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Partner playing playstation

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Amibeinganarse · 07/04/2020 19:04

I want to see I’m being fair. I currently live with my fiancé. He is using this lockdown to play his play station, fair enough.

However he plays it for hours and hours on end. He’s been on it now since 1pm and this has happened a lot of days during the lockdown. He gets up, works out and then plays his PlayStation until the evening.
The thing is I’m getting lonely. It’s just us so I’ve asked him to spend some time with me.

He did last week however it’s never really longer than an hour unless we are watching a film. He also starting making out that going for a walk with me is a treat because he’s decided he doesn’t like walking.
Also the last two days he seems to be reverting back to marathon PlayStation sessions all day.

AIBU to be getting extremely pissed off especially since the PlayStation is currently parked in the living room and I can’t watch anything. I don’t mind him being on it sometimes, it’s just it feels endless!

We have had arguments in the past about him not wanting to spend time together, this just seems to have heightened what I’m feeling.

OP posts:
Stet · 07/04/2020 22:27

I got oranges! And DH has pears...

DoTheNextRightThing · 07/04/2020 22:30

@thewordmeister that really is the worst attitude and I wish people on this website would stop sharing it. Video games are not for children, they are for all different demographics just like films are. That's why many games are rated 18+. I love my PS4. All my friends love their games consoles. Stop that.

DoTheNextRightThing · 07/04/2020 22:33

@TheFutureMrsHardy oh har har you're so funny. And what do you do with your free time that gives you the right to insult other people's hobbies?

NotACleverName · 07/04/2020 22:34

Time to play some more Animal Crossing, like the tragic, unlovable, UNATTRACTIVE woman-child that I am.

I know it's been patched, but if I fish up one more sodding Water Egg... I'm going to shoot Zipper's plane down before Bunny Day!

Macncheeseballs · 07/04/2020 22:34

He sounds like a catch Hmm

Klonda · 07/04/2020 22:35

My OH and I aren't 'heavy' gamers but there are a few Playstation games we really enjoy playing together. I'd reccomend downloading Overcooked and having some fun frantically cooking together as a team, it really is a blast. Should help with the lockdown boredom a bit.

expatinspain · 07/04/2020 22:42

I think gamers and non gamers are incompatible tbh. If someone plays it from time to time, that's one thing, but if someone plays it for days/hours at a time and their partner doesn't, it can be a recipe for disaster in a relationship.

KaptenKrusty · 07/04/2020 22:44

What would you like to do together?

SnoozyLou · 07/04/2020 22:50

Each to their own. If that's what he likes doing with his spare time. But equally, I wouldn't want to live with him. Terminal incompatibility.

Sonichu · 07/04/2020 22:54

"I think gamers and non gamers are incompatible tbh. If someone plays it from time to time, that's one thing, but if someone plays it for days/hours at a time and their partner doesn't, it can be a recipe for disaster in a relationship"

So just like any other addiction really?

SnoozyLou · 07/04/2020 23:03

So just like any other addiction really?

It doesn't float my boat, but why is it an addiction? I'm not really into model making either, but it's hardly up there with injecting heroin.

soannya · 07/04/2020 23:07

It’s the selfishness. If I was on the TV watching back to back Star Trek episodes for 7 hours meaning that nobody else could watch anything then that’s not ok! Surely you need to say “you’ve had the TV since 1pm. I want it this evening” why are you letting him hog theTV!

soannya · 07/04/2020 23:09

I’d also think twice about marrying somebody this obsessed with gaming unless you’re into the same thing. Would you be with somebody who went out cycling all day Saturday, every Saturday? Why don’t you find yourself somebody who is into the same things as you. You’ll be much happier

Ilovemyhairbeingstroked · 07/04/2020 23:14

I think it’s ok for him to go on it in these circumstances, you just need to be frank with him about how much he should do it - as in he needs to do stuff around the house, stuff with kids etc first . This is what I have to tell my husband . I get he has an interest and it could be worse , he could be down the pub or out with his mates all the time so I don’t moan too much . However it’s one of his endearing qualities. He does go in a separate room though .

Pineapple1 · 07/04/2020 23:20

@TheWordmeister

Do you never go outside? Read the news?
Talk to people?

More adults play consoles than kids.

If you thought differently, you have been Living under a rock for the last 3 decades

Dontjumptoconclusions · 07/04/2020 23:24

OP you said he's been playing since 1pm today, is he working at the moment, are you working?

Also to try and give him benefit of the doubt - Are these new games where the novelty is still new? If not and this is generally how he is and its his hobby, he does need to take it down a notch if it is clearly not something you enjoy. It's like someone hogging the TV watching their own favourite show all day without a care for what you wanna do.

My hubby taught me how to play xbox, now we play Cod together and I'm really good! Grin

Sonichu · 08/04/2020 00:45

"It doesn't float my boat, but why is it an addiction? I'm not really into model making either, but it's hardly up there with injecting heroin."

What else would you call this kind of compulsive behaviour then?

Klonda · 08/04/2020 01:35

What else would you call this kind of compulsive behaviour then?
I'm not under lockdown where I am, but if I were, and wasnt working for a month or two, I'd jump at the chance to spend some time playing the types of games that I generally cant find the free time to get into. I dont think it's necessarily indicative of an addiction...

ocarinan · 08/04/2020 02:11

Still equates to someone sitting on their arse staring gormlessly at a screen for hours on end.

As opposed to sitting on mumsnet...

Sonichu · 08/04/2020 02:12

Well my point was more that anyone who spends an excessive amount of time doing ANYTHING is generally incompatible with someone who doesn't regardless of what it is...

ArthurandJessie · 08/04/2020 02:16

I had a boyfriend like this once ... he was really addicted any chance he would get he would play and he was quite happy doing that so I left. I doubt very much hes going to change so yourll just have to think if its worth it for you ! So sorry about this been there and its rubbish:(

araiwa · 08/04/2020 02:37

Gaming is the perfect solution to lockdown

motherheroic · 08/04/2020 03:24

@Stet I have every fruit but apples 😔

Macncheeseballs · 08/04/2020 03:36

Ariawa - gaming is the perfect solution for lockdown if you're single or have a partner who doesn't mind otherwise its self obsessed and selfish

Geepipe · 08/04/2020 04:04

Dp is like this. Hours and hours on xbox playing with his online mates. Its 4am and hes still at it. I disagree its a childish hobby. Even though i dont play it i appreciate the art the music the storylines the quests and the skills needed to complete certain games. I love watching him play single player games mostly horror games its like an interactive horror film. I just hate him being online all day and night playing against people. However i let him. He has a lot of issues and in the scheme of them its minor. Plus when i do on the rare occassion kick off about it he will stop and watch tv with me instead then spend the next day off it watching films with me instead. Its compromise really. Talk to him.

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