AIBU to be so enraged about reckless egg usage??

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D(debatable)H made himself and son eggs yesterday for breakfast despite my slightly worried “have you counted how many we have?” He’s just cooked 4 more for himself and son leaving youngest and me (I’m always last to be thought of anyway) with none. I wanted to bake today. Eggs last longer in a cake right?! . He’s so selfish with food. Just takes what he wants even if it’s the kids’ stuff. Never thinks to replace it or if it might be needed e.g. drinks all the milk then wonders why there isn’t any for coffee. He thinks I’m being a drama queen as he can just pop to shops. And this is why I’m stressed. I don’t want any of us going out unless we have to. And we don’t HAVE to if we eat sensibly. We had a huge row on Monday so I may still be harbouring rage about that. Tell me if any of you have selfish partners. I’m thinking about one previous OP whose OH ate all the treats and her posh biscuits.

As I said, I’m sure you have the capability to research for yourself the compound scientific knowledge of previous viruses/epidemics/pandemics and determine for yourself what factual, scientific information is being used to reasonably predict the ways in which this virus might be expected to behave. A quick google is not sufficient.

I’m off to make us some lockdown lunch - very stale bread, toasted, because then it’s perfectly fine! Tinned sardines for my DH, marmite for me. It’s the last couple of slices of the loaf, and the end pieces will be dried out to make breadcrumbs to stretch our resources further. We won’t be leaving the house for at least another week, hopefully two if we can possibly help it. Not necessarily for our own sake, but for other, more vulnerable people and to limit strain and stress on NHS. And for my daughter who is in the vulnerable group.

I've just been shopping, Aldi, Home Bargains &Asda (all on same retail park) and they all had plenty eggs. I got a box of 10 in Home Bargains.

I realise it's more difficult if you're relying on the local co-op though.

His isn't about eggs.
It's about selfishness.
Maybe the ops dh isn't normally selfish, maybe he is.
Going out to the shop for eggs in this situation is.
We are supposed to be reducing all social s intact unless absolutely necessary .

Yes he is normally selfish. Yes it’s driving me crackers even more. Will we survive it? I’ll let you know

I hadn't heard about the correlation of viral load and severity for covid-19 either, so did a quick google. This seems like a pretty good summary of our current understanding:

www.sciencemediacentre.org/expert-reaction-to-questions-about-covid-19-and-viral-load/

"On the basis of previous work on SARS and MERS coronaviruses, we know that exposure to higher doses are associated with a worse outcome and this may be likely in the case of Covid-19 as well."

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drinks all the milk then wonders why there isn’t any for coffee.
He sounds thick as two short planks.

Our Lidl has plenty of eggs but rationing to one box per shop

I think it's extremely unfair too! He should ask you even if we aren't in the middle of lockdown. If you're all in the house together and someone makes food or a drink it's just basic manners to offer everyone else.
I agree there is no food shortage - if people just stop panic buying! Also we should all be trying to minimise how much we leave the house. I've seen pictures on social media of people queuing to go to supermarkets. That is enough to put me off. We are personally eating very cautiously to avoid having to go anywhere. I might actually manage to lose weight during this lock down.

I think it’s not so much the fact it’s eggs but he dose t think of others in him family. That is not a nice place to be in op so my heart goes out to you. I would just stop doing anything for him and show him what it feels like.

OP me and dh used to have fights because e.g. there'd be 4 of something left and we have 4 kids and he'd take one whereas I'd go without. After a while I realised he didn't do it often and actually I deserved to get one too!!!! Second point: in Ireland we are 2 weeks in. At the start I was not eating fruit or bread or drinking milk because I was trying to ration but on speaking to friends they were telling me to calm down and eat properly. Yes he needs to adjust the we can just pop out thing, but he was eating them, it wasn't like he was throwing them away!!

The thing is, he's either a dick, or stupid. It's really simple - only go out for essential food supplies, don't just pop to the shops.

My husband is neither a dick nor stupid, and accepts the ready steady cook style assortment from the food I dole out for us to eat each day.

