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To not understand clapping for kids

266 replies

VivienScott · 04/04/2020 11:07

Why are we now doing this? The premise I’ve seen is that their lives have been turned upside down, no longer able to see family or friends. Isn’t that all of us? And surely if they don’t understand why we’re on lockdown, they’re not going to understand us clapping?
Hasn’t this gone a bit far?
I do have kids, and they are most definitely affected, but I don’t feel the need to clap for them especially and they don’t want me to.

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BiggerBoat1 · 04/04/2020 14:08

The only thing I would be willing to do is a Boo for Boris. And those who voted for him.

This Grin

Nobody should allow Boris to forget how he clapped when the pay rise for NHS workers and firefighters was blocked in 2017

nellythenarwhal · 04/04/2020 14:09

I can hear kids in several gardens round here having a great time. They are all laughing at appropriate volumes and not doing anything annoying like kicking a ball over the fence. It's so warm, they can even have the sprinkler out- brilliant. I realise that many kids live in flats so don't have a private garden to play in but a good proportion of kids are having a good time at least some of the time.

My kids are teenagers so under a different kind of stress to younger ones. They are healthy, have their own rooms and access to individual tech and snacks so don't need applauding.

Oysterbabe · 04/04/2020 14:11

I will not be having any part in any of this fucking bullshit.

hollybollyy · 04/04/2020 14:17

It makes me want to vomit

Thurmanmurman · 04/04/2020 14:18

It's for dickheads

ViciousJackdaw · 04/04/2020 14:21

Bollocks to that. I will think of all the people who live alone and have to isolate. Those with no families to help them out, those who can't get a slot, those given out of date food by the council. Those thinking nobody gives a shit about them.

Devlesko · 04/04/2020 14:22

I am in awe of my dd, she's been locked down for about a month now and taking it in her stride.
She had a brief wobble when GCSE's were cancelled and continued with her normal time table from school, way before online classes were sorted.
She is polite, caring and not the same child we knew before, normal teen stuff but still unpleasant and obnoxious at times.
I'm very proud of how she has handled this and unlike so many other parents on this thread, not only do I love her, but I actually like her.
Why did you have kids if you can't appreciate what they are going through now.

AndNoneForGretchenWieners · 04/04/2020 14:23

How about Bare Your Arse for Boris?

Pelleas · 04/04/2020 14:25

unlike so many other parents on this thread, not only do I love her, but I actually like her.

I can't see any posts on this thread that suggest people don't like or love their children.

Liking and loving someone doesn't mean you have to want to clap for them.

Devlesko · 04/04/2020 14:28

If you love someone and care you show support. our children are showing resilience that we didn't have to at their age.
Not to be able to see this does make you uncaring, it's not about the clapping, it's not seeing the importance of the clapping.

Manchestermanchester · 04/04/2020 14:29

Isn’t 8pm their bedtime

user1477391263 · 04/04/2020 14:30

Dogs can be walked multiple times a day.

I remember feeling quite astonished when I discovered this about Spain. Apparently dogs' need for daylight and stretching their legs is recognized---but not that of a human child. Unbelievable.

BiggerBoat1 · 04/04/2020 14:31

How about Bare Your Arse for Boris?

Grin
user1477391263 · 04/04/2020 14:31

FWIW: I am not into clapping for anyone, to be honest. But comments about "kids are resilient and mine are having the time of their lives!!!" are so disingenuous. Children's risk of death from his virus is close to zero: they are sacrificing their economic futures for other people, let's be honest.

BiggerBoat1 · 04/04/2020 14:32

@Devlesko

I like, love and respect my children but I don't feel the need to go out into the street and applaud them.

Mrsjayy · 04/04/2020 14:34

I love my children one of them is on the frontline she doesn't need clapped she needs people to stay home that includes congregating on the street clapping and dancing !

BelleharePenguin09 · 04/04/2020 14:45

God, how ridiculous.
🙄🙄🙄

cstaff · 04/04/2020 15:03

I absolutely love bare your arse for Boris Grin

clapforpositivity · 04/04/2020 15:19

I think the clapping for kids is a harmless thing to do, you are not hurting anyone and no one is forcing you to do it. Let and let it be...yes I will clap, not just for my kids but for all of the kids in the world who are suffering in a world created by monster politicians/leaders with fake promises , I want to clap as I want our next generations to feel inspired to rise up to the occasion, be brave and resilient in this world that we have sadly brought them in...I feel sorry for our youth! As mother's we should be united and stop this unnecessary hate!

Madein1995 · 04/04/2020 15:56

Kids aren't suffering any more than any adult. We have uncertainty too. Our lives have been turned upside down and we have nkre adult worries. A 5yr old believes that mum and dad will protect them and probably don't even understand.

On the back side of that, my life has changed completely,, I'm scared, I'm pissed off of waiting in asda carpqrk in the rain. My mental health is fucked, I miss people I miss my routine and I'm battling wfh. The financial costs of all this palaver are massive. I don't want anyone to clap for me BTW. But children are a hell of a lot better off than adults. They're resilient and they prob won't even remember this in a few years. As always it's the adults who are shouldering this (as it should be). All the posts about toddler Tony's lire being changed and his mum heartbroken befquee he can't see his friends, are bollocks

allinit2gether · 04/04/2020 16:03

I'm not doing this. I groaned internally when a mum shared it on our class WhatsApp. She's got one child though whereas I have 4 and I suspect it's much harder keeping one child's spirits up rather than my lot who have no desire to go back to school!

dayswithaY · 04/04/2020 16:10

My ideas for clapping are:

Let's clap for women called Denise who can't go to the hairdressers to have their highlights done

Men called Nigel - just because they're called Nigel

Clap for brave 15 year-olds who can't meet their mates down the shops for the can of Stella they've nicked from their Dad.

We're all pissed off, we're all making sacrifices. Kids are probably the most adaptable out of all of us and seem to be having quite a nice time. If anything, I feel sorry for teenagers who are forced to spend all their time with their parents. No GCSEs and no prom. What if you're 16 and just fallen in love? That's painful but I'm not suggesting anyone start clapping for them.

We should be clapping for refuse collectors, cleaners, post office staff, call centre workers, taxi drivers and supermarket staff. I'm sure children are doing just fine.

zigaziga · 04/04/2020 16:24

@user1477391263 How so? Most kids aren’t expecting to get jobs and want to buy houses and all of the rest of it for some time.

V or U shaped recovery is generally expected, no? Or do we think this very strange summer will mean their prospects will be that much weaker in 10-15 years?

Squidgyflump · 04/04/2020 19:07

@elquintoconyo you win for having the best name

Cherrysoup · 04/04/2020 19:45

A friend of mine told me her kids were being ‘heros’ by behaving and staying home. 🤦