To sit in his ex's garden today and 'have a beer'.

[DollyDaydream70]

Hi everyone, hope you're all safe and well.

I have a 2yr long distance relationship with my partner. We usually see each other on the weekend but can't atm due to the current restrictions. My partners best friend is an ex girlfriend who he was with for a few years many years ago. They live close to each other and speak on the phone every day, she is in a relationship with someone else now.

I'm not threatened by their relationship in any way and get on well with the ex girlfriend.

My issue is this: In a telephone conversation this morning my partner told me that he is going to go over to the ex's house today where she has alloted him a corner of her garden, he plans to take her up on the offer and go for 'a couple of beers'. Surely this is not observing the current restrictions on social distancing?

He asked me do I think it's ok (part of me thinks he wants me to make an issue of it). I just told him he's a grown man and can make his own decisions, he knows the risks.

I'm currently not seeing him due to the travel restrictions and the fact that I'm an NHS worker working closely with Covid-19 positive patients.

I just wanted to ask your opinions on this. I'm not the Corona Police, but I thought this kind of thing was vetoed at the moment?

part of me thinks he wants me to make an issue of it

He is BU to go to his friend's.
He is BVVU to tell you that he is going to his friend's in order to provoke a reaction from you.

What a dick. What a pity.

If it's all to do with safety, then the questions you need to ask are: will there be absolutely no contact? Will he touch the gate with his own glove? Will he bring his own chair? Will he stay at least 6ft away at all times? etc If yes, the you need not worry. If all these questions are yet, then why not Facetime her?

If he has to drive to get there - if he does and he chooses to, then he's a dick.
If the worry is to do with trust, then that's another issue...

whether they do or don't, what does that have to do with my post? Please explain?
No need to get so pissy.
It’s relevant because you deserve better and he’s clearly ignoring the guidance BECAUSE he still has feelings for his ex. That makes it entirely relevant to your post

He’s an idiot.

Yeah he's a twat. And personally, I really wouldn't be fine about his relationship with his ex.

You’re more understanding than me, I don’t think I’d be ok with this at all!

He’s a twat and obviously breaking the rules.

your just here to troll and that would never do would it?

Indeed. Trolling on MN is a bad idea.

Minty that's an annoying and unhelpful post.

Did he go to his friends?
If he did I'd ditch the twat you'll be much happier and a lot safer since germ boy doesn't give a fuck about his health and yours.
Don't suffer lockdown with the arsehole.