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AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

To ask exactly what is essential shopping?

112 replies

UnaCorda · 02/04/2020 11:50

I'm not intending to be goady (although getting a bit tired of the shopping basket police) and clearly we shouldn't be popping to the shops every five minutes for a packet of crisps, but who gets to decide what counts as essential? Even with something like tea and coffee you could argue that it's perfectly possible to drink water instead (personally I don't drink either).

Fresh fruit and veg are important, but no individual fruit or vegetable is in itself essential - and you wouldn't die if you didn't eat any at all for a couple of weeks. You can manage without milk - you don't have to have cereal for breakfast, or drink tea of coffee (see above). You clearly don't need meat or fish - vegetarians manage without them all the time. By the same token, you don't need cheese or yoghurt or eggs - vegans don't eat them. You don't need loo roll - use a bidet or flannel. Etc., etc.

So all we can really conclude is that we need some sort of comestibles as fuel, but no one item in and of itself can be seen as essential.

Or AIBU?

OP posts:
Lightofthephoenix · 02/04/2020 19:56

According to my Mother

Apples and Bananas are essential

Strawberries are not essential and I got a telling off for adding them to my shop!

itssquidstella · 02/04/2020 20:19

We went to the big Tesco on Sunday and did a big shop. We'll go to the greengrocer and butcher tomorrow to top up and that should do us for another five days to a week.

willowpatterns · 02/04/2020 20:44

I did a 'big' supermarket shop yesterday, but unfortunately they didn't have A4 printer paper, which we have now run out of. So I had to go to a different shop today just for that.

For all I know, people were glaring at me and judging...

agentdaisy · 02/04/2020 20:46

I take it as the trip being the essential shopping rather than what you buy once you're there. Adding some chocolate or ice cream to the trolley makes no difference to the risk of catching or inadvertently spreading coronavirus.

I go to the shop twice a week at the moment, there's six of us and I can't drive and there's no way can I carry enough for a week for all of us in one trip. Even if I could carry enough food for a week we've only got a small fridge and freezer so a lot of the fresh stuff would go off.

What I've stopped doing is nipping to the shop for just a bar of chocolate or some bacon because I fancy it. Usually I'd call in most days for things I forgot the day before or Dh would call in after work for the heavy things which he can't do now as the shops are closed by the time he's finished work.

somm · 02/04/2020 23:00

Dog food is absolutely an essential buy that has to be supplemented once a week if you have a greyhound. They get 'hangry' if they're not fed every 20 minutes. They get hangry if they've had less than 50,000 calories over 24 hours. They get hangry if you say, 'I'm having my dinner, you've had your portion of dog food today."

On a serious note I was glad to see last week, with the new restrictions brought in by supermarkets, there were a lot more products on the shelves.

melj1213 · 03/04/2020 00:27

I work in a supermarket and idgaf what you buy once you are in the store, just as long as it sustains you for longer than a day or two.

The issue I have is seeing the same faces come in to the store every day or two and buying only a day or two's worth of stuff. Some of them might be doing it because they have no other way to shop, but for every shopper who only buys two days worth of stuff because it's all they can carry the two miles home, theres at least 5 who drive to the shop every few days just to get out of the house.

The people I see every few days perpetually buying "bits and pieces" instead of buying it all in a big shop once a week are the ones who annoy me because I am putting myself at risk every day.

My ex and I share 50/50 custody but atm he is wfh and I am at work 8-8, working with the public 5 days a week, so we have made the decision that DD will stay with him for the moment to reduce risk and to prevent her from having to go into school. I am not seeing my DD to protect her and my customers and yet some of those same customers are treating this thing like a holiday where browsing the supermarket every other day is an acceptable pastime.

TheClitterati · 03/04/2020 00:35

Clearly it's important not to overthink this 😁

joystir59 · 03/04/2020 00:47

Whatever my very seriously ill partner wants is 'essential'

Curiositykilledthecat113 · 03/04/2020 02:15

Some really stupid responses on this thread for such a basic concept. Get what you need but don’t go to the shop for one or two items? That’s stupid and not only are you putting yourself at risk and your family but everyone else around you. Those who are saying ‘sod the rules’ I hope you enjoy your chocolate, knowing that it could’ve caused another death.

NewYearNewJob123 · 03/04/2020 02:28

Just when you think you've seen the most over-dramatic sentence, another always comes along.

eaglejulesk · 03/04/2020 02:36

I would say a general shop done once a week is essential. Not essential - nipping out to get one or two items that you can probably do without until your weekly shop

That's how I see it, and that is what I'm doing.

PotholeParadise · 03/04/2020 02:40

Same as all the sensible people said.

Most individual items on their own are not essential. A trip to buy your favourite brand of crisps is not essential. A trip to buy one loaf of bread is not essential. A trip to buy one carton of milton is not essential.

A trip to buy a week's worth of food, including bread, crisps, potatoes, salad, fruit, cereal and jammy dodgers is essential, even if you throw in various forms of pudding too.

Reduce the numbers of times you visit a supermarket. If you are not there to argue over the last packet of pasta with James Snotsnose, 39, who is unknowingly incubating Covid-19, you can't catch it from him. If you don't catch it from him this Saturday, you can't pass it on to Flo in the petrol station on Wednesday.

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