .
People who talk about how expensive their house is ( trying to make others jealous) but failing to mention it’s a tiny two bed house in some desirable location . A mediocre house is a mediocre house even in London .
People who have traveled extensively and drive expensive cars and are now whining about not having any savings . No shit Sherlock !

On MN anyone who uses the phrase "genuine question" (it never is) or "I don't see the issue" (which means "I'm being deliberately obtuse or spectacularly stupid or am just devoid of any capacity for empathy").

Scarves on men.

Adults who use the word 'tummy' to refer to their stomach.

@SerenDippitty

For the same reason you don’t need to have a scale to know if you are overweight or not .

No not a dentist , but when teeth have have large greys marks on them and it’s bit of a clue somethings not right .