Do you kiss your kids on the lips

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Mine are 8 and 10.

Myself, DH, My Mum and Step Dad Sister and Brother in Law kiss my kids on the lips.

My brother and sister in law prefer to kiss them on the cheek.

They prefer not to kiss DH family at all so don't.

If they don't feel like giving family a kiss they won't. It's just something they have always done.

My mum sometimes kisses me on the lips and I kissed my grandparents on the lips until they passed away.

My friend has said she's never kissed her boys on the lips.

Mine are girls not that it makes a difference.

Yes I bloody well do! And I won't be stopping it

I kiss my mum and dad on the lips still now and I'm a grown adult. No harm in it. My DH was never cuddled kissed (anywhere) or told he was loved. I know which caused more harm....

Why wouldn't you want your husband kissing other women and other children on the lips LotsaDo?

No! I'm paranoid about germs etc and especially now wouldn't anyway.

Yeah. Kiss all my family on the lips. Kids, parents, cousins....whatever.

Why wouldn't we?

In normal times of course!

Yep, dh and I kiss ds (nearly 2) on the lips. We do try to discourage it for people who aren't us and suggest a cheek instead but sometimes ds goes for a smacker. As he grows up we will be led by his wishes.

No, for the same reason I wouldn’t “honk” them or pinch their bum. It’s not suddenly no rules because it’s close family or your own children, everyone deserves to be treated with respect

My DH’s Nan kisses everyone on the lips

Took me by surprise when she planted a smacked right on me

Well it’s incredibly unhygienic and can blur boundaries and autonomy for kids. A massive number of kids are sexually abused every day, by someone they know, so all people who choose to have a kid need to be instilling in their kid, from infancy, consent, where and who is ok to touch them, etc. Obviously. If they have adults kissing them on the lips, do they know when that is not ok? Where is it not ok for adults to kiss or touch them?
There’s no need for it, I can’t imagine ever wanting to kiss a kid or adult I’m not in a relationship with on the lips, or accepting some aunt/whatever approaching me with puckered lips going to touch mine 🤮🤮🤮🤮🤮

I don't naturally kiss my children on the lips, but they both have dads who do. So they kiss me on the lips. I don't mind, though it can be a bit slobbery with my youngest

No.

No I don't, from a hygiene perspective rather than I think it's creepy. I cuddle the DC lots and kisses on the cheek and head instead.

Depends on how snotty they are at the time. Dd used to produce some utterly rancid stuff out of her nose and would try to kiss me. I hate snot.

@Electrical Interesting point. If a child is constantly kissed on the lips, they aren't going to think anything is wrong if some predator goes for a kiss on the lips. Why would they? They haven't been taught any different.

I don't think there's anything wrong with kissing your children on the lips but don't like it personally. Probably because my parents only did cheek kisses and that's what I do with mine. My husband doesn't kiss his parents at all and I think he used to find it strange that our children wanted kisses but he's got used to it now.

DS now 8 always has. DD 10 never has. I do what they do

I do now but I won't when they're adults.

I kiss my baby on the lips! But no one else - apart from my husband!

I don’t like it, I find it overly sexual and it risks transmitting herpes. Plus I don’t want DC getting the idea that it’s ok to kiss people. I’d prefer that kissing was totally off the table if it prevents DC from kissing non family.

Yes but someone gave my 9 month old glandular fever and cmv by lip kissing and he nearly died. You don't have to be symptomatic to pass it on. Nearly 80% of the uk have these viruses in their bodies and it only takes one kiss too many to contract it.

Please research and rethink it

I would but as I have the cold sore virus I've always steered clear of kissing my children on the lips. They still try though. If I didnt have the coldsore virus I would

myfav Mon 06-Apr-20 23:57:14
No I don't, from a hygiene perspective rather than I think it's creepy. I cuddle the DC lots and kisses on the cheek and head instead.
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Quite right too.

I've never, ever seen anyone kiss a child on the lips (except a couple of times on TV), and wouldn't do it. Lip kissing is for boyfriend/girlfriend relationships later, not for children.

It strikes me as odd.

DS3 kisses me on the lips, I wouldn’t dream of stopping him. I usually kiss his cheek or forehead because he’s a drooler

No we've never ever done that