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FuckCovid19 · 27/03/2020 11:46

Not sure if this needs a trigger warning
(Name changed cos I felt like it and this might be outing)

I know that this isn't exactly the end of the world, and I realise that there are worse things going on right now, but I just need a moan. So here goes:

Last Friday, our beloved Rottweiler died. He was 10 and a half and had been diagnosed with cancer (osteosarcoma, that had spread basically everyfuckingwhere!!) the week before and the vets couldn't say how long he had left. I'm still wondering why the fuck they woke the poor sod up after his xrays but hey ho

I came downstairs to let him out for a wee and there he was, lying on the floor Sad I thought we'd have more time, and I honestly thought we'd end up taking him to the vets to be PTS because everyone kept telling me "you'll know when it's time". But no, he passed away, alone, on the living room floor, after seemingly wandering about during the night in pain.

Anyway, he'd obviously been lying on the couch and had had a bout of diarrhoea (with some blood in it) which has soaked through the throw that was on there and has made an absolute mess of the couch Sad DH (god bless him) spent ages cleaning up the mess on the floor where DDog passed away, but we aren't really equipped to clean the couch, and I actually bought couch cover from DFS when we got it, so we rang and made a claim, filled out all the forms and have been waiting patiently for them to come and clean it for us.

Well, they aren't coming now cos everyone is on lockdown and their staff aren't going out to anyone's homes. That's fair enough. I get that we have to do our best to stop this stupid fucking virus from ravaging the country. But I'm still gutted that my couch fucking stinks and it's a contant reminder of walking downstairs to find my lovely dog dead on the floor.

I'm devastated that my lovely boy has gone, and who knows how long it will be till someone can come and clean the couch. I can't afford a new one, but even if I could I can't go out and buy one anyway!!

I also would just love a hug from my mum, but she's 71 and is self isolating Sad so fuck knows when I'll be able to actually get near her!!

So, thanks for reading. Not sure what the point of this thread actually is, just needed to vent I suppose.

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JosephineKarlsson · 27/03/2020 14:00

Flowers for you OP and your massive derp.

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FuckCovid19 · 27/03/2020 14:01

I've checked my contents policy @GiveMeStrength2day and it doesn't cover fouling by pets - so thats a no go

The chap I spoke to a Guardsman this morning was very apologetic and sympathetic but they won't be sending anyone out.

The couch has been covered up with a puppy pad that has a plastic backing (put upside down so the plastic is whats facing up) and then 2 throws, so we aren't touching the stain. Its the smell thats getting to me.

DH has taken the throws off today and febreezed the couch again, and I've asked him to re-wash the throws so they smell nice. I will ask him to get the carpet cleaner out of the loft so I can have a go at cleaning it tomorrow

We can't just leave it, like you say, it's a health hazard.

On a brighter note, my new rug is coming today (as the old one was soiled too and I couldn't face trying to clean it) so that should bring some colour back to my very sad living room

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Itsmybirthday19 · 27/03/2020 14:06

No advice, but just wanted to say how wonderful your boy sounds.

He was obviously so very loved and had a wonderful life x

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FuckCovid19 · 27/03/2020 14:08

Oh @HoofWankingSpangleCunt I'm so sorry for your loss Flowers

@oohnicevase we have a very similar looking VAX carpet cleaner thingy machine, I'll see if DH thinks it's a good idea and I'l probably let him do it as he's better at things like that than I am Grin

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myusernamewastakenbyme · 27/03/2020 14:15

What a gorgeous dog...what lucky children to grow up with him x

Windyatthebeach · 27/03/2020 14:17

Op we also lost our 10 yo rotty to cancer- 4 weeks ago. Pts. Omg it was awful. Not the actual process - nurse and vet were amazing - but saying goodbye.
Sorry you have also lost a huge -literally - part of your life. My ddog had surgery last year for a mammary tumour but a brain tumour took its place sadly.
The vast gap left behind is an odd silence. We have other ddogs but the house feels silent...
Nothing as fab as a huge blackness on a sofa...

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FuckCovid19 · 27/03/2020 14:22

Just pinched these off DH’s FB page, I think they highlight DDog’s derpyness beautifully 😂😂

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steppemum · 27/03/2020 14:23

the simple solution stuff is much much less invassive than vaxing etc, and doesn't appear to have taken the stain resistant coating off our carpet.

Honestly it was the only thing that got rid of the smell. The fact it got rid of the coloured stain was a bonus.

It isn't cheap, but I wouldn't use anything else. Washing powder/vax etc all use a lot of water, and are much more likely to remove colour and the coating. The simple solution works!

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FuckCovid19 · 27/03/2020 14:25

And these highlights his cuteness. That’s DSD, she’s nearly 20 and has grown up with DDog. He loved his sisters so much, and was so good with both of them!

