Viewing the neighbours differently after this?

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Neighbours are a nice older couple. Friday afternoon they had a BBQ - two cars arrived. Today they have packed the dog in the car and left at 9am, presumably since they both went, with the dog, and are not back 4 hours later, its not an essential shopping trip so guessing they have done what the do most weekends and gone to visit their children and grandkids.

I always thought of them as 'nice people' - Am I being unreasonable to think I will view them differently at the end of all this.

@Hannah021 totally agree. I’m complying with the rules but don’t spend my time curtain twitching.

The only person I know who broke the "rules" and went to a house party when they came back from a high risk country after a jolly week away is a bloody paramedic who is now complaining on fb about having to risk his life every day etc etc.

The older people I know, incl. my mum and my dad, are sticking to them as much as possible.

I'm not a bitch or a curtain twitcher either; I just don't want to police my neighbours or judge them or sour any relationships because I don't know them well enough to know why they're coming and going (and, as I posted earlier on, I don't notice whether they do or not anyway because I keep myself to myself mostly).

Yes, excellent post from ChainsawBear

I used to think that my neighbours across the street were lovely. Fairly young couple with young children. They have hand drawn rainbows in their front windows, seemingly to be spotted by other young children out for daily exercise. They've been out to clap for the NHS too.

Yesterday my manager dropped off something important for me from work. She left it at the door and retreated to the street, at least 4-5m away, while I picked it up. We had a quick catchup about a work matter that lasted for less than 5 mins, then she left.

During this

Ive had success calling 101 re dogs before where the RSPCA will do nothing

You can tell which posters on here are more likely to be sticking to the rules

You really can’t.

The couple upstairs from me had the police round on Thursday, and seem to have moved their mate into their flat with them since. He's been hanging out on the doorstep smoking weed for hours.
The bloke downstairs has moved his girlfriend in.

The population of our little block of flats has just doubled..

The effect is the same, is it not? And either way, Doris - or you, the unwitting asymptomatic early spreader - aren't murderers. You are unwitting vectors. What is killing people is the virus.

Doris I thought her name was Doreen 😉 is not unwitting though, if she is going out and about, seeing people during a lockdown then she is spreading the bloody thing. Those following the rules are not spreading it, not so much anyway.
Okay I admit murderers is a bit strong but their actions are definitely killing people.

Did you see, on the news, the morons sunbathing in the park today? Pity their nosy neighbours didn't report them before they got to the park!

one of our neighbours had family over today, the other side teenagers boyfriend was over.

So selfish.

@CtrlU
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Why can’t you close your curtains and get on with your life ?*

Because my tax money is being used to bail out corporations due to coronavirus, because Nurses are dying due to lack of PPE, because there are vulnerable people who need this lockdown to be over soo er rather than later to survive it.

Everyone behaving against the lock down rules contributes to the above.

So, no, now is NOT the time to close the curtains.

@abitlostandalwayshungry

Here we go

I pay taxes too as do a majority of others. I don’t stand at my windows curtain twitching and spying on my neighbours and jumping to conclusions about what I THINK they may be doing...

Get over yourselves please

You don’t know where they are. Maybe they are at an essential medical appointment. Maybe just leave them alone and stop being so judgmental

They don't even need to sit in the window with a notepad. One of my neighbours (over the back so not able to see me leave the house from the front door) sent me one of those memes that has been doing the rounds the other day. I happened to comment back that I had been for a walk of 4.3 miles (relevant to what had been sent). I was then bombarded with comments telling me that I shouldn't be out of the house for more than 1 hour for my daily exercise! I was in fact only out for 1 hr and 5 mins but didn't tell them that but they obviously judged that I must have been out for much longer to walk that distance.

I only know first hand what 2 neighbours are doing. One because they are vulnerable and we check on on then and two, because now they actually bother walking their own dog they leave the shit all over the street!

That's one is vulnerable, the other a dirty rat.

Have no idea what my neighbours are doing around here. I've seen some come and go multiple times when I've been outside, but really couldn't give a toss.

There are a couple of curtain twitchers around here though, I bet they are loving all this.

When all of this is over, there are going to be an awful lot of people living in misery and then posting on AIBU that their neighbours are making their lives hell.

