To think he could get in trouble for this?

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My husband has applied for divorce I got the letter this morning. He had selected the 'separated for 2 years option' which is lies. We haven't been separated for 2 years yet. He's a liar. He left me for another woman. We have no proper contact or financial arrangements in place for the children because he's been difficult throughout and now he's sent for divorce and lied about the date we separated ! Surely this is wrong to divorce. Of course I want to divorce this prick but he's only doing it as the woman he left me for is pressuring him to marry her and why does he just get to walk away without any proper arrangements in place as he knows I have no money for representation or court orders.
I've Been made out to be this bad guy by him and his gf and now this divorce makes me look like the bad guy even more and it's all lies. He left me and came back to me to male out marriage work but then left me again for the same woman and now he gets to LIE!!!

Contest it with any evidence you have he was still in the marriage...

Yes, contest this and provide as much evidence as you can.
Don’t let him get away with this.

How was he even allowed to along for a divorce in a crisis like this ?

Its automated tick box these days

It sure why he didn’t just tick adultery...

You could contest it or you could just accept he's a dick and move on with your life

Might be an easy way out, you either fight it or let it be for an easier life

I don't think you can divorce someone for your own adultery. The alternative would be trumping up some unreasonable behaviour, or you divorcing him.

Can you provide a copy of a council tax bill as proof he was with you? They'll not look favourably on him for lying.

You have to have an agreement in place for contact and maintenance. I think his application will just be thrown out without one?

Does he have a solicitor? If hes doing a DIY divorce then it will only really work if you are amicable, lots of things need to be done within specific timeframes so communication if useful.

Thanks everyone
He's done an online divorce
Nothings in place as he's been difficult
We had a joint tax credit award until a week after he left me ( I left it a Week before applying for single thinking he would come back)
So I have that as proof. I also have proof that he signed a right to buy form for when he wanted to 'try again' until he left me again for her.
I know divorce is inevitable and of course I want him out of my life in that respect but he seems to think we can divorce and everything stays the same with no agreements saying 'it's just paper, we can keep everything the same'
How was he even allowed to put in an application when there is a national crisis. Who the hell applies for a a divorce when I can't do anything about it
He did it deliberately at this time I think

Do you not want to get divorced?

How long have you been separated then?

When you speak to a lawyer, who will be rational, and not interested in who has been shagging who, you will be told NOT to defend the divorce and cross petition on adultery.

You will be advised to proceed on 2 years separation, once the time has elapsed.

Lawyers are still operating remotely. Contact one.

You can point out the timing lie and just take the position there should be no divorce until all money and child custody issues are agreed. That’s quite common and perfectly reasonable.

My solicitor advised me not to bother contesting if I didn't want to stay married anyway.
It really doesn't make a difference what the written reason is. Unless you want to stay married you might as well get on with it.

Put in for CSA.

He says everything will stay the same but it won't. He or her will start moaning about paying maintenance and will try and screw you and the children over.

Divorce him for adultery. Can you delete the link and pretend you never got it? Not sure if that is fraud .

The thing you might want to consider is the sharing of assets. If the thinks you separated 2 years ago, then assessment would be done at that point. Depends on your circumstances whether you’d be entitled to spousal maintenance/ share of pension etc, but there may be a financial benefit to him from pretending the split was longer ago than it actually was.

No way would I agree to it just to get rid of him.
My exH cheated on me but wouldn’t put that as the reason because the OW wouldn’t consent to her name being used , which at the time was required.
I ended up using his unreasonable behaviour, which he agreed to. I wanted the papers to truly reflect what happened. It was very important to me.
Maybe send him a message to say you will respond once you are in a position to get legal advice.
I would also start applying for CM online and get the ball rolling to separate finances completely if it hasn’t already been done.

It says if I don't sign it he could go ahead with the divorce without me. And even I wished to agree or contest it, I will need to print it all off and fill it out but I don't have access to a printer with what's going on. Is he really allowed to just go ahead if I can't access thinks due to this crisis? When there isn't even any child agreements in place?

Just tell him until you can seek legal advice he can roll it up and shove it up his arse....

Where does it say he can go ahead without you if you don’t sign?
That’s bollocks.
If you don’t agree, he needs to go for 5 years separation.
I would just email back - “form incorrect, we have not been separated for two years”.
Then tell him that if he sends you the money NOW for the application fee, you’ll tick them box for adultery, which will move it forward.

What @windy says!

Contest it because of the date simply because it may impact on finances. I would seek legal advice even if it's from the legal people on here that have true knowledge on the implications.

Not sure if you counter with adultery but only if you found out in the last 6 months, or unreasonable behaviour such as moving out to live with his mistress?