Can DH and I both go food shopping?

[Somepeoplehun]

Currently self isolating apart from food shopping (would get delivery but there’s an online queue to even get onto some websites and no slots for the foreseeable future on others).
I’m pregnant and we also have a toddler.
We need to go food shopping within the next week or so which I’m absolutely useless at as DH usually meal plans and gets everything but also I need to pick up my hospital bag essentials as I’ll be giving birth soon and I don’t trust DH to get this right.
Is it allowed for both of us to go with the two year old in the trolley or does the rule of only going out with one member of your household apply? Does my 2 year old count?

Thanks!

Children aren’t allowed in supermarkets anymore, well they were being turned away from Sainsbury’s this morning

Lady Gawain and I drove to the (TESCO) supermarket, (for what will henceforth be a once a week visit), only one of us was permitted to go into the shop so LadyGawain did the shpping whilw I waited in the car. She had to wait a few minutes so as not to overcrowd the shop. All very well organised.

What's the point of there being a FORUM if asking questions is the biggest crime going.

Asking questions, even ones that shouldn't need asking, is OK. What is not OK is adults (learning difficulties/physical disabilities aside) being able to cope with doing shopping on their own. There is no reason for an adult (same disclaimer) to be able to work out what is needed for meals or for a newborn baby and shop accordingly.

No.

I’ve heard that some of the supermarkets are only letting in one person per trolley (so no couples).

It would be best to just send your DH.
Write a list of all the hospital bag essentials, so that he knows what to get you. And maybe see if you can get any of them online, in case the supermarket is completely out of maternity pads etc.

I agree, some of the responses are off the scale harsh.

OP has asked the question. My answer would be the same as everyone else's, except more civil. Just your DH go. He can FaceTime or WhatsApp video if he isn't sure. Also no matter what he gets or doesn't get for your hospital bag, you will manage.

But really people, show some compassion. At least op asked rather than just did it.

Are you actually being serious? What do you actually need for a few hours stay in hospital that he can't get right?... you're prepared to put yourself and your toddler at risk for a mini toothpaste? Honestly

We're not even virtual bullies @virginpinkmartini.
I initially thought the OP was a wind-up.

If you aren’t capable of doing a food shop and your husband isn’t trusted to get the things for your hospital bag surely the sensible option is going shopping separately. You go shopping for your stuff then he does the food shop - both leaving your child at home. Alternatively get your hospital bag stuff online?

Ideally dh goes by himself for the food. Then you could go tomorrow by yourself to get bits for your bag

I think some people on MN are enjoying dishing out virtual kickings a little too much.

Fuck my life, I despair of people

Aren't the supermarkets doing a one trolley one person policy?
Aren't you in the shielded group? Send your husband on his own.

I read we were being asked politely for just one to go.
Otherwise, people have to wait longer as you take up 2 spaces of people allowed in at one time.

Your DP goes one day, OP and then you go the next. No need to take your 2 year old then.

I think some people on MN are enjoying dishing out virtual kickings a little too much.

When people are blatantly saying that they are precious snowflakes who can't do a food shop on their own and so all need to go out, therefore selfishly risking the health of others then what the fuck do you expect will happen?

If you’re self isolating you can’t go out to the shops.

Yes, why not? Buy a picnic lunch and stop off at a park on the way home, might as well make a nice day out from it.

Taking dc out for essentials should be limited to those without any choice. Because of the proudly incompetent and the piss takers those without any choice are rapidly losing the option to shop at all.

op knows the rules as she states them in her post....so no, she's not just 'asking a question', she's trying to gauge if she's a 'special' case!!

and dont FaceTime down the aisles....get in and out quickly, who cares if its the wrong brand or not quite right.....move on so someone else gets in quicker as you exit!!

i cannot believe some people

@Frankiecandle only because some of us have seen what's going on in hospitals right now. I will speak my mind to anyone stupid enough to endanger their own, others and my life with their utter, utter stupidity

It's like you are all sitting waiting to pounce on some poor OP who is just asking a question.

I mean I know life is pretty boring atm but fucking hell it's a bear pit on here now.

The supermarkets here have announced that it's one person per trolly now. Already some fuckwits are trying to get around it by saying just take a basket each.

WTF is wrong with people? Stay the fuck home.

And please don't take a toddler.

A healthy 21 yo girl died yesterday of Coronavirus. This isn't just a bit inconvenient, it's life or death.

I’ve been having to send my teens to the supermarket (only ever one at a time) and if they’re unsure about something on the list, or what to get as a substitution, they WhatsApp me, with pictures if necessary. It’s not ideal but it’s the safest option right now.

Yes it seems like some of the responses are harsh, however a grown adult is more than capable of doing a family shop alone.

OP needs to write a list of what she needs for the hospital bag and give it to him, or order it online. No family outing required.

Part of me is hoping this crisis will have a positive effect on:
A) Certain men being man-children who need their (exasperated) wives and partners to do the wife work and hold their hand through basic adult tasks
B) Certain women with martyr issues who baby the men in their lives and constantly helicopter over them because 'ooh they'd never manage if it wasn't for me'.

Whaaaaaat. Are you kidding?