To be really fuming right now

[SuckingDownDarjeeling]

I don’t even know where to start... DP’s nephew (so DPN) lives with us, DP’s dad (with COPD) and our 20mo twins. So far despite some obvious lock-in tension we’ve all been doing quite well to stay indoors, with the exception of occasionally shopping for essentials and DP working as he is a key worker. This morning DPN gets a message from his mother (who lives in the West Country) saying DPN’s dad has decided to leave her house and come jaunting down to London. So of course, DPN decides to go and see him. I was surprised to say the least, he said he would wear gloves and a mask and keep 2m distance the whole time which even then I thought was taking too much of a risk and is quite frankly at this time not essential so not legal. Anyway, five hours later, he’s still out, DP sends him a message saying where are you, DPN has gone to his Dad’s friend’s flat to hang out. WTF?? I’m ranting, I feel helpless and angry. I don’t even know why I’m posting as what advice could anybody possibly give but should I calm down?? I’m not even going to go into the reasons why I don’t like DPN’s dad at the best of times but safe to say he won’t be bothered right now about any laws he’s breaking, lockdown or not.

[SuckingDownDarjeeling]

Hello again. I hope it's okay to post on the same thread instead of starting a new one, I just wanted to clear my head as it's a mess. DP has today been diagnosed with CV and is going to be in hospital for a while to monitor his breathing. And FIL and DPN decided two days ago to drive to where SIL lives in the West Country for what reason I don't know, but as selfish as it may sound I don't have the mental energy to worry any more about extended family. I think DP got it because he was going into DPN's room to chat and give him food and drinks I'd prepared, although I'd asked for them to just be left outside his room for DPN to collect himself. I feel lost and very lonely in the house alone with my DCs, they're very young so I can't leave them alone to cook or spend any time going to the toilet and I'm so anxious. I can't ask anyone to come over to stay and help because obviously we've all been exposed now, which also makes me scared sick about if I got it, what would happen to DCs? Hand hold please?

[Newkitty]

I’m so sorry this has happened to you. You must be so scared.

Try to focus on the here and now - the next task, your breathing. Don’t think about the bigger picture. Your job right now is to look after your children. I know how hard it is but try to only focus on them. It doesn’t matter if you don’t to a brilliant job - just keep them safe and fed. And the same goes for yourself

[Newkitty]

Are you able to speak to your husband on the phone?

[WeThreeKingsofOrientAre]

Ah. The situation has moved on now then with your DPN and FIL deciding on a road trip away and your DP now in hospital.
They all put their own concerns before you. No wonder you’re exhausted! If you did become unwell could your Mom drop off food to you if you needed to isolate?

[SuckingDownDarjeeling]

@Newkitty I should be able to talk to him later. I've sent him messages on WhatsApp. @WeThreeKingsofOrientAre to be honest I'm worried about my mum coming anywhere near here, I couldn't cope if she got sick as well x

[Newkitty]

It’s great that you can communicate. Have you spoken to him yet? How is he?

[Fairenuff]

Seriously, you need to stop letting people back in your house if they won't follow the lockdown rules.

They make their own decisions, you need to make yours. It's up to you if you let them back in or not.

[Insideout99]

So sorry to hear that OP

[SuckingDownDarjeeling]

Good morning. DP is coming back home today, he will be monitored by a home team and check in by phone with GP. Thank you for listening to me when I was panicking. @NewKitty thank you for asking how he was, I'm sorry I didn't reply, my head was a real mess.

[Newkitty]

Oh I’m so pleased!!!! That’s wonderful news - wishing him a very speedy recovery. I hope you are feeling ok today