(and if that sounds like he is stupid for not working it out for himself, he was on a diet that isn't sustainable with occasional shopping, so he's switched to mine, which is more balanced. Plus as I mentioned up thread - I'm enjoying arranging our rations!)

Although there is food in the shops we are eating more cautiously too just in case. Working at home I'm aware I need less calories as well and also we both need to lose weight

As a family, eating anything that’s dwindling and not taking account firstly the children let alone your partner is beyond selfish in my book.. kids first then adults.. and drinking all the milk, that just borders abusive

No eggs around here though butcher delivering 6 only on Mon6

I get it: you're worried about going out when you're not supposed go and this taps into a bigger issue re: his selfishness towards you and the kids.

He's an adult, he knows what he is doing is shitty and he just doesn't care so.... There's only one way fo cure this: give him a taste of his own medicine and eat his favourite stuff. Honestly it's the only way he will learn so go nuts with it. 😁

Men are naturally selfish by nature. They always think about themselves first. It’s not just you & the children. If they were grouped with their friends, they would do the same. It’s survival of the fittest instinct. This is the result of women over mummy-ing their sons! Where do you thing men get the idea that they can get away with things like this??

Anyway, if he doesn’t think it’s a problem because he can just pop to the shops & it’s that easy! Tell him to pop to the shops first, before eating all. So he can definitely ensure there is enough eggs & milk for you & your family.

Both (yours & his) prime focus is to care & provide for your family. If he’s not doing his part. Then what do you need him for?

Providing for his family is to ensure he replaces the milk & eggs he has eaten. Caring for his family is to make sure he is not leaving the house too often (risking catching the Corona Virus) & keeping you & your children safe.

Make him think & questions himself. Are you doing the basic things that make you a good parent & husband (a proper man basically)??

Men are simple & some times explaining things in such a way that makes them stop & think is more effective.

So no. Your not asking too much for your husband to do the basic things a parent & husband should do.

Janet Jackson got it so right - WHAT HAVE YOU DONE FOR ME LATELY.

OP it would annoy me this as well , really dont understand those splitting hairs and presume its boredom because it is ridiculous

However I have just discovered a way of assessing how well my life is going. Ironically I do not eat cake or sugar personally. However if I ever turn into a big enough arse to use the phrase " Noone neeeeds cake" I shall know my life has become a failure.

I mean really , who says that crap and honestly doesnt recognise themselves as a complete git?

You know OP, I know what you mean. I'm the opposite though, I always tell my husband it's there to be eaten, I'd rather he eat than not for worry that it's supposed to be used for something else. Generally it's never an issue as we can just buy more. But in this current climate, where there is a shortage of alot of things, you need to be more mindful. My husband always seems surprised when he goes out for bread and milk and there isn't any anywhere. he won't see the need to be careful until it's a problem. I wouldn't want to argue about food though

I am astonished that you are surprised by a man's selfish behaviour. It is a prerequisite for being a man.

OP he's a tosser. So are half the people on this thread. So sorry you have to live with him.

Selfish greedy b.
I'm sadly stuck with my ex partner, it was initially for two weeks, reluctantly, when his caravan site closed. None of his family would have him, and now, lucky me, it seems to be for the duration. Every day since Monday he has made up some minor excuse to want to go out, in addition to the prescribed exercise, and essential shopping.
Today he said 'to look at his car,' 200 yards away.
Every time he comes in, I have to remind him to wash his hands. He has no spatial awareness at the best of times, he is making me extremely stressed. I have to have a major row every time to prevent him from going out.
We are both in our 70s, and are being told to stay at home, apart from essentials.
Obviously, the arrogant idiot, he thinks this excludes him. I wouldn't care if he was in his own place, but, just my luck, he will infect me. Then deny it.

Oh Tatty throw him out! What if he kills you! Yet another woman putting the man’s needs first, and he’s even an ex!
Get rid!

An egg sandwich uses less ingredients than a cake and doesn't use flour which you could use to make bread.

No you couldn’t: different kind of flour.

YABU.