To not want DH to touch me or the DC until this virus thing is over?

[CoronaIsShit]

He has to work (essential job, think food supply) and therefore has a lot of contact with different people all day and travels around including into central London. His employer has protocols to reduce transmission and he’s pretty fastidious himself. His work clothes go straight in the machine and he goes straight in the shower from work but all it could take is one moment of being lax about social distancing and getting coughed at in the face.

The DC and I are all self isolating (with a daily run) and are not in physical contact with anyone else but DH. I’m getting concerned that he may bring the virus home which has really turned me off kissing or touching him . Let alone anything else which he’s most pissed off about! DC also tell him to get away from them.

AIBU to tell him to sleep on the sofa —or live in the garage preferably— until a treatment is found or it dies out?

(Only slightly lighthearted)

I'm still going to work, as a teacher. DH is staying home with the DC. I would be devastated if they all decided they wanted nothing to do with me for potentially several months. You're pushing your partner away, and scaring your DC.

If you're going out for a run, or to the supermarket, you're not self-isolating anyway. If you did get ill and actually need to self isolate, you would all be staying in.

I am the key worker in my family, my DH is staying at home with the DC, I would be heartbroken if none of them wanted to come near me and treated me like some radioactive beast. Having to go out to work and face hundreds of different people a day is already affecting my mental health enough, I think it would push me over the edge if my DH and DC wouldn't come near me.

Are you and your kids always this horrible to your husband?

I’m married to a GP and it is a concern that he will bring the virus home with him. But the risks are relatively low if you are not in one of the vulnerable groups. I really think if your partner is putting themselves at risk through their work, particularly if it is high pressured, then it is the role of a loving partner to show their support and make home life as comfortable as possible for that person. I think you sound very cold and uncaring. These are your own overblown anxieties that need dealing with. He is taking sensible precautions. If your own issues mean that you are concerned about coming into contact with him, then you should be the one sleeping on the damn sofa. Bloody horrible that he is working hard for his family, putting himself at risk and then sleeping on the sofa! Also disgusting that your children are being influenced by your own behaviour. Why aren’t you pulling them up every time they say these things? You should not be allowing them to be so rude and disrespectful to their father... they are learning this rudeness from you!

I briefly considered doing something like this, my DH is a nurse so in physical contact with covid patients daily. But I quickly realised a) it's pointless, if he has the virus it will spread to us in the house no matter what, and b) it's unrealistic as this could go on for months or years, far to long to sleep on the couch/in a tent.

I think those of us that are key workers or live with them just have to accept that we don't have the luxury of totally isolating ourselves and worrying over every tiny thing the way others do.

The one positive side is that it is freeing in some ways. I follow the advice 100% and stay home, and of course I'm worried. But many on here are in a state of utter panic over the most minor things. Eg, collecting the mail - will I get it if I walk outside to the mail box, or it could be on a letter? I just saw a post where someone was musing about how they could disinfect a box of tissues they just bought, as their usual method (soaking in bleach) clearly wouldn't work.

We don't need to worry about those 0.000000001% risks as it's nothing compared to the 30% risk currently sleeping beside us.

I agree @1300cakes

I think I had CV, we have been self-isolating and now getting essentials but haven’t been in a state of panic. Did no stockpiling and are not using masks or hand sanitiser.

I’m wondering how much food has been wasted in stockpiling as even perishable goods were being cleared off shelves.

It doesn't sound like you care about your husband very much

Very unfair on him. Hes doing the necessary things and you want to pit him out in the garage really?????

But if he brings the virus home it will be in your house, on surfaces etc. You don't need to touch him to become infected. I think given the precautions he's already taking yabu.

Wow can't believe people saying she has to just suck it up, and how people are insinuating she's being OTT. it's killing peoole with no underlying health conditions and leaving people with no underlying health conditions with lung damage etc. I would be the same as the OP. I have a lot of sympathy with her.

I think all of these essential workers should be wearing gloves, masks etc. But of course, there aren't even masks for nurses never mind food workers.

So many people forced to go to work in food chain getting coughed on, no protection, bosses working from home on 80% pay while expecting the minumum wage workers to get on with it and expose themselves and their families to it, some of whom will have asthma or high blood pressure or other risks. People are very blase on here. Some saying they wanted "just get it to get it over with". Thing is there are not enough ventilators, so you stand a chance of dying if you get it as they cant treat you properly.

So if someone coughed on you then you were out on your run then you'd go and live in the garage for two weeks?

I am a key worker and I have been sleeping in a separate room . The reason being if I am sleeping beside hubby I could cough on him etc . I shower after work and spend time with my family normally but lots of washing hands .

If your teens have coughs shouldn't you all be isolating anyway? If you had a spare room it might be reasonable, but the sofa or the garage? It sounds like he is doing what he can when he comes in to minimise the risks. Do you not think he is scared, but as he has to go in as you need the money needs some support? That's mean of your DC as well, have you said to them they should treat their father with some respect?

I think you need help as long as he washes his hands when home and follows procedures you are being very over the top

Meh. You could get it yourself from somewhere else. Then you'd be apart from them if in hospital with nobody to give you a hug. Then you'd wish you had spent more time and cuddles with him.

P and I both are key workers. With a child.

Still having to work etc and neither treat the other like a leper. You should he ashamed of yourself.

I don’t understand why you’re still going out for a run if you are:
A) afraid to this extent
B) self-isolating
And
C) still symptomatic from an “illness” you say you feel may have been corona!