Can DH and I both go food shopping?

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Currently self isolating apart from food shopping (would get delivery but there’s an online queue to even get onto some websites and no slots for the foreseeable future on others).
I’m pregnant and we also have a toddler.
We need to go food shopping within the next week or so which I’m absolutely useless at as DH usually meal plans and gets everything but also I need to pick up my hospital bag essentials as I’ll be giving birth soon and I don’t trust DH to get this right.
Is it allowed for both of us to go with the two year old in the trolley or does the rule of only going out with one member of your household apply? Does my 2 year old count?

Thanks!

I think some people on MN are enjoying dishing out virtual kickings a little too much. I agree, surely at times like this we could support each other a bit more, well alot more.

Some MNers seem to like making up their own SHOUTY RULES.

I bet all the ones bullying the OP are standing at their windows reporting Mrs Smith from no 23 for leaving her house twice in one day.

Women in third trimester have been told to isolate significantly.

Supermarkets are not the place for family trips. Not at normal times. Not during a pandemic.

Toddlers put hands in mouth.

your spouse can go and shop. List, FaceTime, whatever it takea

Hi OP. Sorry you are taking a kicking here, people are understandably afraid and this is manifesting itself as anger.

In answer to your question, self-isolating the household means none of you leaves the house at all. Not even for shopping. You will have to call in some favours for people to do some shopping on your behalf and leave it on the doorstep.

Most supermarkets are adopting a one in, one out policy, with no children allowed. People on here that have done otherwise, i.e. pretending you don't know your DH or whatever are trying to circumnavigate the rules that are in place to look after all of us, and are trying to backfill justification.

They say crisis is the mother of innovation, and I think a lot of progress will be made owing to this particular crisis. Hopefully one of them will be that your husband learns how to buy things in a supermarket. You'll be glad when the second child arrives.

It's not bullying to point out this is stupid.

Boris said don't go out. It's so fucking simple.

I may have paraphrased the saying, but you get what I mean.

It's convenient that you can't food shop and he can't baby shop.

He's had a baby before. He knows. Use on line shops to show him exactly what you need.

All of you go out and you are adding to everyone else's quarantine. You won't be self isolating if you all go out.

Don't hide behind fake inadequacy and admit you just want to go out or you think the rules don't apply to you. Or both.

It's not bullying to point out this is stupid

Name-calling and verbal abuse is bullying. I'm sick of it. I'm calling it out and reporting when I see it.

The bullies AND THEIR CAPSLOCK vitriol need to start checking their own behavior. COVID-19 is making them think they have a free pass to bully other people. They don't.

They sound less intelligent and less capable of normal interaction with every bloody post.

What I would do is send him with a list and then use Facetime/Skype/Whatsapp inside the shop if necessary. Actually, this is exactly what we did when DH was in the supermarket earlier this week: he was in, chatting with me over the phone about what could be found on the shelves and what we needed for the house ( DH is a key worker so he needs to leave the house anyway, I don't, I am staying in with the kids while he's doing the shopping on the way home from work)

Afternoon all.

You've probably noticed that we’ve deleted quite a few posts from this thread and so we wanted to remind you of our Guidelines which aim to make the Talk Boards a good place for civil discussion.

We really do understand that these are uncertain times - and feelings are naturally running high (especially as we’re all stuck in the house which really isn't much fun) but we must ask that you consider, when posting, that there are real (possibly scared) people behind the usernames, and to please stick to the guidelines in future.

Right now, more than ever, we think it's best to aim for civility on the boards.

Peace and love.

All supermarkets local to me will only let one person in

@user1493413286 You thought wrong, pregnant women do not need to stay confined to their four walls, they just need to be more careful.

I'm interested in what's going in your hospital bag that's too complicated for your DP to get?

If he’s been keeping two adults and a child fed for the past however many years he’s been the sole shopper and cook in the household, I’m sure he can manage to get together a few things for an overnight bag for you and the newborn. It’s not that long since you had your other baby. I assume you are going to use the same brand of nappies and wipes as you did before (you may even still be using nappies and wipes for your toddler). I’m sure at this stage of pregnancy you already have clothes and blankets for the baby, a car seat, etc. Even if you are re-using from the previous child.

So what if he gets the wrong brand of cotton wool or wipes? It won’t kill the baby. You’ll all live to tell the tale. We are all having to compromise during this time. We can’t get our usual graves. We can’t go to our favourite restaurants or continue with our hobbies. We can’t spend time with relatives who live far away. Weddings have been cancelled. Holidays have been cancelled. It’s a mess for everyone. But it’s not forever. And a few temporary changes to our lives won’t kill us.

And if he’s currently not working this might be a good time to show him online the things you want. He may as well use his isolation time wisely,

Can’t get our usual brands. Not graves!

God id rather give birth with nothing than take my DD shopping and even worse put her in a trolly !!!

OP, I don't think they'll let two, let alone three in. I went shopping at 7am, and it was just people on their own.

Thank you Lou. It really bothers me that those real, frightened people will just not post if the bullying continues.

Everyone should be able to ask questions without being verbally abused, sworn at, and insulted.

Thanks again

@scarbados Lots of bullies in this thread or others, the reasons may not be good enough for some, but you can explain it politely. It's disgusting how people use such opportunities to show how f* superior they are because they know better.
They could have said "No, it is not a good idea, you could do this or this instead", but noooo, that would be too easy.

We're in this crap because of the government who fell asleep and introduced harsh measures too late, because of lack of coordination and information, because they gambled our lives on a herd immunity theory of Cummings against all the odds.Not because the OP needs to do shopping.

It's not bullying.

The rules are really, really simple. Why is it so difficult to just do as your told? The more people insist the rules don't apply to them and their circumstances, the sooner even more draconian measures will be put in force, then nobody will be able to go out at all without a permit.

Everything else aside, how as a functioning adult are you incapable of grocery shopping?
I’m mystified.

No. Find a way to make sure DH knows what to get. Please don't put yourself or others in danger.

I'm still amazed at the number of people suggesting 'order online'! Perhaps you are fortunate enough to live somewhere where this is possible, but believe me, this is a dream for most of us. Most of us can't order online food or provisions from anywhere. Very depressing when you're in a vulnerable group like the Op (and me).

Come on OP. You must know this isn't OK.

You have an adult who is capable of going to the shops with a list. There are lots of ways to communicate to him what EXACTLY you need for a hospital bag.

Stay at home. Toddler stays at home.

This is ridiculous.

Buy your stuff online.

Or get your dh to video call you from the shop.

There is no need for whole families to shop together