Unreasonable and petty things that put you off a person

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NC, penis beaker, wailing michaelangelo etc

Just wondered if anyone else can relate to this - I seem to be easily put off people due to very petty things in the scheme of things.

For example, last month I had to pick up a male colleague on the way to a work meeting. I had to go in his house to help carry some things, which meant going through his garden. He had washing on the line, including his pants. I don't know why but this made me lose respect for him and feel a bit embarrassed for seeing a colleague's pants (not sure if I was embarrassed for me or him). He didn't seem to notice though. He's in his late 50s and I really didn't want to see his pants under any circumstances!

Another was a guy I was seeing years ago. On one occasion he tried for a kiss and I wasn't expecting it, and seeing his lips pierced ready for a kiss when I was completely off guard just disgusted me. It put me off and I didn't see him again

Once something like this has happened my view of them is tainted. Is this a known thing or am I just an unreasonable cow?

@cms1972

That’s the funniest internet dating story I’ve ever read. 😂😂😂
I had to stop when I met a man who spoke “baby talk” to his dog. “Daddy’s widdle baby, ooh my widdle puppy dawg, are you my baby???”
Just too grim for me.

Motorbikes, spitting and people who say nomnomnom

@TheReluctantCountess I was on a first date with someone years ago and it was all going well. We were both about 17 and didn’t drive. When we were ready to leave the restaurant he said shall I call Mummy to come and pick us up - I knew then that was our first and final date!

The colour red, especially if paired with black.

The colour red, especially if paired with black

A few years back back and red was the uniform du nos jours of the later-middle-aged, middle-class woman in Melbourne (think NGV/Recital Centre/Hamer Hall) and as a later-middle-aged woman middle-class woman I avoided it as it shouted " I'm edgy, me."

I'm such a snob.

People who have no opinion or too much of it .
Spider eyebrows , mono brows, nose hair , ear hair
Nose pickers , dry skin and lips
Missing teeth ( I’m ok if you are elderly though)
Cavities that are not filled
Dandruff
Toe nail issues
People who have sofas in front gardens or sit on their front doorway usually holding a can
Men who wear belts with jeans
People who eat smashed avocado on sourdough bread
People who have pseudo ‘intolerances’
People who have kids with names of places , and usually put a bow around their kids heads to make them look cute .

Could go on forever but I’m now starting to annoy myself !

And people who lower their head to smell food at dinner time . Stop it ! You are not Rover the dog .

@echt I can picture that easily, I’m in Sydney but I know exactly what you mean... a uniform of sorts

Men with short arms

@PatriciaBateman no, they really don’t. It just makes no sense and it makes you sound a bit paranoid.

Clearly you or one of your children can’t manage cutlery properly and this has made you very sensitive and defensive about it, which is understandable. Perhaps you see people looking at one another and your defensiveness goes into overdrive and you perceive that this is what’s a happening. But trust me, it’s not. Not unless they’ve already noticed and are looking out of concern or bewilderment.

The colour red, especially if paired with black.

Me too. I loathe it. We’ve been looking at houses online recently. The number of people who have pillar box red kitchen units or red kitchen tiles is astounding. No matter how perfect the house is, no matter how new or expensive the kitchen, it’s a big fat no from me. Puts me right off.

echt and Downunder
Yes to the black and red 'uniform' - usually in the form of a tunic sold in ladies clothes stores frequented by women my mothers age.

Things I find irritating:
-Loud-people (looking at you loud man on the train every morning)
-Movies based on an event/person's life but they always get something wrong (usually a fact it is very easy to check). I just watch documentaries now.
-Any adult who refers to themselves as 'Mummy.' Particurlarly on FB in the description box - ie. 'Mummy'.' Lover of Gin etcetc.'
-Any adult who calls their parents Mummy and Daddy esp on FB. My cousin who's in her 30's and has DC of her own does this: 'Thank you Mummy and Daddy for tea today' drives me nuts.

• People who can't drive and think its funny (Oh silly me I never bothered learning to drive hoho) and also expect others to constantly chaffeur them round.

-Rude people who call themselves 'blunt' and 'outspoken' when they're just plain rude. Will probably think of more . . .

Men who wear three quarter length trousers

I hate it when actors have to smoke in a scene and you can tell they don’t usually smoke. Non smokers have very different body language when a cigarette is put in their hand and when asked to actually smoke just can’t pull it off convincingly.

It really bothers me. I think either find an actor who smokes and is believable or cut it from the scene if it’s not absolutely necessary.

echt and Downunder.Yes to the black and red 'uniform' - usually in the form of a tunic sold in ladies clothes stores frequented by women my mothers age

Though in defence of bold colours, it is preferable to beige and pale blue. It's just the "uniform" aspect of it. Another way of not thinking, though to be fair I wouldn't not speak to someone for their fashion choice.

Back to the thread:

"Excuse me" as said by Australians. Aussies are so very courteous but they do this all the time, so I get that they don't mean to be rude, it's my being English. But the last time I looked, "excuse me" was an order, not a request. Every time I have take deep breath and internally say: Excuse me, please you rude git"

brainengaged I agree people who can’t decide or won’t express an opinion

"Excuse me" as said by Australians. Aussies are so very courteous but they do this all the time, so I get that they don't mean to be rude, it's my being English. But the last time I looked, "excuse me" was an order, not a request. Every time I have take deep breath and internally say: Excuse me, please you rude git""

I don't get it. Is excuse me rude now somehow? I have never heard of this.

People who throw food out if it's a day past the use by date. Use your eyes nose and brain to tell if it's okay to eat. You moron.

Things that annoy me:
-Bizarre and made up kids names (especially hyphenated first names) - in my kids classes there are a Jadie-Mai, Arlie-Jay and Harvey-Jay.
-Women who obsess about make up and grooming. I get it's a hobby but it irrationally annoys me.
-Dog owners. Especially the ones that can't accept that other people don't like dogs.
-Tacky monochrome interior decoration incl twigs, feature walls, words as decoration.
-Social media showing off - especially gushing over ones partner. All the people doing family lockdown wholesome activities like salt dough hand prints.

Supermumutum
Are Airlie-Jay and Harvey-Jay twins?

No. Different families. I think Harvey-Jay might actually be "Harvey J surname" with the letter J as his middle name.

People who use "my anxiety" as a hook to hang their whole life on who don't actually have a genuine mental illness. Yes we are all anxious a lot especially with coronavirus love but don't bang on about it 24/7.

I don't get it. Is excuse me rude now somehow? I have never heard of this

"Excuse me" is an instruction, it is the imperative mode.

I made it plain that I don't think Aussies are being rude when they say it, it is my English upbringing that makes it so to me.

"Excuse me please", while not expecting a refusal, asks permission. It is more obviously polite.

@echt that's very nit picky, I would never think of excuse me as an instruction at all. It is a standard phrase, hardly an imperative, though it might use that form.

It's hardly "move" or "get fucked", is it?

Clacky shoes, over-reacting to the presence of a wasp