AIBU to be so enraged about reckless egg usage??

[Polkadotpjs]

D(debatable)H made himself and son eggs yesterday for breakfast despite my slightly worried “have you counted how many we have?” He’s just cooked 4 more for himself and son leaving youngest and me (I’m always last to be thought of anyway) with none. I wanted to bake today. Eggs last longer in a cake right?! . He’s so selfish with food. Just takes what he wants even if it’s the kids’ stuff. Never thinks to replace it or if it might be needed e.g. drinks all the milk then wonders why there isn’t any for coffee. He thinks I’m being a drama queen as he can just pop to shops. And this is why I’m stressed. I don’t want any of us going out unless we have to. And we don’t HAVE to if we eat sensibly. We had a huge row on Monday so I may still be harbouring rage about that. Tell me if any of you have selfish partners. I’m thinking about one previous OP whose OH ate all the treats and her posh biscuits.

You can use orange juice as a substitute for eggs in cake.

My sense of what is possible has been blown out of the water today.

But, like, texturally, don't you end up with something very different to the cake you'd be expecting?

(Has been subjected to some truly awful vegan pastries.)

look up war time cakes - some lovely ones out there golden syrup cakes applesauce cakes fruit cakes go onto your library site you maybe able to get cookery book - vegan cakes to (get dried milk he wont drink that & its fine for cakes) stock up on baking powder sodium bicarb if you can - a lot of allergy sites have recipes just adapt with what you have (flapjacks anybody?? can be done with honey if you don't have this - you can also use marmalade & jam in some old fashioned cakes

Why should she have to eat war cake when her husband could just stop being selfish and pull his weight?? Why does she have to sort out mess caused by him? Why?

if eggs are scarce & you have milk or milk substitute (dried or soya et al) you can make pancakes - savoury or sweet ( this will bulk up the greedy ones & give them treat - do a cupboard hunt for fillings & check recipes) if you have potatoes & plain flour & salt (plus some savoury spice/spices curry powder or paprika at a push) boil pots mash mix in flour shape into flat shapes (large scone shapes or biscuits circle shape is good size) heat a little oil & fry can be serves with baked beans or pickle or sauce or whatever you have (type of puri)

Peasfox I'm with you - though a little late in the thread.

When the world was stashing up on toilet rolls and paracetamols I went and bought a load of family favourite easter eggs. Priorities

There were no eggs in Sainsbury's and Asda last week and very few in Marks and Spencer's. Your husband is a selfish twat anyway and thick now we are in this pandemic.

I've made cup cakes and birthday cake with orange juice for years, I did it once for a birthday party when DD had a friend who was allergic to eggs - nobody could tell the difference so I now always use OJ in cakes - just the cheap concentrate stuff; I keep some long life in the cupboard.

He sounds like an absolute twat. What makes him and his son so important that you and your child don’t matter too?

Also, we should all be avoiding going out to the shops as much as possible. He’s supposed to be using food wisely and carefully, ensuring that everyone gets a fair share, and planning to limit exposure to the virus. How is that going to work if he’s eating you out of house and home without a care in the world for who else might need food?

TBH I’d tell him to find somewhere else to live. I wouldn’t want him nonchalantly popping to the shops every couple of days and putting my child at risk.

Did he know you wanted to make a cake? That would be selfish of him. If you simply knew but hadn't mentioned it, how would he know? He fed himself and one child.

Milk is a bit more of a thing though - sensible enough to have a think and see there won't be enough for tea/coffee if you use it up - just switch to toast or something else for breakfast (like some nice eggs)

War time cakes were exactly that - better than nothing. OP is not being unreasonable to want her dh to act considerably and to want him to minimise his "pop to the shops" as each one carries a risk of infection.

Not everyone has easy access to eggs, milk, flour...

@Polkadotpjs please get him to read this thread explaining viral load and how dangerous it is to repeatedly expose yourself and/or others to it:

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/coronavirus/3859971-Viral-load-can-someone-explain?messages=100&pg=1

Also please impress upon him the fact that we are starting to see more and more young, fit people with no known underlying causes dying fro this (or needing prolonged IC, thereby taking bed spaces from others, causing avoidable deaths).

So there's lots of men all over the country eating whatever they fancy and leaving none for the rest of the family?

Well what a surprise.

So many men seem to be totally selfish and irresponsible.

The milkman left a note saying both my eggs and bread were unavailable. Still got the milk and the juice though. #middleclasscovidproblems

I will manage without eggs and see if they come next week. I am not going out unless absolutely necessary.

Did he know you wanted to make a cake? That would be selfish of him. If you simply knew but hadn't mentioned it, how would he know? He fed himself and one child.
With 4 eggs he could have fed the whole family breakfast! Why does he and his son get priority over op and her son?

@Bisforbert I’m horrified people are stealing your eggs. Dreadful. But then I’m sure I can also imagine those people being defended on a CF thread on here! Bless you. I hope you don’t lose the chickens too!

When were op and her other son supposed to get thier "reasonable and healthy breakfast"?

Eggs are not the only reasonable and healthy breakfast.

That's why I asked OP whether she had actually gone without or just had a different breakfast. (she's not answered this)

If 2 family members eat 2 eggs each for breakfast, and 2 have empty tummies of course that's not OK.

However if 2 family members have 2 eggs each, and the other two have mushrooms/tomatoes on toast or fruit and yoghurt (or any other healthy breakfast) then its fine.

A healthy breakfast is more important than a cake. So if there are not enough eggs to go round, breakfast should obviously be prioritised over cake!

Don't knwo if anyone has mentioned it, but Jamie Oliver has a cook show at the moment cookign with things that we have in a lockdown.

yesterday he did an eggless chocolate cake. (you need chocolate though!)

I think OP, that I woudl have a menu on the fridge. I would make sure the ingredients needed are clear, and then explain to dh, shopping once per week, no more, eveyrthing has to share over the week, only allowe dot cook/make what is on th elist, not allowed to use anything else as it is needed.

We need to get used to NOT going to the shop. To cooking with what we have. Go to the shops as infrequently as possible is the messgae, that means you can't just 'pop out' for eggs.

Cake is a good way of getting nutrients from eggs into more people over more days - plus you get to have a treat daily which is important when no one can do the normal things they usually do for fun, good mental health and happiness.

@Polkadotpjs I’d suggest you go through everything you have in the house, work out a plan to utilise everything carefully to make as many days’ worth of food as possible. And then write that out on a piece of paper and tell your DickishH he is to follow that plan. He’s proven that he’s too selfish or stupid to consider other people (including your young child) so his privileges have been removed. If he doesn’t like that he can stop acting like a spoilt child.

Someone near me had their shopping stolen out of their parked car when they were in a different shop trying to get painkillers and toilet paper. This virus is bringing out the best in some people and the worse in others.

*So there's lots of men all over the country eating whatever they fancy and leaving none for the rest of the family?

Well what a surprise.

So many men seem to be totally selfish and irresponsible*

THIS is the crux of the OPs vent fgs, it’s not about the free and fair distribution of fucking eggs across the UK.

OP I have every sympathy. My XH was like this and it is one of the things I grew to genuinely hate about him.

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I couldnt get any eggs for 2 weeks, people were panic buying, I havent seen pasta or loo paper for 3 weeks, it goes as soon as it is in the shops

If both DH and I drop dead the children will have to live on potatoes and eggs - no shops within walking distance but an honesty box outside a farm an hour away in a wooden bus shelter style building with a fridge always full of eggs and a huge storage bin full of potatoes...

On my way home from work there's a brig your own bottle milk vending machine...