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To want to borrow space under someone's patio

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PatioCandidate · 27/03/2020 11:07

DH working from home for the first time today. I've been working at home since lockdown, we're in the same occupation but different fields. I've already had to interrupt what I was doing to sort out his internet connection.

In a burst of wifely affection I just took him a coffee and asked him whether he was going to come out to wave at the neighbours - we've developed a nice little tradition of going out at a set time to check we're all OK and have a quick long distance chat. So he immediately looked harassed and put upon, like this was some dreadful imposition. I took the piss a bit about Mr Cheerful, whereupon he said "MY work needs brain concentration". Because of course mine is a total doddle.

That's definitely the last coffee he gets brought. Something tells me it's going to be a l o o o o o n g lockdown, I may need to DH sized space under a patio before too long.

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Doyouthinktheysaurus · 27/03/2020 22:06

I think loved ones working from home will all be under the patio before long.

I had 1 day of DH wfh and I nearly killed him. We actually argued as to whether 12 meant 12 or might mean 13😳 So daft, further details would make me look even more of an idiot!

Worst thing is I am still working, so I'm out a lot of weekdays. My day off yesterday was hell and I'm now wishing I had a 9-5 Monday to Friday nursing role rather than shifts....

CoupeCourte · 28/03/2020 07:11

@KevinsCarter there's a simple answer to that one. Stop feeding him. If he can't possibly look after his own child for however long it takes you to get the groceries, then you can't get groceries, so there's no food for him. He does sound like a wanker. Maybe suggest he reads DD the story of the little red hen, he might be able to learn the consequences of opting out of contributing to the household.

countrygirl99 · 28/03/2020 07:42

Try working at home, firefighting crises, at the table in a kitchen diner, when the other 2 people in the house both have no work😡
DH was lucky to survive the first 2 days - was it really that important for me to break from preparing info for updating the (very large, must keep open in the crisis) company website to watch a clip of a dodgy refereeing decision from 2012? At least DS1 keeps out of my hair.

DustOffYourHighestHopes · 28/03/2020 07:47

My husband also has Very Important Work. Every minute of it trumps my work, every time.

Huge mystery.

copycopypaste · 28/03/2020 12:02

My, now exh was like this, even tho I earned twice as much as him. His job was always more important than mine. Kids ill, I had to get them, problems with the house, I had to sort them, kids awake at night, yup I had to sort that too, he would never take time off for anything but holidays. During his holidays he'd have to rest, as he needed his downtime. He was more than happy to use my wages to do his expensive hobby tho.

Blastandbollocks · 28/03/2020 12:06

DH is working from home. I'm on a rota but working from home on the days I'm not in (key worker). He's in the office with a door which shuts. I'm in the dining room which is in between kitchen and living room. I don't disturb him, but he things nothing of disturbing me; and then gets cranky when I'm short with him because I'm working.
It's not quite patio yet, but I do think I'm going to need to move a table or something into the conservatory so I can work in peace.

CadburysTastesVileNow · 28/03/2020 15:02

My dh is digging out a new 'flowerbed'. Should i be worried?

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