Do you go to bed at the same time?

[Gre8scott]

Just that do you in a couple go to bed at the same time?

Usually. We tend to chill on the sofa and watch something on TV after dealing with DC and tidying the kitchen, then we'll head up. I'm always a 'fall asleep when your head hits the pillow' type of person. He needs to wind down a bit more so will often watch something on his phone with headphones in.

Absolutely not !! I love chilling out in bed, reading, getting comfy .... DH goes to bed at 1 -2 am almost every night, gets in and goes to sleep... I would expire from sleep deprivation if I got that little.
I can spend ages faffing about and reading and watching Instagram, but he’s in and asleep in 10 minutes ....

We work together and spend most evenings together, and have an active physical relationship, but I have never been able to go to sleep at the same time as a boyfriend ( and now DH) it’s “my” space time .... secretly I think if it as my bed not ours ....

Nope. It is very rare. I will normally go to bed to read before him and he comes to bed an hour and a half later by which time I am asleep.

No, DH is a night owl and generally functions on less sleep than I do. I think he also really values that extra couple of hours to himself between 10pm-midnight.

It's not 100% ideal, especially when he disturbs me coming to bed, but it's not so bad.

No, almost never. Well, we don't even share the same bed at the moment as I'm co-sleeping with DD when she wakes up about 10ish, plus he needs far less sleep than I do anyway!

I've always gone to bed early to read etc prior to DD and he would come in later. Sometimes we would lie in bed and watch TV together and then he would just play on his tablet etc once I fell asleep. But he doesn't sleep till about 1am generally and I'm asleep way before then!

About 1.30am for me including on school/work days, and 2.30/3am for him.

If I’m asleep guaranteed he’ll wake me (squeaky floorboards and I’m a light sleeper anyway).

I’ve had appalling sleep deprivation since I started living with someone again.

Yes, now we are in lockdown. When DH was able to work he had to get up very early (5am) so we compromised by going at 10.30 (half an hour too early for me, half an hour too late for me) but on Fridays I went out to my singing group and would take ages to wind down so went later.

Yes every night.

Very rarely now. Before kids about 50% of the time but now maybe once a month maximum. I generally sleep 11pm to 6am unless I’ve been up with the kids in the night. A bone of contention is that he never helps with the children but that’s a whole other thread.

All depends on what's on the telly.

Especially since I'm on mat leave at the moment and can catch up on stuff during the day, he will stay up to watch something he's recorded in the week.

At weekends we are more likely to go to bed at the same time.

Generally yes when DH is here we go to bed at the same time. I'm a bit like a child and need to be told to go to bed. He works away usually and then I go to bed really late which is bad for me.
One of the benefits of the current restrictions is that I'm getting loads of sleep. I look better and haven't had a headache for weeks.

Hardly ever but like some pps we don't sleep in the same bed. He's a noisy sleeper and I have trouble dropping off listening to him. Since sleeping separately we've both had much more restful sleep. I highly recommend - my insomnia has got much better. I usually go to bed later than him as I value the quiet hour spent pottering and tidying the kitchen while listening to the radio at low volume.

It depends if I've already had my bath or shower earlier in the evening, if I have then we do, if not, DH will go while I'm in the bath or shower and then I go straight to bed from there. He's usually still awake.

DH and I always go to bed at the same time.

I’d rather not. Like to be sound off before dh comes up, because he arsesabout and I can’t get to sleep.

This is weird. So many of you go to bed at different times 😮

We do occasionally but not every night, do you not mind?

Nope!

We do occasionally but not every night, do you not mind?

I don't know what there is to mind? He's him and I'm me and we're tired at different times. I think it's odd that spouses go to bed at the same time. I can't imagine why anyone would feel they had to.
How does it even work? Does one say "I'm going to bed" and the other always, without fail, says "I'll come as well, this second"

Or does one say "I'm tired shall we go to bed" and the other one just does because. . ., just because? What if you wanted to do something else for an hour or so?

( I can imagine it if you're both fancying having sex, but I don't imagine that happens every night, for most people)

Yes unfortunately. I'd love to have half an hour just to chill and read in bed. I always instigate going to bed then DP trots up with me. He turns his light off so then I feel guilty if I want to read!

Yes always! It was a deal between us both we go to bed at the same time have a cuddle and watch tv. Life can be very busy so this is the time we give to each other for affection cuddles etc.

Only if he's on a promise! I usually go first.

No. I normally go up first.

No never ...I always go to bed first my dh usually appears about 3 hrs later .Its never bothered either of us.He lkes crap telly I like sleep!

I’d say 70/30 split. I like an early night when I’m working and I’m more productive in the morning so if I go to bed early (usually 9ish) then I’m more likely to wake at 6 and be productive. He likes a nap in the afternoon so is wide awake when I go to bed. Usually on a weekend we go together and nap together too.

Rarely. Unusually go up and read a book and relax.