AIBU to think people are jealous?

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NC for this one!

I work very hard running an online business that has helped a lot of people and gained a lot of traction. I tend to keep it very quiet. I take a very small salary thats not enough to pay bills and I hope one day in the future I can go full time. In the mean time I work part time. I scrape by every month. I try and not tell everyone what I do on the side because I'm a little embarrassed and I find people at my work are put off. If they ask me if I have another job and I tell them briefly about my side hustle, the conversation goes dead, so I change the topic.

Everyone at work seems really friendly and I think people like me. I still feel new, been there just over a year, but get along with everyone. Yet I am still not invited to parties. There are group chats I am not apart of, but people who have started working there in the past three months have been welcomed into. I am the only one. I held my own party and no-one from work came, despite all being invited. Others from outside work came so it wasn't a flop. I am the same age and have a lot on common with these people.

We have all just been put on unpaid leave. Three of my colleagues have posted on Facebook tagging every singe colleague at my workplace on how sad they are that they are no longer working together, except me. Again. Theres no-one I am close enough to ask about it without being worried everyone will find out my concern.

Everything went well in the first two months and only happened when people found out about my side hustle. I don't know if people feel as if we're too different because of my side hustle? I have opened up to a friend who has told me I should be so proud of how many people I have helped, but I am not. I am embarrassed. I feel the side hustle makes people feel as if they have nothing in common with me.

I have received a couple of sly comments about it from people at work. Someone suggesting I am going to leave as soon as my side hustle takes off, so i'm not really loyal to the company, another saying I must not have time for friends and family because I work so hard juggling two jobs and dont have the right priorities Just comments I can ignore in the moment but felt really off. This has happened from 5-6 people.

I really don't think there is anything wrong with my personality. I get involved, I am friendly and outgoing. My friend said my colleagues are jealous. Could this be true? There is nothing to be jealous of because what I do is very lonely, hard work, and I have thought about giving in a million times. Or is there likely another problem with me?

I have never had any problems in any other work place. This is the only job I have had since starting my side hustle and the only one I have trouble integrating. If anyone could shed some light it would be appreciated, thank you.

Is it something controversial? Something that many people don't agree with? Like providing porn to the elderly or helping the middle east refugees reach greece? I've had a colleague that helped boat refugees to reach greece and that didn't go well with some people.

Are you the fourth leg for a wonky donkey

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is it something controversial?

The NYT article I quoted from earlier said something about selling CBD oil being marketed as a ‘side hustle for moms’. That fits with vulnerable customers and being controversial?

helping the middle east refugees reach greece?

That’s cool by me but if it were a money-making ‘side hustle’ it escalates from ‘profound altruism’ to ‘people trafficking’ pretty fast

Absolutely howling at all the people who have immediately jumped to the conclusion that the only possible side business a person could have is providing sexual services to vulnerable people.

Mumsnet is an absolutely mad, mad world.

It’s because you call your side business side hustle

I just asked someone who is a firmly outside the Mumsnet-Ocado-Prosecco-Stereotype (a 19 year old stoner/skateboarder who grew up in a Hackney tower block and currently works at a convenience store) what a ‘side hustle’ is

And now I’m positively cackling at the answer:

It’s a song about an affair from the perspective of the other man.

‘Cause the only time she calling is when she want the dick
She had enough, she fed up with all your bullshit
Ain't even going with her girls without you throwing a fit
And if you only knew how much she really tired of it
You probably have a breakdown and throw her stuff out
Take the key to the crib and throw her out, out
She says she tapping out ‘cause you don't know how to love her’

Which isn’t that different to a lot of threads in the Mumsnet ‘relationships’ section 😂

I am wondering what it is, is it something like online bingo or bridge or a social chat platform for vulnerable people that are lonely?

The constant use of the phrase ‘side hustle’ is annoying...YABU

For those of us with one, what you would like us to call it?

The OP clearly doesn't want to say what her project is. What does it matter that she's called it a side hustle? Why so much venom towards her?

Sadly this is all too common on AIBU. It's a site where some cyber bullies come on because it's a place where it's anonymous and they can hide behind a keyboard.

They also assume that the OP is in the wrong by default.

I hadn't heard of the term 'side hustle' before but I didn't get the impression that the OP was smug, I think posters assumed that her colleagues wouldn't have ganged up on her for no good reason.

FWIW, I've found that it can be hard to fit into a workplace if your colleagues get the impression that you're not going to stay. So maybe that's a lesson for the future?

I've come to the reluctant conclusion that there are a lot of people who don't like it if someone else is successful.

I had heard the term ‘side hustle’ but would tend to use ‘side gig’ instead.

I thought that hustler was slang for prostitute or possibly con-artist.

Second job, part time business, moonlighting, side job, side gig, side business, small trading, business hobby?

In reality most people will just call it what it actually is,

‘I work for x but I also have a digital design business’

‘I’m a musician and do some weekly hours with Deliveroo’ etc.

Or alternatively, if it’s a growing business with the aim of it being your main thing, you can say you are self employed with a part time job, or working part time while your business is starting up.

Sinisterbumfacedcat. Absolutely

Op whatever their reasons, they are being quite cruel. Yes you may be closer to some than others, but what possible reason could three people have for leaving you off a FB post. They surely aren’t all besties with the entire office. I could not leave one person out like that, unless they had done something to hurt me.

I would keep your distance from now on. These people are not your friends and you are better off without them. Concentrate on your actual friends.

If someone sidled up to me at work and said ‘Umm did you know I’ve got a little, you know, side hustle going on’ I’d probably avoid them as well...

I can’t believe people making such a fuss about the term side hustle! It’s a really well known phrase that loads of people use to describe a part time activity or business they have and not at all seedy. In fact, on my last roles job spec it said they loved people who had a side hustle as it showed depth. Nobody in my industry would even think twice about the term.

Finding it hard to take this post Aeropostale’s with the constant over use of side hustle.

I would guess people are not jealous. No.

This post seriously*

@NiceLegsShameAboutTheFace
The constant use of the phrase ‘side hustle’ is annoying...YABU

For those of us with one, what you would like us to call it? confused

A second job?

@Thekindofwindowsfaceslookinat

You’ve got fingernails and you breathe in and out?

Omg. I know you IRL.
Why would you post such identifying information? Are you showing off about having fingernails again, bitch?

It's not a term that I would use, but even as a middle aged woman I have heard the expression and understand the op is using it to mean side business.
And would someone seriously come on mn to inform us about their 'side hustle' if what they where referring to was conning vulnerable people, or performing sex acts on them, whilst complaining that her colleagues where ostracising her because of it.
The op apologised a few posts in for her terrible faux pas, explained that she doesn't use the word when speaking to her colleagues, but you still get people 200 + posts in that either have very poor comprehension skills, or are just looking for the chance to belittle and bully the op wading in. If the ops colleagues are anything like some of the posters on this thread, then yes your colleagues are just nasty twats and get away from them as fast as you can.

Ah well, if the OP doesn’t use the term then it’s all irrelevant anyway.

Strange how it’s both absolutely fine to use the phrase and is very common to many people, and yet of course she absolutely never says it to her colleagues 🤔

I got the impression that it's the word these colleagues have used, hence the inverted commas. I've made similar posts quoting others and been accused of actually agreeing with what I was quoting when I'm actually doing no such thing.