Can DH and I both go food shopping?

[Somepeoplehun]

Currently self isolating apart from food shopping (would get delivery but there’s an online queue to even get onto some websites and no slots for the foreseeable future on others).
I’m pregnant and we also have a toddler.
We need to go food shopping within the next week or so which I’m absolutely useless at as DH usually meal plans and gets everything but also I need to pick up my hospital bag essentials as I’ll be giving birth soon and I don’t trust DH to get this right.
Is it allowed for both of us to go with the two year old in the trolley or does the rule of only going out with one member of your household apply? Does my 2 year old count?

Thanks!

Let your husband go to the supermarket. Order the hospital bag essentials online (Amazon has most things) or ask one of your friends to get them for you.

Both of you going increases the risk factor by 100%, not only for all of you (including your unborn baby) but for everyone else in the shop as well.

One of you goes.

If it's not bullying then why have MNHQ deleted some SHOUTY POSTS?

I'm also amazed that as a grown adult with a child and another on the way that you are useless at food shopping... honestly, it's not rocket science.

Ffs do you really need to ask?

We're in this crap because of the government who fell asleep and introduced harsh measures too late, because of lack of coordination and information, because they gambled our lives on a herd immunity theory of Cummings against all the odds.Not because the OP needs to do shopping.

No, no, no! We're in this mess because a significant number of greedy selfish people ignored the 'social distancing' rules, bought up the shops and are now hanging onto online delivery slots. THIS is what has put the vulnerable at risk. The government trusted us to follow the rules, and too many people didn't. These are the same people who'll now be complaining that the government is taking away our 'civil liberties' . I've never been so ashamed to be British.

I'm pregnant with 2 young kids. My husband cant shop to save himself. I write a very detailed list, with a sub list of alternatives it anything isnt in, and if hes even remotely unsure he facetimes me to show me the shelf. It's a pain in the ass but needs must.

@Somepeoplehun I'm sorry you are getting so much vitriol and bile on here. I was the victim of it myself at the weekend. I ignored them as I don't give a flying fudge what random nobodies say online. They are nothing to me.

Whilst I just laugh at them and think they're pathetic, some people could very very hurt and upset though. There are lots of lovely people on mumsnet, but there are some really nasty people too. Bet they would never talk to people like this in real life.

Keyboard warriors they are. Probably would cry, and piss themselves, if you shouted BOO at them (in real life.)

But please don't go out with your DH, and take your baby as well. Just go alone and leave him and your baby home. (Or you send him and you stay home.)

Keep the risks of contracting - and spreading the virus, to a minimum!

I mean some people could GET very very hurt. (Obvs)

I think there has to be a balance. Some people think the lockdown rules don’t apply to them at all and some people online enjoy a good kicking.

OP, I am not going to berate you, I am sure you have the message. Your priority is to keep yourself and your family safe. The risks to pregnant women are just not known. For the sake of a few bits for a hospital bag, it isn’t worth it. Please stay at home. He can video call you from the shop or you can send a very specific list or order online - there are plenty of options.

Agree with @Jaxhog .. Whilst it suits some people and their agenda, to blame Boris and his gang for the strict lockdown, because they DIDN'T ACT IN TIME - it's got fuckall to do with that. It's the idiots who couldn't adhere to the REQUEST to stay away from people, stay IN unless it's an emergency, and basically, not be a selfish c*nt.

Many people did what the fuck they wanted, and THEY are the reason for all this bollux!

Not read full thread but No you can not.

Give him a list 🤷‍♀️

If you're pregnant, especially third trimester, you need to avoid all unnecessary social contact. It's not necessary for you to go food shopping as your DH can, so you should stay at home with your toddler. Just get him to video call you for anything he's unsure of.

If you are actually 'self-isolating' because one of you had symptoms, then as pp say, none of you should be going.

Several posters have decided that COVID-19 has given them license to be classic forum bullies. Their behavior is appalling.

So true. And not just on this thread. It's like being back at school.

I wish people would stop SHOUTING on these threads. You don't make your points any more articulately for using capital letters.

This sounds like a reverse, hopefully posting to point out the stupidity of some people out these atm.
If serious, then
No, self-isolaters don't go shopping.
Two-parent families DO NOT go out together WITH THEIR CHILD in this crisis. One stays home with the child.

Hospital bag? How many options could there be? Don't be so fussy -would you rather have a slightly different version of what you had in mind or a child born poorly (worst-case scenario)?

You say he usually does all the meal planning so you're useless at shopping? Even if he was the one useless at shopping, sned him out if you're self-isolating. He'll learn, and he can ask the staff where things are. I helped loads of people today, carers out shopping for people, men doing shopping for their families of elderly relatives.

It's not bullying

Yes. It. Is. That's why so many posts were deleted.

Tell you what. If a bunch of strangers stood around screaming verbal abuse in your face, calling you a STUPID FUCKING IDIOT and FOR FUCK'S SAKE WHAT'S WRONG WITH YOU? etc. etc. Repeatedly, all egging each other on, you would probably feel bullied.

Hiding behind a computer keyboard and doing it is no different.

It's disgusting, inexcusable behavior. The bullies here and on other threads should be thoroughly ashamed of themselves.

Some posts just MAKE YOU WANT TO SHOUT!!!!!

I’m same situation as you, toddler and pregnant and just going into my third trimester.
Firstly no way is my toddler going anywhere at the moment apart from our back garden.
Secondly I will not leave the house as I’m not risking my unborn child. Finally dp is not going to a bloody supermarket and he’s a key worker.
I Managed to get a delivery slot, you just have to keep looking. I also told them I was pregnant so if there’s more vulnerable people they get served
first. Think about it and please protect your family and other people.

Dh and I are both going shopping tomorrow . We are leaving our children at home in the care of our 15 year old.

We don’t really have much other option - we don’t drive so we need to get a train and one of us alone cant carry enough for a few days for 8 people.

Dh is in a higher risk group (but not the highest) but we can’t get an deliveries and we don’t drive.

So it’s either both of us go once every 3 or 4 days or one go much more often.

Seriously? One of you goes. Take a bloody list.

Definitely leave the toddler at home.

As per usual @MNHQ doing half a job.

Some horrid posts still in situ, I'm deleted for saying if I behaved badly it would make me a cunt.

Slow hand clap

Might it be better for your DH to stay at home if he’s vulnerable, and your 15 year old to come shopping with you?

@Makinganewthinghappen, that is...