Neighbour keeps going in and out.

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Hi all, I get on quite well with my neighbour generally. When I spoke to him a week ago he said his work had shut down and was intending to stay in apart from food shopping - he also said he had enough food to live on for a while apart from top ups. Middle aged chap lives on his own.

Now I never thought I’d be this kind of neighbour who is observing when someone leaves and gets home again but he has been in and out for days. He parks his car up right outside half the day it isn’t there. I know he doesn’t have any family locally - we try and chat with him as much as possible so he isn’t lonely.

He does have friends nearby.

Aibu to find this really annoying? I haven’t been out at all in 2 weeks. Oh has been going to work but the neighbour told me that he had finished and it’s baffling why he’d need to go out so much!

It’s starting to really p**s me off to be honest. He is in and out all day!

PumpkinPie So sorry you are having such a hard time. Caring for elderly relatives is tough at the best of times, but now it really is very difficult.

It would be helpful to those of you concerned by neighbours behaviour to just ask them what they're up to instead of asking MN. After all, they have the answers you claim to be seeking. And as you're asking as a matter of public concern and you simply want to ensure they've understood 'the rules' as comprehensively as you have, they're bound to be thrilled by your public spirited approach. Do give it a try, they'll be very grateful. I expect they will be explicit in any reply they make to you.

Mind your own business.

(That goes for all of you brainwashed Corona Nazis)

For those saying "mind your own business" - surely the point is that this is a collective effort to deal with a very real health threat. The actions of one individual has very real consequences on others, whether intended or not.

The OP has already stated that the neighbour doesnt have any close family and isnt going to work so it isnt unreasonable to wonder what he is doing (considering we are meant to stay at home as much as possible).

So I dont think the OP is a unreasonable to wonder where he is going - she has suggested doing anything else - so some of the comments here are a tad dramatic.

she HASN'T suggested

I'm all for being shirty when people are breaking the guidelines, but really you just don't know why he's going out. There's genuinely every chance he's volunteering. I think you should give him the benefit of the doubt.

Maybe he's doing the Hokey Cokey

I think the problem is that YOU haven’t been out for 2 weeks. You've got cabin fever and madness is setting in. Get out for a walk or something.

Good grief. We've turned into a nation of prize curtain twitchers.

Given his previous statement I’d assume his situation has changed necessitating the trips before getting angry.

Either ask him or jog on. No benefit telling Mumsnet, none of us can do anything about it.

would be helpful to those of you concerned by neighbours behaviour to just ask them what they're up to instead of asking MN.

And when the neighbour turns around and tells them to bugger off and mind their own business, they will be posting on here bleating about how rude they were.

There was a thread on here the other day where someone asked if after all this there will be more of a sense of community and people will get on with their neighbours better. Judging by the amount of people on here enraged/fuming (delete as appropriate) with their neighbours, it looks like there are going to be streets full of people not talking to each other.

@Firecarrier Corona Stasi, I think you’ll find.

As the OP clearly needs something to occupy her time, I’ll just leave this little film recommendation here.

en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/The_Lives_of_Others

Sorry Piglet you are quite correct.

That was a lazy phrase I used

We have a local food delivery service where customers order from local shops online and it is delivered to them by a team of drivers, using their own cars - a bit like Deliveroo or Just Eat, but for 'shopping' type goods. Maybe he's doing similar.

Blimey, I hope my neighbours have got more going on in their lives than lots of people on here seem to, or they'll no doubt be tut-tutting about me. I've got 2 dogs to walk, a horse to look after and an elderly lady who I shop for. Some days I don't need to go out at all (when horse is being looked after by someone else and husband takes the dogs out). Other days I have to go out a couple of times (if elderly lady needs help, horse needs care, dogs need walked). I take the dogs with me when I go to do the horse to limit trips as much as possible, and I've asked the elderly lady to give me one big list for a week, rather than asking me to pop to the shops every few days, but I expect I still wouldn't be complying with lots of MNers views of what is correct because I'm not wearing a big sign announcing where I'm off to and why every time I go out. I understand being pissed off by people blatantly having parties etc., but it seems a bit much to be policing how much people are going out when you have no idea where they're going or why.

I’m watching you, @Firecarrier 👀