You don't have to be a curtain twitching busybody to be dismayed at the behaviour of others.
I certainly don't stand at my windows and I've never been interested in being a tattletale. However, the people deliberately flouting the instructions as they would rather have people round for BBQs and family meetups are being very selfish. I don't think anyone could argue otherwise unless they were one of the twatbadgers doing the same.
Please note there is a difference between the jobsworths with a clipboard and the people who are desperately worried about vulnerable family members and the health of our nhs workers. I don't judge situations where I don't know the details, for example, people going to work or on mercy missions . I do however judge the selfish bastards who think the rules don't apply to them as they share a raw sausage with several generations at family barbecues etc. . in fact I've noticed that the neighbours who were the first to complain about antisocial neighbours (photographing DS's goal post temporarily stored in front garden fir three days and sending the photo to my housing cooperative landlords ) are the ones most likely , in my road anyhow, to be doing as they damn well please. Yes, neighbours, I'm looking at you .

My neighbours are all elderly and have all bern abiding by the rules. They both stay in all day everyday anyway so I suppose it's no different to them, none has a dog either, one of my neighbours usually has his Son to stay every weekend but he hasn't been coming and I've been doing my neighbours shopping for him, so all seems good atm

My neighbours have had visitors for the last two days, out in the garden having coffee/drinks (hard to bloody miss, its right outside my door)

What upset me more was that being well aware that I am high risk, last night I was treated to a discussion on how ridiculous it all is, its just a virus etc, fuss about nothing, not going to change anything and laughing and joking. I came inside, its hard enough only being able to go as far as my garden without having to listen to how funny the situation is when I'm so scared, my family is scared.

That conversation really has made me rethink what I thought of them, I'm not curtain twitching, I can hear them from my garden/kitchen.

Report them. If people start saying mind your own business, whilst we’re on lockdown it’s everyone’s business if these arseholes are prolonging it.

We moved rented house in early Feb before this all started and now starting to wish we hadn't, our neighbours were much nicer at the old place, next door here is young family, scummy friends and family coming and going, popping to corner shop and takeaway daily. Arguing with my DH about crap. Have even been thinking about moving again once this is over!

My neighbours have had people round today in their garden. 3 different families with kids. My dd is now constantly asking why she can't see her friends when Tim next door had his friends round. That's why it pisses me off. My dd has really being struggling with not going to school, clubs and friends etc. She is 5 and has not been sleeping well etc. We have not seen anyone for over 2 weeks. My anxiety is through the roof and I've been suffering with medical problems. So yes it winds ne up but I really try not to let it bother me as I can't control it.
It's not changed my opinion of them though as I knew they were selfish the moment we asked them to fix their leaking waste pipe 3 months ago and they just ignored us leading to our patio getting soaked everyday.

Someone who lives near me has their daughter and grandson round regularly. The daughter parks her car in an access road and goes through the back gate so that it isn't obvious to everyone on the street.

They also stand at the door on Thursdays and clap for the NHS. They make me laugh.

Yanbu to think they're being dickheads about the lockdown and socially isolating. I'm sure they're still nice people though

@Stressybetty it happens... I was moving to a new place... And a new couple had moved in to the ground floor flat... I was moving things on my own as family r in another city... The new neighbours came out to help me move my stuff, while my housemate (whom i helped move her stuff the day before) completely ignored me passing by as if nothing is happening... I was moving items i purchased for both of us, she could have helped with them since she used them for free!!
I thanked them very much, and continued as i was nearly there, but i couldnt help not ball my eyes out at their kindness and nasty house mate... I left them a thank you note two weeks later with sainsburry gift card

Right at this moment, all the kids (except mine!) are out playing football in the close...its one of the older teenagers birthday, so he has a few 18 yr olds out there, kicking a ball around, while four or five other teens play with the wee five yr old thats out every day on his bike.
I am so disgusted, they are all jumping over one another, playing about,and tbh, if thats how they are going to be I couldn't give two craps if they get it, but when my family and countless others are staying in, going out once every few weeks for essentials, I expect others to be the same unless they desperately NEED to be out. The virus doesn;t move, its the people, and this shit will never end unless people do as they are told. I actually despise my neighbours right now.