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Unreasonable and petty things that put you off a person

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touchtheceiling · 08/04/2020 21:41

NC, penis beaker, wailing michaelangelo etc

Just wondered if anyone else can relate to this - I seem to be easily put off people due to very petty things in the scheme of things.

For example, last month I had to pick up a male colleague on the way to a work meeting. I had to go in his house to help carry some things, which meant going through his garden. He had washing on the line, including his pants. I don't know why but this made me lose respect for him and feel a bit embarrassed for seeing a colleague's pants (not sure if I was embarrassed for me or him). He didn't seem to notice though. He's in his late 50s and I really didn't want to see his pants under any circumstances!

Another was a guy I was seeing years ago. On one occasion he tried for a kiss and I wasn't expecting it, and seeing his lips pierced ready for a kiss when I was completely off guard just disgusted me. It put me off and I didn't see him again Confused

Once something like this has happened my view of them is tainted. Is this a known thing or am I just an unreasonable cow?

OP posts:
Ritascornershop · 09/04/2020 14:31

@EmpressLangClegInChair I am not sure why she calls everyone “babyboy” & “babygirl”, other than that she is clearly insane. Is she forgetting their names? Thinks it makes her adorable? Thinks it substitutes for an interesting personality? Thinks it reinforces her idea of being a “real mama”? I’m not sure, but I do know I can’t take another year of her.

Fleamaker123 · 09/04/2020 14:39

Poor dental hygiene... People who obviously don't brush their teeth and then as they're talking you can see the white sludge accumulating in the corners of their mouth.

Men with big bottoms.. just wrong.

People who drink gin or prosecco, just because it's the latest trend, it tastes disgusting.

Snobs of any kind. Just awful. I once worked with someone who openly admitted he wouldn't speak to/socialise with anyone who didn't have a degree. Unbelievable.

Clariana · 09/04/2020 14:56

Poor grammar, poor manners, poor table manners.

MitziK · 09/04/2020 15:08

People who claim that living in a fucking midden is part of them being upper class in reduced circumstances. No, mother, it's you being a skanky hoarder - your mother's home was immaculate. And she was upper middle class technically, not landed gentry when she ran off with the stable boy.

Anybody who says they don't like animals/wants all innocent bugs, beasties and wildlife exterminated/insists that the future presence of a baby means that the pets must be got rid of because 'they'll be jealous/smother the baby/are unhygienic'.

Being in favour of Foxhunting. You're a prick. If it were really for pest control, you're a dick because it's the most unnecessarily expensive method in the universe to have twenty horses, blokes on ATVs, a pack of hounds and half the local police force in your pocket stampeding across the countryside - a shotgun does the job far quicker, cleaner and effectively.

Anybody who refuses to stay with an animal when it's being euthanised because they 'can't take it'. It's your responsibility. It's not supposed to be a fun fucking day out. Or worse, refuses to go to the vet/call them because they might say it needs to be put to sleep and they don't want to make that decision. Stop fucking neglecting your sick/injured animal and do what's right for them, not for you.

People who use the phrase 'Ewww, no, stick with what you know'. That means a life bereft of new experiences, whether it's eating a vegetable, going on holiday somewhere other than the rainy caravan park place they went thirty years ago, allowing a child to go to university or an infinite number of other possibilities.

Fluffybutter · 09/04/2020 15:12

Attention seeking -
selfies, 100 pics of their kids, meals and every time they leave the house .
Statuses about everything thats happened that day ,everyday.
Stealth boasting
“Share this post” type people .

NellyTimes · 09/04/2020 15:19

Oh god, so many of the above and so many more.

People on facebook selling pages who say "needs gone today" as if that's everybody else's responsibility.
Skinny jeans with flip flops.
People who leave their coats on in cars/restaurants/cafes/pubs/waiting rooms, just anywhere really. I can't stand to see people eating whilst wearing a coat.
"If you know, you know."
PMSL - Myself is not two words, so if you really must use this it should be PML.
People who use 😂 and 🙈 and seem to think that somehow validates their argument and they've won. Cunts.
In fact anyone who uses that crying laughing emoji is a cunt.
People who bang on about summer being here just because it's over 16° in the middle of March.
Cold shoulder tops.
Summer clothes. All frills and gaudy colours.
Music snobs.

TheReluctantCountess · 09/04/2020 15:20

A very current one is people on social media boasting about how they’ve visited a relative, but it’s ok because they sat on the other side of the room.

turnandfacethenamechange · 09/04/2020 15:21

People that don't buy their round. There's an otherwise really nice girl at work but EVERYONE has noticed/comments on how she never, ever buys her round at work drinks. Fekkin cheeky.

