To think some mumsnetters need basic internet safety training?

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There are some mumsnetters who seem to have little understanding of basic internet safety. Its not all scams trying to steal your money.
On public forums, and mumsnet is one, there will be men lurking who like to wank over details of children's bodies. That includes teenage girls having periods, details of puberty, poo accidents.

If someone is asking for help you can give them advice without talking about your own children's bodies and/or experiences. So you can reply - this is a common issue, you should go to your GP and get it checked out, but unlikely to be anything to worry about. Rather than - yes my 7 year old DD had this ...followed by details about her body and issues.

Please remember this is a public forum. Anyone can read it, not just those registered. So please remember internet safety and don't share wank material about your children.

I agree op. It's a difficult one I reported but I didn't want the support for the parent cut off either.

It's a shame you are right as parents should be able to share worries and experiences like this but sadly as you say we have no idea who is asking you to share or who is reading the answers and advice you give.

I say this as someone who has worked in the field of childhood sexual abuse for years and with that obviously makes me aware of the lengths some predators are willing to go to to feed their predilections.

some people to over share on sm it seems, they forget so many innocently post forgetting it could be seen by millons.

On public forums, and mumsnet is one, there will be men lurking who like to wank over details of children's bodies. That includes teenage girls having periods, details of puberty, poo accidents

So much this.

100%

These boards are overrun with fetishists. Offering up your children as wank fodder is hugely naive.

Sad but true.

But it IS an anonymous forum - in a way, who cares if someone's wanking over details of your child? You'll never see them, they'll never see you. . .

Obviously those people are disgusting perverts. But I fail to see how that is in any way compromising your child's safety.

Like a PP, what does it matter, really? As long as you’re not identifiable, of course.

It matters because one day it may escalate into stopping wanking and doing it in real life.

A little bit like the twats on dating sites -

I'm a single mummy to 3 beautiful little girls, they are my worldz

But it IS an anonymous forum - in a way, who cares if someone's wanking over details of your child? You'll never see them, they'll never see you. . .

Exactly why would anyone care?

Yeah, whenever i see those sorts of posts i remind everyone of what you've said. And get ignored - either by parents who don't care, or paedophiles posing as parents who don't care. It should be a pinned thread warning really. It was fine when mn was just a small, obscure site full of mainly mums. Before it became notorious.

You really want to be fuelling paedophilia @falacy? Good god, that says more about you than anything else.

Another who doesn’t really see why it matters. Any ‘picture’ they are wanking to in their head is completely made up, they have no idea what your child actually looks like.

I understand what you are saying, I have been guilty of over sharing on here.
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YouTube videos of ballet or gymnastic shows were time stamped in the comments by pervs so other perv's could go straight to the second of a certain pose.
I'm mindful of visual imagery and don't allow ticktoc. Nobody wants to think of a perv walking to their DC. 🤢

Another who doesn’t really see why it matters. Any ‘picture’ they are wanking to in their head is completely made up, they have no idea what your child actually looks like.

Surely it's much better they are wanking off in their own home, rather than prowling the streets driven to do something worse ?

This whole thread makes me 🤢

I do agree with you; people should be careful of this and also respectful of their child's privacy. But please don't use the phrases "wank material"/"wank fodder" about children, it's really horrible to read.

It's to do with normalizing their behaviour and desensitization.

Report dubious threads

Check the posting history on advanced search - though not always reliable as some trolls will play the long game and some genuine posters frequently name change.

Reply impersonally if you are sharing potentially sensitive information - rather than 'My six year old DD experienced X' say 'children sometimes experience X'.

But it IS an anonymous forum - in a way, who cares if someone's wanking over details of your child? You'll never see them, they'll never see you. . .

What the ACTUAL fuck did I just read?!?!?

@OlaEliza i think you could well have just seen a post from someone who is actively engaged in, supportive of, or at least passive about the activity in question. They don't just disappear off MN when people start these threads.

You really don't care if men wank to descriptions of your child's body or bodily issues! FFS.
I think I have heard it all, and then even I am surprised.

You're fuelling it, that's why it matters

@RuffleCrow I actually hope you are right. Because the thought that a parent should be so clueless is otherwise very scary.

@escrima I am sorry I don't want to upset you or any other parent here. But I do think we have to be honest about what is happening here so that parents understand how much it matters.