To want to borrow space under someone's patio

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DH working from home for the first time today. I've been working at home since lockdown, we're in the same occupation but different fields. I've already had to interrupt what I was doing to sort out his internet connection.

In a burst of wifely affection I just took him a coffee and asked him whether he was going to come out to wave at the neighbours - we've developed a nice little tradition of going out at a set time to check we're all OK and have a quick long distance chat. So he immediately looked harassed and put upon, like this was some dreadful imposition. I took the piss a bit about Mr Cheerful, whereupon he said "MY work needs brain concentration". Because of course mine is a total doddle.

That's definitely the last coffee he gets brought. Something tells me it's going to be a l o o o o o n g lockdown, I may need to DH sized space under a patio before too long.

I’ve just dug out a new flower bed op. The garden centre is closed so can’t get any fertiliser. I am also running low on toilet rolls

DH being a complete arse to DC now. He complaining house is messy (it is!) But he's the worst culprit! Argggghhhhh!!!

Building à muck heap here. Nice concrete base plus a heap load of sheep deep litter and horse shit. Nobody's going to be looking too hard at that.

Mine has just informed me that he can’t just stop what he’s doing and give me an answer, I pointed out that he expects me to do just that. Apparently he never does that.

I’m going to start recording him.

It's my birthday next week and my sister messaged this morning to say she has ordered my something as a pressie but it will be a day late. I did ask was it a shovel 😂

I am already eyeing up the hole the neighbours have dug, for the foundations of their extension. If dh tells me one more time how he feels 'a bit odd' and his chest feels 'a bit tight' when he wakes up (but this is relieved if he takes the dog for a walk, and he is not breathless) and he coughed twice yesterday, so will I feel his forehead, he's going in it!

Omg. We've had the last 2 weeks off, but are back next week and will both be WFH.

We do different jobs, but both require a lot of concentration. We both have to be at opposite ends of the house to preserve confidentiality. DP has unilaterally decided he'll need to work at the kitchen table, because he has to use a mouse and a full-size keyboard (?) so I'll have to work upstairs in our bedroom.

Which means I'll have to fucking tidy it up a bit as we're having to do some sort of facetime/skype type shite with our laptops. My team will piss themselves at that, me reclining on our bed (the only place to sit!) with the dog trying to "help".

I understand where you’re coming from, but we completely leave each other alone when we’re working

He managed to cope with being interrupted by me bringing him coffee, though.

When I was doing a software engineering course in the early 80's, we were taught that after a short interruption, like the conversation you describe, it takes about 20 minutes to recover your mental state.

He'd been interrupted already by the coffee delivery, which didn't seem to bother him.

He's at work, he's not there to wave at the neighbours FFS. You crack on and wave away and let him do his work - just like you should expect him to if you are working.

I don't care whether he waves at them or not, the issue is the implication that his work is IMPORTANT MAN BRAIN work and mine isn't that pissed me off. Though in practice he's usually much more up for a gossip with the neighbours than I am, he knows all the local scandal, which is why I thought he might like to spend 5 minutes socialising.

Making disgusting messes in the toilet
Same here. I got "I know you're not my scivvy but..." to which I responded "well you're the only one using that loo"
(I always run upstairs for the exercise!)
Next day "You didn't clean the loo?", me: "I'm not your scivvy" (I had popped a new cleaning tablet in the cistern but apparently he didn't notice the water had gone blue again)

We've only got a small patio but I think the diagonal would be just about long enough.🤔

You need one of these

My DH has been working longer hours since this all kicked off (from home). I commented to him how we hadn't fallen out. He pointed out that we hadn't actually seen each other. Do however require 2 teenager sized patio plots.

Sorry, full photo

Erm, is there space for two under that patio? We're in a flat with no balcony or garden, both key workers WFH with children home learning... but of course only his job is sacrosanct...

So you took the piss but then were offended when he said something back? Ok.

I'm assuming yours was gentle teasing while his was nasty?

Mine is working from home in our bedroom and starts making calls at 7am. Just when i could justify a lie-in ...

Mine has been off 2 days. He has got up both days, rushed around like a lunatic getting everything he wanted to get done by 11.30am. Then spends all day moaning he is bored.

Me and kids been in lockdown for 2 weeks and know the score and how to pace ourselves nicely. Dh needs to hurry up and learn because if he rushes me through coffee 1 more time I'm gonna stab him .

I've voted YABU but it's really half and half.

YANBU at being annoyed at his comments about using your brain.

YABU to expect him to stop what he's doing to go chat to the neighbours and to take the piss out of him for wanting to get on.

If DH brings me a coffee then I take it as a nice gesture, not a summons to stop what I'm doing to do what he wants me to.

Important man brain 😂

I voted YABU as I need all available patio space for distributing my DH's body parts I'm afraid!

I too need patio space.The kids are being wonderful while I work at the dining room table, in their rooms doing their own thing. So of course DP, who isn't working, has decided to come in, put the television on at full volume, channel surf and shout over periodically to grace me with his pearls of wisdom about anything entering his mind. I'm ready to stab him with a fork.

At least he's working! Mine is off for 12 weeks with no work and does nothing but mope about, grunt at me, snap at the toddler, kick toys out of the way, moan about mess, play on his phone and lie on the sofa.

We have a very small house and I'm trying my best to entertain DS, I could really use a better atmosphere, if not any help.

Mine is currently on leave, he was originally going to visit family but obviously that didn't happen. I was looking forward to getting on with stuff without the "benefit" of his advice (think Harry Enfield's You didn't wanna do that character). Now he's just checked his shift for next week (distribution related so key worker) and his bloody rest days are Monday and Tuesday so I'm stuck with him full time till Wednesday.

If I have to sit through one more documentary about Sherman tanks or whatever, I will be building a patio. Only trouble will be when he comes out and starts telling me how to go about it. I may have to hit him with a shovel before the hole is ready.

Great idea to bury someone else's husband under your patio! If we all do that randomly, it'll be so confusing and take em ages to work out who the culprits are...

We’ve been meaning to put a patio in our garden since we moved in 4 years ago. Now could be the time.