Greyeye · 09/04/2020 15:29

The woman behind me in the queue for Lidl - singing to herself. Gave me the rage.

Also hate grown adults who try to appropriate outdated teen slang - I've got a friend who is always "fangirling", talks about "the fam" and everything is "totes amazeballs".

People with overpowering scent.

Greyeye · 09/04/2020 15:31

Oh, and the annoying woman who asked me to keep her place in the Lidl queue whilst she browsed the plant section. Was gone ages and didn't even thank me. Cunt.

So, general rudeness brings to passive aggressive fury.

Fuckyoumenopause · 09/04/2020 15:32

People that decide to ring during a text exchange. "Oh I started typing a reply but thought it was easier to just call"

No. I'm sat watching TV with a face mask on stuffing myself with chocolate. Fuck off!

The worst thing is, you can't not answer your phone because the perpetrator knows that your phone is pretty much in your hand!

MsTSwift · 09/04/2020 15:36

Turn we have similar with hosting book club. One friend never hosts which is bad enough but even worse turns up empty handed! Really puts me off a person.

Know for a fact she is loaded and her house is fine before anyone chips in with woe is me reasons to never host.

MsTSwift · 09/04/2020 15:41

Also if someone didn’t tip after a meal out. Tight and mannerless

crispysausagerolls · 09/04/2020 15:46
  1. shoes with buckles on them - YOU ARE NOT A FUCKING PIRATE
  2. people saying “mum” or “dad”. Ugh.
  3. when people refill a bottle of something flavoured eg orange juice or coke, with WATER. Fucking monsters. MONSTERS!!!!!!!
crispysausagerolls · 09/04/2020 15:47

No. I'm sat watching TV with a face mask on stuffing myself with chocolate. Fuck off

Hahahahaha! The amount of times I’ve rejected said call and texted “can’t talk getting baby to sleep” and then proceeded to continue stuffing my face 😂🤷🏻‍♀️

didyoueverdancewiththedevil · 09/04/2020 15:52
  1. People who laugh after everything they say. Why would you do that? It might be a nervous thing but by god it's annoying.
  1. Anyone who starts a sentence with "let me explain". No, you're alright thanks, I don't have the IQ of a stick of broccoli and I can work things out for myself or, if I don't know something, I can research it myself without being patronised. To be fair it is usually men who say this.
  1. People who go on and on and on about themselves. They don't seem to have any self awareness and never seem to notice that your eyes have glazed over or that you are, in fact, walking away from them and they are still waffling on. Conversations require both talking but more importantly, listening. Some people cannot seem to manage the second one of these.
  1. Men who fart loudly and think it's funny.
  1. And a topical one. People in supermarkets who stand in the middle of the aisle and talk on their mobile phones, so you can't maintain distance, and then tut at you when you have to walk around them.
Ponoka7 · 09/04/2020 15:57

@wheetos
*Any middle aged woman on Facebook with photos of her children, shared posts or tags."

So when we reach a certain age, we've got to use FB in a certain way and delete what we once had on there?

" Men with big bums" So all black men, with
a bum larger than the average white man, wouldn't be someone who you could associate with?

A lot of these petty grips makes the person a bigot.

NellyTimes · 09/04/2020 15:58

dancewiththedevil I will add to that the people who leave their trolley on one side of the aisle and then go to look at something on the other side, meaning you have to wait for them to finish because you can no longer squeeze in between.

Wearywithteens · 09/04/2020 16:02

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Cattenberg · 09/04/2020 16:07

When a friend was dating her now-husband, he sent her a bunch of flowers with a card saying “YOUR WORTH WAITING FOR”. It was a lovely gesture and I know that plenty of clever people aren’t great at spelling (including my Dad).

But it would have put me off.

Wearywithteens · 09/04/2020 16:08

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Cam77 · 09/04/2020 16:11

The mandatory posh British person in every American film/series. Apparently everyone in Britain speaks like a Downton Abbey character. (although its true that posh people are hugely overrepresented in terms of emerging acting talent).

TheReluctantCountess · 09/04/2020 16:12

Those headbands that look like a tied headscarf. They really annoy me.

Helocariad · 09/04/2020 16:13

A lot of the above.
Also, using 'of' instead if 'have', as in 'I should of done'. Sets my teeth on edge.

Taswama · 09/04/2020 16:15

People who say- I’m going to level with you - looking at you PM!

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