To not know how to feed my family!

[Rosehip345]

We’re luckily not in the position yet. I can manage for another week I think.
I have four kids under 6, and I’m on my own. We don’t fit the criteria for vulnerable delivery slots, plus can’t actually get one.
How am I supposed to get any shopping?!!! Can’t take the kids in, can’t leave them outside, can’t get delivery!

I have to take 2 kids shopping with me. Usually they say 'only 1 person where possible' it isnt possible in OP situation so she'll have to take her kids with her. They need to eat. Just because we have kids doesnt make us any less entitled to food than anyone else. Take your kids with you OP itll be fine, like i say ive been doing it

The food bank has started delivering in some areas. Can you contact your local one and ask?

Let someone else do your shopping. Ask for help on local Facebook groups.

Thank you lots of good suggestions that I’ll look into. We’re currently self isolating but are almost at the fourteen days.

The supermarkets round here are only allowing one at a time and no kids. I’ll be ok for milk, bread and weekly pick ups at the garage where I can leave the kids in the car but obviously this isn’t going to work for a proper shop and isn’t exactly ideal.

I’ll look into the local farm shops etc, they’re a bit of a drive but they may take over the phone orders so I can run in and collect. Also will check FB for any ideas.

Not sure it’s particularly relevant but the kids are 6, 4, 2 and baby. My husband has to work away and as he’s in a vital role will need to stay there currently.

These pp are really starting to piss me right off with their bubble of married/middle class completely unfuckinaware of anyone else having different circumstances.
I was on my own at one point with 3 under 6, no parents, their dad fucked off, living in a new area, it happens, not through choice by anyone.
Wake the fuck up oblivious mummy’s!!!

It's not about being in a married/middle class bubble, it's that the OP very recently was talking about her husband - so it's natural to question where he fits in to this.

Hi Rosehip, where about are you? So many companies are delivering now. My local farm delivers within a 5 mile radius which has been great.

OK get onto facebook and find the local groups - there are also some "we deliver" type groups popping up - they do takeaway for a treat for you (you sound quite rightly a bit stressed out) but also butchers/farm shops/milk/bread etc etc etc, You just need to think a bit more laterally. Try ordering liquid tabs from specialist companies that deliver to the door for washing/dishwashers. Amazon for loo roll and handwash or soaps. There are also alot of soap makers out there selling online via etsy etc.

You are unlikely to get exactly what you normally get and expect the price to be higher at the moment as prices overall seem to have gone up. Eggs try and look for a farm gate if you are out of the cities/town but you might find you have to contact the folk and reserve eggs for collection

Above all ASK for help - you may feel guilt over this but please dont - we all have to look out for each other at the moment.

Take care

Is there no way your husband could even drop a load of shopping at your door, even if he has to stay apart from you guys? Or is he working very far away?

I've take my son in Aldi today no issues.

Sign up to the FB page of your nearest village or two. We are also rural - I don't think some pp actually understand what very rural means! I have been absolutely humbled by the caring attitude of people on my local village page towards absolute strangers.

Also,you could contact the school your oldest goes to and explain. Personally, as a not too busy at the moment primary school teacher I'd be more than happy to do your shop and drop it off. We are there to make sure the children we're missing teaching are all OK. Seriously, just ask.

I hope people will seriously consider having more than 2 children after this - a large family is not essential.

Set your alarm for 4am and see if you can get a delivery slot. I was up with the baby last week and logged on randomly and got a delivery for a weeks time - they were newly released slots. I also got one for in two weeks.
A friend also did the same, was awake as couldn’t sleep, logged on to check and got a delivery slot within 3 days.

It’s worth a try!

Contact your local vicar. S/He will know who has organised local people to offer support. The parish council are likely to have something organised. We have a facebook group for our street as well as a support group for the town, a neighbour is picking my meds up for me on monday when he collects his own.

People will help once you manage to connect to the right network.

get a delivery from a local farm shop? Join a facebook group and ask for help with shopping?

Click and collect. Take the kids in the car. Otherwise get friends/family/neighbour to get your shopping.

Why can't you husband do more? He has 4 children to feed. He needs to help. Unbelievable.

JKScot4 Sat 28-Mar-20 19:26:11
These pp are really starting to piss me right off with their bubble of married/middle class completely unfuckinaware of anyone else having different circumstances.
I was on my own at one point with 3 under 6, no parents, their dad fucked off, living in a new area, it happens, not through choice by anyone.
Wake the fuck up oblivious mummy’s!!!
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Why such vitriol? I would have thought you of all people would understand the op's anxiety. Even I, on my own and quite OK, can feel it acutely.

I sincerely hope when you were alone with three children, which must have been so difficult, thee was no epidemic at the time, never mind a pandemic.

People are trying to help her, some may not have much idea but at least they are making an attempt and it is kindly meant.

Now is not the time for resentment and vicious retorts.

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Op, Deliveroo have some supermarkets registered with them and garage shops sometimes deliver. The facebook idea is a good one too.

We're all rooting for you and your children (and for the above poster).

PS: I have to say I think you should be considered to be in the vulnerable category.

Go to your county council website they have a mine of information about local community groups that are helping people out, also ours has a helpline. There are plenty of people offering help and the councils are collating the information.

@ukgift2016 if you read the posts you’d see why her husband can’t help out

Our local farm shop will come out if you beep your horn, take your order through the window and put it in the boot for you. Worth a go.

OP, ignore the stupid people! Your DH is clearly working and away whether near or far. And I also have 4 children. With a DH who worked away. No burden on the state - all very financially viable and eco saving whenever possible.

And it doesn't help the OP with her problem. Save the sanctimonious shite people. Sometimes we come to MN for advice/ideas.

BE NICE!

TheReelSlimShady Sat 28-Mar-20 19:42:19
I hope people will seriously consider having more than 2 children after this - a large family is not essential.
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Not helpful in this instance, a bit like bolting the door after the horse has bolted.

Who could have anticipated we would be in a situation like this?

I hope people will seriously consider having more than 2 children after this - a large family is not essential

Not the time or place. Seriously!