Unreasonable and petty things that put you off a person

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NC, penis beaker, wailing michaelangelo etc

Just wondered if anyone else can relate to this - I seem to be easily put off people due to very petty things in the scheme of things.

For example, last month I had to pick up a male colleague on the way to a work meeting. I had to go in his house to help carry some things, which meant going through his garden. He had washing on the line, including his pants. I don't know why but this made me lose respect for him and feel a bit embarrassed for seeing a colleague's pants (not sure if I was embarrassed for me or him). He didn't seem to notice though. He's in his late 50s and I really didn't want to see his pants under any circumstances!

Another was a guy I was seeing years ago. On one occasion he tried for a kiss and I wasn't expecting it, and seeing his lips pierced ready for a kiss when I was completely off guard just disgusted me. It put me off and I didn't see him again

Once something like this has happened my view of them is tainted. Is this a known thing or am I just an unreasonable cow?

People who go on holiday to Dubai or Vegas.
Going to a country where you can live a better ( fantasy) standard of living that you actually can’t afford because many of the servants are practically slaves irks me.
Vegas because of similar issues, Casinos that provide personal services and wait on people, treat them like kings, give them lots of freebies but it’s all tacky and seedy irl and the staff rely on grovelling for tips.
Cruises also, the Glamour is a thin sheen over grotty conditions behind the scenes and the culture is low brow and tacky.

@loveislovely Yes, you have hit the nail on the head. It's the 'look at me aren't I quirky' me' mentality. That is the perfect way to describe it!

People who take their kids out of school in term-time for a holiday, and expect the teacher to spend time after school upon their return covering the work which was missed.

I don't think this is unreasonable but people who don't care that they have grimy things, i.e pushchairs, bags, coats, etc

Clothes that are grimy
You can tell old and clean clothes, you can also tell grimy uncared for items.
It not about style or fashion or being poor, it's about not caring at all for your things.

Similarly unwashed/unwiped faces on children.

People who virtue signal that they are too busy to be clean. It's fine to want to do other things and have lots of hobbies but that's just plain nasty to revel in being dirty. Also people who look down on those who clean. It has no link to intelligence so get off your high horse, its no difference to others looking down on you because you live in filth, I repeat, it has nothing to do with intelligence. Either way it is just a personality trait or choice.

But I actually don't think any of my peeves are unreasonable.

@ChandlerIsTheBestFriend This is how my stalker started out with me! It made me cringe before but after he started pulling up in his car next to me it and cat calling as he drove by.... and it only escalated from there.

Thank GOD for lockdown.

This is how my stalker started out with me! It made me cringe before but after he started pulling up in his car next to me it and cat calling as he drove by.... and it only escalated from there.

Thank GOD for lockdown.

Urgh!! I hope he’s forgotten about you by the time it’s over! If not- phone the police!!

Irrational dislike:

Anyone who says “poorly”

Anyone who talks about “the girls” who are actually grown women.

Everything single my ex husband does or says.

When you go to someone’s house and they don’t offer you tea or coffee because they don’t drink it, rude.

People who tut and sigh about hoarders (or those they perceive to be hoarders) and maintain that "possessions don't love you back" with a little head-tilt, yet jealously guard their own cream carpets and arrangements of sofa cushions.

People who are far too bothered about how others hold cutlery. As long as they eat without excess noise or scooting food across the table I'm not too bothered.

People who, in general, loudly pride themselves on their good manners, yet are judgemental and condescending and make others feel uncomfortable, which is not the aim of manners. But they send thankyou notes so they are Better Than You.

Other people who stand about and gossip or do their hair in the Ladies' when I'm having an IBS issue and need to go to the toilet in peace. if you're going to do that, at least switch the hand dryer on as a courtesy.

"When you go to someone’s house and they don’t offer you tea or coffee because they don’t drink it, rude"

My parents in law never offer me anything and what's more they never drink anything apart from a small cup of coffee after lunch and dinner. I don't know how they're not massively dehydrated all the time.

I always go to get myself water but they refuse to let me drink the tap water (it didn't used to be safe in their country, perfectly fine now) and give me luke warm bottled water instead.

They're great but I still get annoyed that they never ask if I want a drink.

@TheSmallClangerWhistlesAgain People who care about shit like thank you notes get my goat.

Who fucking cares, if the person said thank you already, what's the issue. My mum asked me to write one to my brother recently! Writing thank you notes to each other as if etiquette matters when you've grown up beating the shite out of each other every night.

Men (dating) who ask if you want them to pay for your taxi home or whatever instead of just saying they'll pay for it...

People that sneeze at a billion decibels in public.

Grown ups, in fact any age, that say "go wee" or "go toilet"

People who refer to themselves as "warrior mamas".

I don't know why or when it started but I have instant ick seeing a man in a V neck t-shirt or a V neck jumper - with no shirt underneath.

People who say they don’t care if other people like them or not
That they don’t like most people, just a small percentage
That they hate when people strive to be liked
That any bad feeling towards them is just jealousy

Those people are missing about fifteen important points about how people interact around each other and need to get to fuck.

I think I'm not very nice at all because people in general irritate me, except a chosen few

And people's who's feet stink.

Removing their shoes and saying "sorry my feet stink" well keep your fucking shoes on then and get some treatment

People who can’t spell, use grammar or language in general - sorry if you have a condition that affects this.
People who go on holiday to Las Vegas.
People who go on holiday to Dubai.
People who go on holiday to Australia.
People who claim a deep, lasting kinship with a place because they went there once or twice.
People who smell.
People who just won’t fuck off.
People who talk about inane shit all the time.
People who are boring.
Men who perpetuate the stereotype of the patriarchy.
Women who enable them.
People who bray on and on ad nauseam about their love of craft beer/gin/prosecco/coffee/whatever else in at present.
People who know nothing.
People who use ad hominem responses.
Tories/right wing leaning people.

Angus Are you sure?

The ‘#bekind’ brigade.
Using ‘of’ instead of ‘have’.
‘Hun’ ‘babes’ ‘lovely’ ‘girlies’.
People with a strong and often social media influenced opinion about a country, having never been to or lived in that country before.
Men using the blushing smile emoji...it really makes me want to throw up.

Dontevenstart ha! You managed to sum up my thoughts better than I could ever manage.

People with a strong and often social media influenced opinion about a country, having never been to or lived in that country before.

This. Even more so when you correct them and have been and lived in said country and they still rather believe strangers like them than you.

@GETTINGLIKEMYMOTHER
I totally agree!
I just can’t warm to people who dislike dogs.

the pronunciation of garage, rhyming with carriage is British. Garage with a longer sounding ah on the second syllable is American

Yes, but the US pronounciation has the stress on the second syllable. The (southern) English pronounciation has a long second syllable, but the stress is still on the first syllable.