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oohnicevase · 27/03/2020 14:28

Honestly it works really well .. it sucks the muck out of the sofa .

lowlandLucky · 27/03/2020 14:30

Your family must be heartbrokenBrew Cake Flowers

RedElephants · 27/03/2020 14:32

We lost our GSD last week op, I've just posted on another thread,_
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I didn't actually want another dog when Dh brought her home as a 4mth old.
*I was childminding at the time, and generally childminding and dogs don't always mix well, we'd also not long lost our other GSD to cancer. I was still grieving for her.

Saying that however, I've since had an adult and their child, plus another child come through my setting
(who's family went on to get their own dog)
who were frightened of dogs, and overcame their fears..*

I totally get where your coming from with some of your sentiments.

I didn't always like him, but I loved him
He was annoying, and loud, and messy, and smelly, and his fur shed loads cos Rotties have a double coat...

Thanks for you op

Wavescrashingonthebeach · 27/03/2020 14:33

I have no constructive advice just want to send big hugs and condolences Flowers we lost our beautiful rottie just before Christmas. Such a gentle soul he was.
I hope that despite how awful it is you gain gain comfort that your lovely dog passed at home, where he felt safe and oh god im crying now Blush

Bananacloud · 27/03/2020 14:38

😞😞😞 this post made me cry

Chocness · 27/03/2020 14:39

So sorry for your loss.

I second bicarbonate of soda and vinegar. I have a cat who is frequently sick on the carpet. I spray the carpet very liberally with white vinegar. When soaked sprinkle bicarbonate of soda over the vinegar. It will fizz etc... I leave the area for a couple of days until bicarbonate is dry then get my hoover out and really go hell for leather on the affected area. It works a treat and I have very cream carpets. If you’re concerned about leaving it on do a patch test somewhere unnoticeable then lift off bicarbonate and mop up excess moisture with kitchen roll. Good luck and you’re dog sounded a very lucky chap to have been loved so dearly and given such a great life.

GabsAlot · 27/03/2020 14:39

bless you op he looks lovely-sorry for your loss

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FuckCovid19 · 27/03/2020 14:41

@Wavescrashingonthebeach you're right, it was a blessing that he passed away at home, where he was most comfortable. I was dreading having to take him back to the vets to be PTS because taking him this last time really stressed him out, and when he went for the xrays on the Thursday he was leaning into me like he didn't want to be left, he was so quiet and subdued because they'd obviously hurt him the day before when they were examining him (not on purpose obviously, I've ready that osteosarcoa is incredibly painful) so in some ways it's better that he died at home.

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Hopeisnotastrategy · 27/03/2020 14:43

I’m so sorry.

Afternooninthepark · 27/03/2020 14:46

So sorry for your loss, dogs are so precious.

Shinyfloors · 27/03/2020 14:47

Flowersyour photos made me smile and cry at the same time, what a beautiful DdogFlowers

Wavescrashingonthebeach · 27/03/2020 14:49

Ahhhhh OP! Yes, try and take as much comfort from that as you can. He didnt have to make a final journey to a place he hated. Just looked at some of your photos, what a beautiful boy! Nothing like a big squishy rottie taking pride of place on the couch or rug! And those gentle brown eyes. Wonderful breed they are.

Wavescrashingonthebeach · 27/03/2020 14:51

Take your time to grieve, cry your eyes out and share all your memories on here. We may be isolated, but were all together in a way too.

Handsnotwands · 27/03/2020 14:52

I don't know if it will help you feel any better but my dog, who was velcroed to me throughout her life, who was happy anywhere as long as she was with me had a long standing health condition which dramatically and suddenly deteriorated on a bank holiday weekend. She wanted to be alone, i think she knew she was dying and it's the only time in her life that she took herself off away from me. Try not to feel bad that you weren't there at the end. It's likely that given a choice it's what he would have chosen x

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contrary13 · 27/03/2020 15:03

"Vinegar mixed with bicarb of soda is good"

I can second this, also 1001 carpet cleaner (I use it on our DFS couch all the time to rid the scent of cheesy teenage boy feet, as well as cat/dog odours).

I'm so sorry for your loss, OP. The thing about "you'll know when its time" bit, though, isn't right. We lost our 13 year old Spaniel on Halloween to something similar (spinal tumours) - he'd stopped eating, and we took him to the vet thinking "oh, they'll give him something to stimulate his appetite!", because he didn't give any indication that he was in pain walking - a bit doddery, but then, age comes into play with four legs. We walked out of there without him. Our vets couldn't have been better - she felt along his spine, and then stopped and told us what it was from both what she was feeling and his resigned reaction. HE knew when it was time... we didn't. Luckily, my 15 year old son was with us there, because although I didn't want him to witness his best friend's passing, I know how much easier it made it for him.

Like our dog, yours went surrounded by the people he loved most in the world, and in a place that smelt of home, and family, and love to him - not the sterile, fear-scented vet's surgery. I know it's left an awful mess (in more ways than one) for you to deal with, but please take some comfort that your dog's no longer in any pain.

As for why they woke him up after the X-ray, your vet should have called you and asked you what you wanted them to do, before they allowed him to come round. Maybe think about challenging them on this, or change vets if you have any other animals in your life. Personally, I think what they did breaches the trust you placed in them to care for your dog.

Flowers