To not be surprised that some men are still dodging looking after their own children?

[Amazemae]

So often you read about some men who stay busy with hobbies or come home late from work on purpose to avoid looking after their own children. Now with lockdown I keep reading about some men who just choose to lock themselves away in the study because they are working from home and can’t possibly be disturbed for even 5 minutes. Yes I accept some are genuinely busy and can’t but its a good excuse for some to hide behind a screen.

Obviously not all men.

I feel like the lockdown will exacerbate existing situations where some men don’t pull their weight in terms of looking after children.

Are you talking about a particular man you know?

Men I’ve read about on here mostly but it’s just like some men I know at work too deliberately going home late so they get out of bath and bedtime duties.

Don’t assume it’s just men!

It’s died down now, but there were quite a few threads on here about a week ago featuring DHs who couldn’t possibly juggle work and childcare like everyone else wfh, while their key worker wives did their jobs.

therefore kids had to be sent to school/nursery.

It was always the Dads. So YANBU OP.

I’m not surprised. But l am confused why women let them get away with it and then moan about it

SapphireSalute - I don’t deny some women probably do it too but on the whole it tends to be men. The majority of men are not yet taking shared parental leave so it’s usually women on mat leave and then the balance changes and it’s the women who shoulder most of the mental load. Again not all women do of course.

Well if it’s such a problem these women you speak of need to speak out and have a conversation don’t they?

Very misogynistic

Not misogynistic but misandric

Conversations don’t always help when these men refuse to take responsibility. A father can’t be forced to take responsibility for his children unfortunately.

Well if not move on then!! Life’s too short

Incidentally, who/where are these men? I’ve not seen any threads

I think you’ll find that women are also playing that game.
Some parents are using Covid as an excuse to opt out of parenting. Please don’t generalise.

It’s that easy to move on? Wow, what kind of world do you live in?

Read more thoroughly, you will see them.

YANBU

morewineplease I didn’t generalise. Read 2nd para of my OP.

I haven’t got time to ‘read more thoroughly’ I’m working, whilst my kids Dad is at home looking after the youngest, taking his stepson to/from work and looking after our home!

His stepson,yes.... whose Dad I left as he was a lazy, kid dodging arse!!

I know an alarming number of couples where the woman will, for example, take the kids to the supermarket because he "can't cope" looking after them alone - and is also too inept to do the weekly shop.
I was thinking this situation will either
A) Make him man the fuck up and look after them because he'll have to
B) highlight just what an utterly useless shit he is to not just his wife but everyone round him

I have a friend who is WFH as is her husband, he's in the above "useless" category and was furious at the prospect of the kids being at home while he worked. My friend of course has to be the one to work and home school them - but her and the kids have strictly been told to stay in one room together upstairs while he has free reign of downstairs - even when the weather is so beautiful like today they aren't to go out in the garden as that would disturb him I've thought him a massive cunt for years now and I hope she leaves him when this is over

Matthew Wright was on this morning filming from home and mentioned he had to 'babysit' as his wife was unwell.

Er...no Matthew, you are the child's 'father' therefore you 'parent' just as she would you twunt.

My friends partner has decided to stay at his place this week as he “didn’t feel well” leaving her alone with their 3 kids. They live separately but at meant to “be together”... yeah, when he can have his cake and eat it. 🙄

SapphireSalute That’s fine if you don’t have the time to read the threads, doesn’t mean they aren’t there though.

Well done on leaving the kid dodging arse!

If not all men, then what's the point? Some women are just bitter, men hating, sexist idiots, but, yano, not all women.

Oh and let's not pretend it isn't 99.9% men doing childcare dodging

Yes I have a few male colleagues who are still going into the office instead of working from home and they’ve openly stated that they prefer to do that rather than have to manage their dc! Meanwhile their wives are left to home educate 2/3 dc, fit in their own jobs and look after all the usual home stuff like shopping and cooking.

I think some of them are terrified their wives might realise they actually don’t have to work the long hours they usually do, that they’re not “under pressure at work” and actually put in a lot of time chatting and pissing about just to ensure they don’t get home until after dinners are cooked and homework is done . I thought they were dicks before Coronavirus and the current situation has just confirmed my opinion of them.

Now the examples are coming out 🤣

I was dodging tonight yes. So I’m another example!