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Original poster

To take DS shopping 30 mins away regardless?

81 replies

FresherThanMums · 01/04/2020 12:09

Our two lost local shops are no longer allowing DC in. I don't have alternative childcare and his nursery shut for good, even to key workers, as they couldn't afford to stay open.

My mum is a high risk group so couldn't have him. I have no other choice but to take him shopping but the local ones won't allow DC.

There is a little local shop that allows us in BUT the prices are so inflated and shopping, what I could get of it, is now twice the price. Not affordable.

Can't really get a shopping slot. I'm a key worker and not even click and collect is available. AIBU to just to take him shopping that's a good 30 min drive away? We enjoy the drive too. It feels normal.

OP posts:
Mummyshark2018 · 01/04/2020 13:07

Someone on here recommended co-op quick shop and I was able to get a delivery for 4pm today!

TulipsTwoLips · 01/04/2020 13:09

Go!

funnylittlefloozie · 01/04/2020 13:11

Oh for goodness' sake, of COURSE you can drive to a convenient supermarket. If your local stores are being unreasonable, either through cost or access arrangements, then you go where you need to. Its not very difficult.

Original poster
FresherThanMums · 01/04/2020 13:18

Can’t you go to the supermarket on the way home from work?

No, I'm timed and he'd want me back in timeb

OP posts:
PumpkinP · 01/04/2020 13:19

What’s a coop quick shop?’

I agree about the volunteers, I am sick of seeing people suggest it to single parents on here, on my local fb page they make it clear they are only interested in doing for the elderly and disabled so hopefully people will stop suggesting it as they don’t want to do it for just anyone, only people who physically can’t get out.

IllegalFred · 01/04/2020 13:22

Co-op quick shop is only available in very limited areas

Bibijayne · 01/04/2020 13:24

Only option really. YANBU.

alloutoffucks · 01/04/2020 13:25

Getting food is essential, so it is an essential journey. Its not as if you are driving 30 minutes to pick up a particular type of olive oil. Just do it OP and don't worry about it.

Bowerbird5 · 01/04/2020 13:25

I’m half an hour from a supermarket anyway. I can’t see a problem with it as you have tried to shop locally.

PumpkinP · 01/04/2020 13:25

Yeh not available in my area.

SimonJT · 01/04/2020 13:27

Of course, plus it’s a change in scenery for your little one which is a bit of a bonus.

MinorArcana · 01/04/2020 13:27

It doesn’t sound like you have any real choice in the matter.

You need to eat, and it makes more sense to do an occasional big shop in a supermarket than it does to pop to a little expensive local shop more frequently.

Waterloosunsets · 01/04/2020 13:28

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Apolloanddaphne · 01/04/2020 13:28

Of course you should. You need to eat and you need to take your DS with you. It is madness not to allow people with children into shops. I was at Morrisons this morning and there was a woman with two children coming out. She had a laden trolley so I imagine she has really stocked up so she doesn't have to go back again any time soon. That is what I would do if I were you.

YappityYapYap · 01/04/2020 13:30

Who is looking after your child while you work? It would make logical sense to go on the way home from work and use one of the NHS/vulnerable times to shop which are usually about the time most NHS get off night shift

newwnamme · 01/04/2020 13:30

No, I'm timed and he'd want me back in timeb

Eh?

Original poster
FresherThanMums · 01/04/2020 13:33

Who is looking after your child while you work? It would make logical sense to go on the way home from work and use one of the NHS/vulnerable times to shop which are usually about the time most NHS get off night shift

Ex H looks after him during the night shift. And he times me so expects me back on the dot pretty much with no leeway. There is the option for him to go for me but he won't get what I ask

OP posts:
PumpkinP · 01/04/2020 13:33

Well it depends on the area like I said mine make it very clear they are aiming it at elderly or disabled, they say it on their posts.

waterrat · 01/04/2020 13:37

OF course you can drive to shop. In London people drive to big supermarkets? SUrely most people who do a big supermarket shop do it in their cars. I was just in our local large park (London) and people were parked in the car park - the police hve already said that the line about 'essential car journeys' was bollocks and there is no legislation about driving at all.

newwnamme · 01/04/2020 13:39

Shop when and where you can. What else are you meant to do? You need to work. You need to be a parent for your DC. You have no-one else to leave him with as a result of restrictions you did not ask for. You need to work within the restrictions of a separated relationship with a person who's not making life easy for you. You need to work within the restrictions in place in your most local shops. You need to shop somewhere that is affordable and has a big enough range of things. Drive where you need to drive and shop where you need to shop. Think no more about it.

Marieo · 01/04/2020 13:43

YANBU as you don't have a choice. If you didn't have the option to drive somewhere else then I would suggest asking a volunteer. The ones here are more than happy to do shopping for anyone struggling, that would include a single parent who isn't permitted inside any local shops, and may not be able to travel anywhere Confused

flirtygirl · 01/04/2020 13:47

Go op.

And have more confidence in tour decisions, ie why ask here? you need the food and you can go get the food

so go get the food.

Hope the journey goes smoothly but please stop second guessing and doubting yourself. Getting food is within the regulations and many people have to travel to supermarkets.

Ethelfleda · 01/04/2020 13:49

I would in your situation, OP.

PerditaProvokesEnmity · 01/04/2020 13:49

What's this about your ex 'timing' you? What would he do if you were later than expected? Doesn't he expect his child to eat?

dottiedodah · 01/04/2020 13:52

Well what choice do you have really ,You need food for you both and you have to travel 30 mins so what . Would people prefer you starve? I had to go for around the same journey yesterday ,for Tampons for DD.None in local shops at all .Saw a couple of children yesterday in SM while there.Got some bread and cake ingriedants too .If you can manage to shop locally all well and good if not just go to nearest supermarket!