Mother’s Day letdown

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I don’t know if I’m being unreasonable in the current climate but my husband didn’t buy anything for what was my first Mother’s Day and left me alone with the baby for most of it while he slept. I mean I know we can’t go out but a bunch of flowers, a pair of pyjamas, a baby grow with a cute saying on it, none of this would have broke the bank. Am I wrong to feel a little deflated?

Are you being serious

No I don’t think you are. That’s quite upsetting especially if this is your first with your baby.

No, not at all. He sounds thoughtless. Why was he asleep all day, is he ill?

Firstly he should be staying away from shops ...the best mother's Day present he can give you is to try to keep you all alive.

My daughter is in another country. I have no idea when I'm allowed to see her again with this bloody virus. I think your mother's Day trump's mine

I'd be sad too, even though we cant go out I got a handmade card, cake baked for me, and a lay in.

It’s not tit for tat for Christ sake. There will always be someone in a worse situation. Doesn’t mean she can’t feel saddened about the one she’s in 🙄🤨

He's done the right thing. He stayed away from the shops. This could possibly have saved you and your baby's life.

How many of these threads has there been on here today. FGS!!

Bet he’s thrilled he’s had a convenient excuse to not buy anything. Letting you have a lie in would have cost nothing and not risked going out. There’s also this website called amazon that’s gonna blow your mind guys, you can get almost anything delivered right to your door 🙄

I agree with those saying about the shops and that definitely makes me take pause on the whole gifts thing but he did buy a card so he had gone to the shops anyway but he didn’t write it. However he is not ill so the sleep thing, laziness.

He is completely in the wrong....Mother’s Day happens every year and it is pretty easy to find out when it is and prepare for it before the night before. And then, even if he had forgotten he could easily have made an effort with things available around the house - a photo of the baby holding a ‘Happy 1st Mother’s day’ sign would’ve been free and easy!

Of course YANBU, Mother’s Day doesn’t have to mean presents bought from shops. He made no effort at all, he could have ordered something online, taken and printed a cute photo, breakfast in bed, anything. I think you’re quite justified in feeling upset.

YANBU. I take it he’s gone to the shops for food at some point? In which case all the supermarkets are still selling flowers and chocolates so would have been very easy to pick something up.

The fact he has spent the day sleeping shows he just isn’t bothered.

Sorry your DH is such a let down OP. I suggest you act in a similar fashion for Father’s Day to give him a taste of his own medicine

The internet is a wonderful thing and he could have easily have gotten you something.

It's sad that it's your first Mother's Day a d you can't celebrate it properly but it doesn't matter really does it ?
I've got a card with off my dc but I honestly don't care , this week has put things on perspective.

@maddy68 it's not a case of who has has the best Vs worst mother's day The OP is certainly not unreasonable to be let down.

Her DP could have shown some appreciation by giving her a lie in, breakfast in bed, even made her lunch. No need to go to the shops.

My daughter moonpiged me a card I was on lockdown till today so I sent my mom one the same way my son chose a gift online H samuel sent it right to my door

You can do it if you want to

This could possibly have saved you and your baby's life.

Is losing all sense of empathy a CV symptom?

YADNBU. Shops deliver, and gestures can be made from what is in the house. A lie in, a breakfast in bed and a handmade card with kind words do not put anyone at risk.

Happy Mother's Day OP, from one first time mum to another I bet you've done an amazing job this year and your little one thinks the absolute world of you

I agree. I'm disappointed that my DH didn't bother to order something small, buy a box of maltesers when out doing essential shopping or get 3 year old DS to make a card. I could have really used a treat after a shitty week in isolation.

YANBU, this was my first Mother's Day too, and DH ordered card and flowers from DS from Moonpig which got left on the doorstep. We did the same for our respective mums as obviously we couldn't go and see them. Like PP said, easy to order something off the internet.

People are dying x

As said, he should have been doing the cooking. Perhaps it's a lesson to plan ahead so we show the people in our lives how much we care about them.

Communicate how you would have liked it to be, don't let it carry onto Christmas etc.

Lolwhat
"People are dying x"

Which means we grab every moment we can to show that we cherish those closest to us.

I didn’t get anything either From my DH or our three very young babies, but we have other things on our mind at the moment, and tbh I don’t do anything particularly special for “Father’s Day” either. We try to show each other we appreciate each other all year round... as cheesy and cliche as that may sound... so while I agree that YANBU to feel a little down as a new mother, I do think it’s not the end of the world. As your children grow older you’ll realise it’s the special loving moments between you and they which mean a whole lot more than a card and flowers! I hope that helps. But Happy first Mother’s Day and I’m sure you are doing an amazing job

'People are dying' seriously! Gestures cost nothing. He's a thoughtless bugger.
Happy Mother's Day OP.