Another boy

[CleverQuacks]

I am a single parent and currently pregnant with my 4th child. I already have three beautiful boys. A couple of weeks ago I went for a private gender scan and found out I am having another little boy. I am so happy! I love my boys so much and can’t think of anything better than adding another little lad to my brood.

However I haven’t been able to tell any of my family. Since I announced my pregnancy they have been making comments about how this baby better be a girl and I know they will be negative when I tell them it’s another little boy. I feel so sad for my little boy that his family will not be happy about him. My family are also the type to voice their disappointment so I know they will be negative.

Would it be awful to tell them I am not finding out the sex of the baby and then just announce it when he arrives? And hope that his arrival will be enough to stop any negative comments.

We did this, found out we were having a boy at 20 weeks but decided to keep it to ourselves. No harm in it, and it stops people buying you all blue/pink too!

I have 4 boys. I just told everyone when we found out and rolled my eyes at the shitty comments. You probably heard them all when you were pregnant with boy number 3 anyway I know I did!

Congratulations btw

I too have 4 sons. I love each and everyone of them and have never regretted not having a girl. It is other people who always seem surprised that I don't have a girl in the mix, saying you must have really wanted a daughter --- eh? no. I am more than happy with what I have thank you.

Congratulations on boy number 4. I love boys!

I would just say you don’t know too. People are rude but not so much when baby arrives. I’d never say anything negative but sadly many do. When I was pregnant with DD (12 today!) I had 2 boys and did want a DD, I found out the gender but kept it to myself. I was debating telling people had she been boy no 3 but not sure I would have. Ultimately healthy baby is all that matters, if people are rude I’d shame them

Could they have been just joking a wee bit ? My mother said I better be having a boy as she already several grand daughters via my siblings. I joked, you'll take what you're given and like it. Given the current circumstances they should be hoping for a healthy mum and baby. Make sure they know that.

I've three boys, now grown. I chose not to tell anyone what we were having the third time round to avoid the inevitable negative comments. I still had plenty of those during my pregnancy and it didn't stop the occasional idiotic comment after he was born, either. I still get asked if I'd have liked a girl, even now. I've absolutely loved having a pack of boys and honestly have never felt I've missed out because I don't have a daughter.

The wonderful thing will be your little gang. A girl in the mix would produce alsorts of dynamics people havent a clue about. Have joy in your boys. Dont tell them until he is born. Tell then you want a boy. See who declines having a cuddle

I had this and it was only my second pregnancy. It was mainly because it was all grandsons in the family. I did have a girl and my mam was over the moon but I really wouldn't have minded another boy, my boy is lovely.

I have 5 boys,and i just say great isnt it.It takes the wind out of their sails and they would have to be pretty shitty to say anything bad after that,

‘I’m having a boy. We’re going for a whole football team.’

Thank you everyone for the replies! I was worried that keeping it quiet would be seen as unfair on my family. However I just want some time to enjoy the fact I have a lovely little boy on the way. I will tell them when he arrives and they will just have to deal with it.

When I told people I was finding out at the scan, everybody wanted to know. When I told them it was another boy, I really wish I hadn't. I got lots of excited faces.... then the dropped faces and disappointed groans. A work colleague actually asked me if I was disappointed. I really regretted telling them this very personal and special information... for them to react so negatively. It still gets me now. Keep it to yourself... And enjoy your gorgeous baby boy!

Just don’t tell them, say you didn’t find out

Congratulations on your lovely news! I found out at 20 week scan but didn't tell anyone either.

Once I had had one of each and people asked when I was pregnant again if it was an accidental given I had the boy/girl, in truth that baby was the only one I have planned 😂😂

We found out by accident as he was showing off with my second son and I got not just silly comments but actually nasty comments and my in laws weren't even bothered with meeting him I ended up with postpartum depression and lost a friend over nastiness it still gets to me now. So I would say don't tell and wait until he's born. Like you I felt very protective over him and it made me so sad. So perhaps me opinion is biased based on my experience. The thing was I was over the moon I adore watching my boys.. Also I have disabilities that it affect the girls in my family and cause foot deformities and many surgeries so I was a little relieved also from a medical perspective. Congratulations on a beautiful boy its a shame people define babies by gender like they are all going to be exactly the same.. Guarantee if someone stereotyped them based on sex then there would be an outrage. So happy and slightly jealous of you I've only got 2 at the moment 😉

To add we didn’t tell anybody with our 2nd son- just went along the lines of ‘We’re waiting until birth to find out because we don’t care either way’ (tbf we didn’t actually care!) and that made me feel so much more relaxed. Negative comments were few and far between- after birth everyone is concerned with how well and recovered you are and a healthy beautiful baby to celebrate.

I have 3 boys and kept my 3rd pregnancy a secret for a few months precisely because of this sort of thing. If you tell people it's a boy then if they are morons they will show their disappointment. If you say you dont know the sex then in my experience you will still get people saying that they hope its a girl etc because to them there is every chance that it still could be. What worked for me was to tell people that we knew the sex of the baby but were keeping it to ourselves until the birth. I found that we got fewer negative comments because people knew that we could possibly be having another boy and that what they were saying could upset us. I absolutely adore having 3 sons. Congratulations on your 4th baby boy!

We only told a couple of people that we knew would be happy for us. Everyone else found out when he was born.

We have 2 girls and are having a boy this time round. If it had been another girl I wouldn't have told anyone because before we found out I got lots of comments about how I must really really want a boy this time. No just a healthy baby.

Congratulations! If people ask could you just say you are not finding out because it's not important to you. Say you just want your baby to arrive safely and they will be loved for who they are no matter their sex.

Another mum of 4 boys, congratulations on boy no4!! You’ll have great fun it’s a noisy house here that’s for sure.

I didn’t find out with any of mine but you all get the comments with these things, I didn’t care and was quite happy with my lovely boys. My friend had a girl after 3 boys a few months after my son and I was over the moon for her but glad I have boys just tell them and ignore any negativity

Congratulations!

Ignore your dumb family, your little boy is already lucky to have a protective mum looking out for him.

If anyone starts, beckon them over with a hooked finger, and whisper gently in their ear, "Shut the fuck up."