Washing your car in the street

[MrsFitzwilliam]

So my next-door neighbor has a son who doesn't live with her (he lives around the corner) but who parks his car on her drive, as he has a property that opens straight onto a road with no parking available.

He is still coming and going to and from his mother's house and today decided to move his car off the drive and on to the road to wash it. This, of course, meant that no one could safely use the footpath and maintain a proper 2-metre distance.

I am part of the 12 weeks isolated vulnerable group so no chance I could have a word (even from a safe distance as I am not supposed to go outside at all). I've just been telling my DS on the phone and he says I should have reported him. I'm usually a live and let live sort of person, but honestly, someone like him could actually be the literal death of someone like me, someone who cannot isolate properly as I am and has to go out for food shopping etc. And anyway, I'm sick to death of the "it doesn't apply to me I have a good reason to do what I'm doing, so I'm a special case" idiots out there.

So what is your view ?
Report = YANBU
Ignore his selfishness = YABU

About the car washing. YABU. Roads are v quiet at the moment, someone walking along can easily step out and round. If he's in and out of his mother's house, that's not so good but maybe he is caring for her in some way?

sorry should have said, only one pavement and that is where he is washing his car so it's not safe to walk on the opposite side

I don’t think it’s a reportable offence sorry

I pick C, get a more productive hobby than curtain twitching. Jesus Christ, reporting him for washing his car. FFS.

All roads seem pretty safe at the moment since hardly anyone is driving. I lived very rurally until recently and none of the roads I walked on had pavements. Pretty sure it’ll be safe.

You need to find something to occupy your time and mind, OP.

Fear or jealousy?

Walk around him FFS. You want to report someone for washing his car. Read that back to yourself!

If you aren't going out at all, what difference does it make to you if he washes his car? I think you need to find something else to do, rather than worrying about what your neighbour and her son are doing all day every day.

Are you part of the vulnerable group who can go shopping for essentials or the extremely vulnerable, shielded group, advised by letter not to go out at all?

If it’s the latter you will have received advice on how to register for assistance with food delivery.

Don’t think the neighbour’s behaviour warrants reporting.

You're getting your knickers in a twist that someone is outside, who could be the death of you. And yet you're not going outside. Is there not a box set you could be watching? Perhaps you can recommend it to your DS too.

As long as he isn't going inside his parents house there is nothing to report. He washed his car. That's it. End of story.

I may well be going up to my parents to wash my car if the seagulls persist and my paintwork is at risk of getting damaged. I'll get my dad to fill the bucket and leave it out for me and I'll do the washing or I'll drive up, stay in the car and let him pressure wash it. No contact and no unnecessary journey because they live on the way to the supermarket so I'll do it on the way there.

Just don't go outside whilst he's there?

FrancisCrawford Sorry if I wasn't clear, I don't go outside, I am fully isolated due to my health. I was more concerned about people who may have the same sort of health concerns I have but who through circumstances have to take the risk to go out. This is a very narrow road, with only one safe pavement and it is not possible (due to a blind bend) to walk on the opposite side of the road. To allow 2 metres safe distance by walking around the car into the road, would mean you would actually be on the unsafe side of the road as it is such a narrow street. So by washing his car anywhere on the road he is making it impossible for anyone to walk past at the correct distance from him.

But there’s hardly any traffic at the moment!

Have you registered on the gov.uk for help with food? And/or ring your local council’s community hub, they will have good ideas on how to access food elsewhere too.

Did you receive an NHS letter telling you to self isolate or have you been advised by your own GP/doctor?

You will be eligible for the Sainsbury’s priority delivery slots too.

Please don’t go out and explore options if you can sorry, it’s a horrible time and you must be worried

Your massively over reacting, you didnt need or want to go out, i cant imagine he was washing his car for long. There is the ability to walk on the road for all of 5 seconds to go around him.
You need to not get worked up about this.

It's evident I am in the wrong to be concerned about others. my concern is NOT for myself. I'll just leave the thread now I think as it seems to be upsetting some people more than the actual question warranted.