Neighbour keeps going in and out.

[Bee128]

Hi all, I get on quite well with my neighbour generally. When I spoke to him a week ago he said his work had shut down and was intending to stay in apart from food shopping - he also said he had enough food to live on for a while apart from top ups. Middle aged chap lives on his own.

Now I never thought I’d be this kind of neighbour who is observing when someone leaves and gets home again but he has been in and out for days. He parks his car up right outside half the day it isn’t there. I know he doesn’t have any family locally - we try and chat with him as much as possible so he isn’t lonely.

He does have friends nearby.

Aibu to find this really annoying? I haven’t been out at all in 2 weeks. Oh has been going to work but the neighbour told me that he had finished and it’s baffling why he’d need to go out so much!

It’s starting to really p**s me off to be honest. He is in and out all day!

I cannot BEAR neighbours like this.

No, not the OP's neighbour. The OP.

If he's out that much, I think the suggestion that he's been volunteering is probably right. He has a car and time on his hands.

We can’t control what other people do so to some extent we need to live with seeing them not observing the rules e.g. often popping out.

That said, if I saw people arriving for a party or children being left with elderly family, I’d contact local police using their online ‘tell us about form’. I’d do that because the risk to people around them is too great to ignore.

What is the point in being annoyed by this? It’s not going to change his actions (unless you’re planning to confront him?). Let it go. You cannot control other people’s actions. You can only control your own.

You need to get a life OP . I would suggest you take up a hobby of some sort ,watch crap tv or shag your husband .
You would absolutely hate me OP
I’m doing shopping for my dad and his neighbour and two people of Facebook that are disabled and can’t get out of their homes.
So I am out every day dropping stuff off or collecting things like prescriptions .
Sometimes I have to go to several shops
as I can only get 3 items on each shop.
I also have 3 dogs that need walking individually 😂as well .
Today alone I have been out 4 times . 3 times with my dogs and 1 shopping trip
I also have a tescos delivery tonight and I have to go back out to drop of a gallon of sanitiser to a care home .
If you questioned me on where I was going and that I should be staying in I would tell you to fuck off .

For crying out loud. You need a hobby. Close your curtains. You will look back at this time and be horrified by yourself. Stop it.

What @T0tallyFuckedUpFamily said.

FFS, mind your own business!

Get a grip

Burn the witch

Or is that the wrong century?

Quick! Shoot the fucker!

You have no idea why he’s going in and out and quite honestly unless you’re prepared to shout out the kitchen window and ask him then you’ll have to pipe down and get over yourself.

Perhaps he has an unwell (not CV related) friend and is checking up on them everyday? Or maybe he is walking someone’s dog who is self isolating and can’t go out or maybe he’s feeding to the cat of someone in hospital... or maybe he’s just a twat who can’t sit still for 5 minutes. Who knows - not you!

Why don’t you just ask if he’s ok? Then at least you can stop being pissed off

Honestly I wish people would stop worrying about what the neighbours are up to..and concentrate on themselves! When did we all become so perfect and ready to snitch on each other..keep yourself safe and let the others get on with their lives! I will be interested to see if anyone comments on my situation when my son returns home after 15 months away...oh my she’s got a visitor...oh my she shouldn’t be mixing outside her family..mind your own business. I definitely agree we need a curtain twitchers corner on here!

This makes me worry about what the neighbours think about me! Not only am I volunteering, but I'll have to go and fetch my 18yo DD, who's been away lambing (vet student, so unpaid, and working nights, and not mixing with anyone except sheep!), and she'll need to return home. Do my neighbours think I'm breaking the curfew? Will they think my DD is selfishly breaking the rules? We live in a close, so no doubt someone is watching my movements.

How many threads do we need like this.

Mind your own bloody business OP.

Expect your ancestors hounded poor women who were later burned at the stake.

My bit of curtain-twitching is to watch the frothing on MN in action. I'm being dazzled not by the sun, but the sparkly finely polished haloes. Keep up the good work, it's the gift that keeps on giving!

You have no control over it op. As annoying as it might be there is no use in letting it get to you.

I wonder if my neighbours here in Ireland feel the same about me. Our kids have only been in the back garden since the schools closed. Not a peep outside otherwise.

Myself and hubby are coming and going once or twice every morning and are gone for 1-2 hours at a time. It probably looks bad but we both have elderly parents who need shopping and the odd prescription, I also have an aunt who lives alone so I do her shopping and I walk her dog every day for her. I also have a elderly uncle who lives alone.

Our hands are raw from sanitising!

Stay safe everyone.x

Mind your own business

Someone might same the same of dh. However we are trying to shop for our elderly neighbour, my parents, his dad, his mum and also still do our own. He’s also volunteering for a local delivery group as well.

As the supermarkets are limiting what you can take, some stuff isn’t available - and actually it’s bloody hard to do five peoples shopping on one go he’s out a few times a week.

You don’t know what he’s doing - maybe ask (I a sensible way). But honestly I’d hate to think our neighbours would be judging dh when he’s flying around doing all of this for everyone.

Mind your own business OP. He told you that his work was closed down but that could have changed. For all you know, he's maybe been asked to go in to work on shorter hours.

I have to travel in to work everyday. I work in a disease surveillance institute, we run tests for coronavirus. and it's people like you that make me uncomfortable leaving the house. God knows where my neighbours think I go every day because I also do the shopping for my mum and elderly relatives.

Get a hobby.

Just stop it, OP. So many people appointing themselves judge and jury of other people's behaviour. If it's not directly affecting you, just stop it.

Slash his tyres then the fucker will be confined.

Omg what happened to this country? Mind your own business!!

@Bee128 YABVU. Mind yer beeswax.

I have seen 3 or 4 neighbours (in my cul de sac of 20-ish homes,) going out almost every day. Probably 5 times a week. I only see it coz I sit in the front window writing/reading/doing puzzles and jigsaws.

I just assume they are doing stuff for vulnerable family members or friends, (or they could be receiving some kind of treatment - like dialysis or chemotherapy.) Basically, I have not ONCE thought 'how fucking DARE they go out??????'

But then I am not a nosey stickybeak who is obsessed with other peoples lives.

Get a hobby FGS.