Being jealous of my partner?

[Bazingaaaaa]

Just a few things I'm jealous of! This also happened when I was working and he'd sort ds dinner and bed that was it!
He doesn't work, I do but off due to isolation
He goes to bed whenever he wants 3/4am gets up whenever he wants 1/2pm
Never gets up for our 21 mo ds.. When he does he moans his arse off and bangs about so I'm awake anyway
Wanders away with headphones on almost 24/7 (if he could)

He's sounds a bit like my son.
Plays computers games till late and gets up at lunch time.
I hope he grows out of it.
He does work though and has left home.

This relationship isn't doing, and won't do you any good at all in the future. As soon as is possible given the current situation I'd get away from him if I were you. He's a cocklodger and you're just his lackey. Don't waste your life with him. If you stay with him too long he will grind you down further and further.

I voted YABU because you are, to put up with this dickhead.

Pointless moaning that you're "jealous" tell him to shape up or ship out.

What are you getting out of this relationship?

He doesn't work.
He does almost no childcare.
What exactly is he doing to contribute?

One can only assume he must be a shit-hot lover, otherwise what the hell are you still doing with him?

He's not a partner. He's doing fuck all, in fact he's actually doing less than fuck all because he's making your life harder.

Seriously, ask yourself what you're getting out of this? Because I think you'd be significantly happier and less stressed without him

How do you pay all your bills/rent/mortgage?

How do you cope on one part time wage ? What do you do ?

Also if you’re struggling with one child , make sure you don’t have another with this man .

You aren't jealous of him. You are sick of his shit and rightly so.

Stop being jealous and start behaving as if you have far more power than you think you do - because you do.

Getting pissy about your partner is a distraction from the fact that you are tolerating his behaviour, and you don't need to. You look after yourself and your own; he is unimportant.

I wouldn't be jealous of a waster....

I'd get rid of one.

OP what are you doing with this waste of space?!
My DH doesn’t work now, but only because he was seriously injured in an accident and was then medically retired in an accident. I work full time. I sometimes get annoyed with him, but I certainly wouldn’t be putting up with that shit from someone who doesn’t work just because!! He’s a lazy arse!!

He doesn’t work and you only work part-time. How do you manage?

Why are you putting up with this? It sounds like an awful life.

You need to start afresh without this man child dragging you down.

I don't understand why you are with him and tbh don't have much empathy for you. Sure he wasn't like that in the beginning, they never are. This doesn't mean you cant leave him now. If he doesn't work or help with his child he is a waste of space and you are enabling his shitty behaviour. It will continue because you allow it and don't stand up for yourself. Neither of you sound like good role models for your son and the cycle will be repeated. Instead of moaning, make a change in your life. Communicate with him, if he doesn't change make some hard decisions. You can change your life if you want to otherwise accept it and get on with it. This probably sounds harsh but I think that is what you need to hear.

It's he depressed? If not, he is taking the mickey.

I'm jealous of aspects of his life too!!

Don't be jealous - get angry! Tell him he must start pulling his weight or you'll kick him out. And mean it.

Yabu fir not getting angry and kicking him out. What a shit father and husband. Just get rid. He’s a loser.

Sounds awful
Why are you putting up with it?
Do you want your life to change after this whole mess?

Why are you putting up with this?

Clearly the part time wage is topped up with benefits.

🎶 I dont want no scrub, a scrub is a man that cant get no love from me🎶

Eurgh vile man child

He's taking massive advantage of you :( The only reason he has the freedom to get up when he likes, do no childcare, not bother his arse about working is because you are doing all these things for him. I bet he expects you to do all the cooking and cleaning, as well.

Honestly, what do you get out of this relationship? People always used to ask me this on MN when I was with my equally useless ex (although at least he had a job!) and I was always confused because I didn't understand why you would be in a relationship trying to get something out of it, I just thought it was something that happened when you "loved" someone ie saw a tiny glimmer of good/nice/happy/funny in someone even though everyone else could see they were a waster.

A healthy relationship doesn't have to be like that - a healthy adult relationship is where you both share the load and geniunely make life easier for each other - this is totally one sided, and it's not OK. It's not fair on you.

Sorry but I wouldn’t put up with this. He sounds like he’s living a single man’s lifestyle and not a partner. I’d seriously consider leaving this fool

He sounds awful. Don't be jealous, why would you want that life? This self isolation will be showing you how bad he really is. I'd plan to leave him when all this is over.