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Original poster

Being jealous of my partner?

53 replies

Bazingaaaaa · 28/03/2020 12:27

Just a few things I'm jealous of! This also happened when I was working and he'd sort ds dinner and bed that was it!
He doesn't work, I do but off due to isolation
He goes to bed whenever he wants 3/4am gets up whenever he wants 1/2pm
Never gets up for our 21 mo ds.. When he does he moans his arse off and bangs about so I'm awake anyway
Wanders away with headphones on almost 24/7 (if he could)

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fedup21 · 28/03/2020 12:29

Why doesn’t he work? Has he never worked?

MouthBreathingRage · 28/03/2020 12:30

Jealous? Of what? Why is he a man child? Why didnt he work before this? Doesn't sound like he was a SAHP either, as they certainly dont get up whenever they feel like.

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Bazingaaaaa · 28/03/2020 12:30

Says he doesn't cause I do and he 'looks' after ds

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Bigpaintinglittlepainting · 28/03/2020 12:30

Wtaf honestly why are you even together? He sounds like a manchild

MulticolourMophead · 28/03/2020 12:32

He sounds like a waste of space. Are you sure you can't do better?

So he doesn't really look after your DS, but doesn't work. Not very attractive, really.

Nicknacky · 28/03/2020 12:32

Did he work before you had your son?

LagunaBubbles · 28/03/2020 12:34

I'm sorry but when I read posts like this you really have to question why someone would be in a relationship with such a lazy useless partner. It's your choice at the end of the day. I'm sure he was exactly the same before he was isolating.

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Bazingaaaaa · 28/03/2020 12:34

Yes he has worked before, I only work p/t but still need time now n again to myself and I also wouldn't mind sleep

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mcmooberry · 28/03/2020 12:34

Wouldn't say jealous was the right word, he sounds awful. Would find his behaviour intolerable and would not want to be with him.

JorisBonson · 28/03/2020 12:35

What a complete arsehole. What does he even bring to your life?

Purpletigers · 28/03/2020 12:35

Has he never worked ? What did he do before your child was born ?

Purpletigers · 28/03/2020 12:36

So he doesn’t work and you only work part time ? How can you manage to feed and house three people on part time wages ?

Crunchymum · 28/03/2020 12:37

Does he smoke weed?

Tatty101 · 28/03/2020 12:37

And you find his approach to you and life attractive?

Wow

Innitogether · 28/03/2020 12:46

I’ve voted YABU for staying with someone like this.

YA also BU for being jealous of such a selfish lazy arse. Surely you must want more from life than wanting to stay up all night, not work, and not wanting to pull your weight in a relationship?

Etinox · 28/03/2020 12:48

Did you win him in a raffle? Or did he completely change personality when you got pregnant?

Amazemae · 28/03/2020 12:48

Please do not have any more children with this man.

Elieza · 28/03/2020 12:48

Sorry OP but what attracted you to him, was he working before full time and then reduced hours or what? I have to ask, sorry, why did you have a child to this lazy arse? Why do you want to be with him? Is it time to start thinking of what’s best for you and dc, and this could be leaving? He doesn’t seem that keen on either of you and isn’t good company or helpful. He’s using dc as an excuse to stay home. Why are you with him? What will happen when dc goes to school and he has no excuse to stay at home?

EmeraldShamrock · 28/03/2020 12:51

I wouldn't be jealous of him. I would have NO respect for him slobbing like a teenager, not providing for his family in anyway, financially or emotionally.
OP get rid of this dead beat. DC will always model their parents behaviour, they learn all their life skills from the parents, when they are bad skills it takes them years to undo the damage. Don't let them suffer his laziness.

Alfiemoon1 · 28/03/2020 12:54

Totally missing the point but how do you afford to live on 1 part time wage. Has he always been like this ?

cockcrowfarm · 28/03/2020 12:55

I voted YABU for feeling jealous of a man who seems to be a bit of a mess and a total dick. I'm sorry, I hope you can sort the situation out between yourselves for the benefit of your children and your relationship.

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Bazingaaaaa · 28/03/2020 12:59

Things haven't always been like this, he was working when we first met, we had something happened to us a few years ago and he lost his job, I'm not jealous of the way he is I'm jealous of how easy he has things, I deal with all the tantrums, I get toys flung at me, I do mornings, breakfast, lunch then usually away to work and by the time I'm home ds is in bed and we have dinner then chill before I'm falling asleep on the sofa at the back of 10 😴 I feel like I can't cope and anytime I tell ds off I feel like the worst mother ever 😢

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WithLotsOfSprinkles0 · 28/03/2020 12:59

Cock lodger at its finest.

I'd rather be on my own than accept whatever little help this man child is willing to do. I couldn't work bringing home the money while your with someone who's getting up in the afternoon.

Nows a good time to get rid.

FazakAli · 28/03/2020 13:04

I don't understand why do women have children with men like this? I think you should leave him with the baby & live elsewhere tbh. He's not working so he can do the childcare and save money and you can switch to full time work. The lazy bastard.

Thehop · 28/03/2020 13:05

Get rid, he’s a waste of space.