Shitty experience on supermarket

[TinyStripe]

Went to supermarket today. First day out after 14 days at home. Shoppers we're all pretty vigilant about social distancing but a few staff members didn't bother. One walked past me from behind and actually brushed past me then stopped dead on front of me. I asked if she wouldn't mind moving 2 metres away. She apologised and smiled and didn't seem too bothered by my comment. I felt my frustration levels rising and ended up finishing my shop early. I was there with my son. Someone in the queue said 'cannot believe how many selfish fuckwits bring their kids to the supermarket' - clearly aimed at me. I ignored. WIBU, to feel frustrated by the lack of social distancing, and by the comment? WIBU to take my son to the supermarket, considering I am a single mother living on my own? I burst in to tears in the car (ok, a lot of this is also due to being at home with my son and feeling really low in general). Just not a great experience and feel nervous to go shopping again in a couple of weeks.

YADNBU & as someone in the high risk group,with DD in it too, it boils my pee🤬

I've barely been out, but have taken to snarling at the idiot people loudly "if you can smell my perfume you are too fucking close" I'm way passed being polite or just accepting, especially as we've already lost people we know to the virus

Bucket your comment is moronic 🙄

They can get sacked for not complying with current safety rules you know. 😏

I feel for you. I am a lone parent too and its not easy. I went to the supermarket on Friday as we desperately needed a few bits and I was so stressed by the time I came out.

Its such a strange situation at the moment and I do think frustrations and tensions are running very high for everyone.

I feel like I'm veering between trying my best to keep calm about everything and reminding myself this will not last forever to welling up about what I know would otherwise be inconsequential things!!! I think as a lone parent its especially difficult as you don't have anyone in the house apart from your children that you can vent to and things tend to get bottled up more!

You moaned at the shop worker. Someone moaned at you. Karma looped around fairly quickly.

You can't expect people to be tolerant of you when you aren't tolerant of others.

Get a grip.

The staff member is the one who moved close to OP and stood right by her. Why should OP move out of her way?
And of course OP had to bring her son with her. The other person was thoughtless not considering the possibility that she might be a single parent and forced to bring him in.
(I will admit that I saw a woman with two children in the shops and thought that she shouldn't have them with her; took me a moment to remember that she might not have any other choice.)

We are avoiding supermarkets when ever possible. We use our lovely village shop or drive a few miles down the road to a small town where the butcher, local meat, veg shop and deli are open. People queue in an orderly manner and it’s very friendly

I just don't see how bringing a 17 month old in a pram to the shop is rude.

OP I don’t think you should ask staff to move away from you

How would they get any work done?

@AutumnRose1

No no. Whenever OP enters a store, everyone must split away from her akin to Moses and the Red Sea.

I personally would have found it easier to dodge the staff and stay 2m away from them than the other way around, but sure...

She wasn't stacking shelves. She brushed past me and just stopped. She was looking down the aisle. If I stepped back I would've been too close to the man behind me. I was very polite when I asked her.

Ah, stirrers. Never mind!

You weren't in the wrong at all. The shop worker was. You did the right thing to remind her politely about social distancing. It will likely help keep her a lot safer than you as she will see a lot more people.

I think everyone is very stressed right now but some places are handling things better than others. My 70 year old mum got shouted at by a shop worker this morning during the special OAP shopping hour as she had (unknowingly) put one foot over the 'yellow' line they'd marked out as the queue. She is single, has no help nearby at all and was extremely stressed and anxious about being out so being shouted at made her cry. They should have reminded her politely. Everyone needs to try a bit harder to be kind.

Everyone is highly stressed. The comment on your DC was rude, I think you were slightly rude to the staff member too.
You should have moved, imagine restocking around customer's, staff not supplied with masks, dealing with highly stressed customers. Her smile is probably hiding her words of anguish.
I'm doing my shopping later I'm dreading it.

I went to Tesco today, the first time in ages. They had designated up aisles and down aisles but still people were going the wrong way so you couldn't stay apart. Other than that it was fine, actually quicker once in the store as everyone was orderly not running about willy nilly. The only thing missing was flour .Plenty of loo roll and adequate pasta.

@ilovemydogandMrObama, she just sounds really really stressed then, your dh handled it well.

You’re obviously a little fragile after social isolation, and understandably so.

However breaking down and crying in your car with your toddler? That needs to be reigned in. Let that be your focus rather than a vaguely unpleasant supermarket experience when everyone a little fraught

I'm not fragike because of social isolation. It's a mixture of things. Battle with PND being the biggest. Maybe I am being too sensitive and I accept that.

OP she probably has to keep an eye out, constantly, for lots of things.

Cut the staff some slack.