Unreasonable and petty things that put you off a person

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NC, penis beaker, wailing michaelangelo etc

Just wondered if anyone else can relate to this - I seem to be easily put off people due to very petty things in the scheme of things.

For example, last month I had to pick up a male colleague on the way to a work meeting. I had to go in his house to help carry some things, which meant going through his garden. He had washing on the line, including his pants. I don't know why but this made me lose respect for him and feel a bit embarrassed for seeing a colleague's pants (not sure if I was embarrassed for me or him). He didn't seem to notice though. He's in his late 50s and I really didn't want to see his pants under any circumstances!

Another was a guy I was seeing years ago. On one occasion he tried for a kiss and I wasn't expecting it, and seeing his lips pierced ready for a kiss when I was completely off guard just disgusted me. It put me off and I didn't see him again

Once something like this has happened my view of them is tainted. Is this a known thing or am I just an unreasonable cow?

@LakieLady
"Pronouncing "garage" to rhyme with "carriage". The second syllable has a long A, like "ah". Alistair Appleton on escape to the country does this and he needs a slap."

It depends on which part of the country you come from as to how it is pronounced. Don't be a dick.

People who live in London and constantly whine that they will never be able to afford a property. There are jobs and houses elsewhere you know. (At least there were before CV, who knows now).

My friend tried to set me up with her colleague once when I was single years ago. She didn’t let me know she had tried to set me up, she just casually asked me to come along to a pub quiz with her and a couple of colleagues then afterwards kept asking me what I thought of him so I clicked.

Anyway, he wore a studded belt, had the collar on his shirt turned upwards , was balding but had brushed his hair over to try and cover it up and he wore a leather jacket and trainers teenagers would wear despite being in his late thirties. He also kept referring to his daughter as ‘P’ so I had to ask my friend afterwards whether is DD was actually called Pea. Transpired she was called Prada and he was so embarrassed about it, he only ever called her P (apparently his ex wife insisted on the name) .

He was pretty icky right from the word go and I didn’t even realise she wanted me to date him!

People that love drama and spread it with no thought if it’s true or thought to the person/people involved or gossip knowing they are no better or have behaved just as bad if not worse.

Happy to judge a stranger or an acquaintance they barely know for something minor when they themselves in the same/similar situation do/ did much worse.

People who are religious but do things that are obviously against their religion but then when pointed out tell you, you wouldn’t understand or don’t get it 🙄.

I am, shall we say, less than keen on people who squeal with excitement on seeing a coworker they have not seen in a day or so and call most of the coworkers “babyboy” and “babygirl” (coworkers all being actual adults and not infants and most being at least 40).

I’m just trying to imagine the reaction to this at my workplace and boggling. Why would anyone call an adult ‘babyboy’ or ‘babygirl’?

Mine is people who wear polo shirts with the top button done up. It looks stupid on kids, let alone adults.

People who let saliva gather at the corners of their mouth when they talk. Makes me feel physically sick and I can't look at them.

Men with long nails

People who use the wrong words when trying to sound clever.

Adults posting endless selfies and stop with the snapchat filters, you’re not 12! Mums who endlessly bang on about their job being ‘Yummy mummy’. Euw.

Pick ‘n’ mix religion, eg it’s all fine to eat bacon but never attend Synagogue but take all the holy days off or claim to be strongly Catholic yet bang on about being on the coil. Personal choice, yes, but stop claiming all the ‘privileges’ of the religion while not actually following the basics.

People who use their education almost like a weapon. Someone I’d just met started going on about having read the original Ancient Greek version of something. She doesn’t speak Ancient Greek bar a few phrases common to her profession, she just likes to wave round her alleged intelligence then judges others on their intelligence rather than lovely personality etc. I’ve recently blocked her because she is so negative about anyone ‘beneath’ her ie everyone! Horrible person.

Men and women that say they ‘let’ their partners do something, it’s not up to you to ‘let’ anyone do anything except if it’s your child or yourself.

Women that can’t handle other attractive women around them so have to put them down to make themselves feel better, and lots of women do this in front of men especially and it annoys the hell out of me.

Chavvy names for babies and pets.

People that buy certain dog breeds just cause they are ‘in’

I'd like to add 'gotten' whether written or spoken.
Posts which start NC penis beaker etc etc, it means nothing.
Agree with so many on here and very few are unreasonable.

Calling someone gay as an insult is a hate incident.
Veganism is a protected characteristic in the workplace now. Love the the thread but not this sort of thing in it

People who sign off a text or email with just a letter for their name, e.g 'Take care of yourself. T.'

Every person I've known to do this has been incredibly self-important.

CakeHoleinRoof veganism isn't a protected characteristic, ethical veganism which permeates every area of life on the same level as a deeply held religious belief is, but not deciding to eat a vegan diet while still wearing leather or buying cheese for your partner/ yogurt for your children etc. Most veganism still isn't covered by equality legislation, it has to constitute a deeply held philosophical belief.

People who use the word gay as an insult.

I instantly go off anyone who tells me they don’t like dogs.
(Though to me that’s not unreasonable.).

Parents who don't wipe their child's snotty noses.
Parents who let their children stand on seats that other people have to sit on.
Parents who let their children go up a slide.

Anyone who uses the word "hubbalub" to describe their Husband needs to be forcibly removed from society.

Adults who don’t drink tea or coffee.

People who get the grammar wrong for off and of. To and Too etc.
E.g." I should of washed my car. "
Makes me pull a Hyacinth Bucket face.

Working from home and in the work hangouts a colleague on a higher grade always types 'Signing Of' Why??! Makes me want to headbutt the keyboard.

Women with ridiculously pumped up rubber doll lips.

Those botox shops that have suddenly started springing up that do 'Aesthetics' and are usually called The Doll' s House or something very twee.

Women that put 'works as full time mummy' on Facebook and people that regularly vague book for attention. If something's pissed you off dont leave everyone guessing and say " I'll inbox you." Why bother posting at all?

@ChicChicChicChiclana yes I take a very dim view of people who watch and enjoy Britain’s Got Talent. Also Saturday Night Takeway, dreadful.

@LuluJakey1 DD once had an orange teacher who was partial to a bit of leopard print 😷 I share your dislike of these and the two of them on the one woman just about pushed me over the edge every time I had to look at her 😂

Agree with pp on “gotten”. Uggh
Also “folks” , and “guys”. Any Americanisms at all annoy me, unless the person is an actual American.
Someone saying they are “non-binary”. We are all non bloody binary. You are not special. Grow up.
Tie dye. Harem trousers.
Men in sleeveless tops.
Men who walk around topless in Summer, as though auditioning for Spartacus.
Deck shoes (the leather sort) on men.
People who yank their dog’s leads whenever the dog wants to sniff something, or say hello to another dog.
The type of Left wingers who think that by being left wing, everything they say or do is virtuous ( I am looking at you, Owen Jones) .
Baseball caps.
Extremely tidy gardens.
Ugly plastic garden furniture, like those huge plastic garden sofas made to look like rattan.
People who kill spiders.
Grown adults using those kitten ears and noses on their profile pic on Twitter.
People who lie about colouring their hair (why lie? We have eyes).
Botox. Maybe there are people who have this done so subtly that it doesn’t alter a face, but generally it just makes people look a bit weird.
Roses that have no scent -why?
Vile air fresheners. Instant nausea and/or migraine.
Kitchens that look like the coroner is about to arrive and pull a body out from one of the cupboards.

I’m very live and let live. But I am guaranteed to be put off someone for life if they are rude to waiters or waitresses, they’re tight, or they’re bitchy.

People who think that objecting to homophobia, domestic abuse, dangerous drivers or religious hypocrisy makes them unreasonable or irrational.

Kids with dirty faces, eg snot that hasn't been wiped or chocolate etc round their mouths

People who say "I done/I seen", "it is what it is" and "rock up".

Seeing a PP mention people signing emails with a single initial reminds me of a colleague I used to have who was called Kate and always signed herself as K8, even in birthday cards etc. That used to annoy the life out of me!

Apologies, it's unreasonable or petty. Usually these threads call for irrational peeves. They never last more than half a page before they fill up with very rational and unpetty peeves.