AIBU to call for mother's day to be postponed

[kateoc8]

Because everything is awful. The world is burning. My business is screwed as of today. My loan company don't want to know and my kids are panicking because their jobs and careers are in jeopardy, holidays ruined, grandparents at risk, and mum is in bits worrying about money. Postpone it!

Just do? the commercial date is irrelevant at the best of times

How do you postpone a 'day'. When would you postpone it to? Next Mother's Day?

If you love your mother, tell her that day. In fact, why not show and tell her every day?

How does anything else affect that? It's about love and relationships isn't it? And they're far stronger than any old global crisis.

@kateoc8
Sod that! Its the one day a year i get meals and cuppas made for me without question!
that is incredibly sad. are you a house slave? you have a family problem, mothers day is irrelevant

Here here

My DC will be flying the nest soon and I realised yesterday that I have a unique opportunity to spend time with them as a family. Better than any hallmark card.

(it goes without saying that many of us won't take the same rosy view as we face the challenges ahead)

Mothering Sunday isn’t about ‘celebrating mother’s’ it’s when people traditionally returned to their mother church. Mother’s Day is a made up thing by card manufacturers. It bakes me laugh when people say the same about valentines ‘oh it’s all nonsense made up by card companies!’ abd then insist on celebrating‘mother’s day’ which is exactly the same thing.

There is no need for anything physical at all. Lets get prioritising. Home drawn cards and pictures, consideration and appreciation, phone calls, facetime, skype. They all mean it, No get togethers

I mean, just send a card and video call your Mum if you can or regular call if not. No need to be dramatic.

My kids have sneakily made me Mother’s Day cards (they think I don’t know, bless) and I’m planning on baking and maybe a spot of gardening with them to enjoy our day together. Sometimes these things need scaled back. I think when it’s as serious as it is right now, we need to be thankful for what we have and maybe not focus on what we’re missing so much.

So my kids are driving me potty but I’m thankful we’re all healthy and we can just be a family together right now

Nothing about social isolation means you can’t hand make a card, make someone a cup of tea in bed or FaceTime older relatives. They’re nothing to postpone.

? What? I’ve sent my mum a card and plant as usual and will phone her as usual.
My kids have made things at school and will give them to me in bed as usual.
We will hopefully go for a walk as usual and maybe have a nice Sunday dinner.
Nothing to postpone!

We "planned" mother's day well before this pandemic. I asked the kids to do the tea and bake me a cake. I don't need gifts or a big fuss, if we eat well and play a board game or something, I'll be happy.
The only disappointment will be not having my Mil over to share with us.

It’s just a day. Anyone can celebrate with their mothers on any day of their choosing.

For parents with children, OP, the reasons not to cancel mothers' day are (1) because their own elderly parents need cheering up and to not feel forgotten and scared for one day and (2) to give a tiny sense of normality to children by celebrating their normal holidays.

Although I'm a mother, I've never seen mothers' day as being about me really - I have to 'ooh' and 'ahh' over some homemade but of tat or some crappy ornament from a card shop, and if I'm lucky, I get to eat a sloppily buttered cold toast and a weak cup of lukewarm tea. Mothers tend to celebrate it because it means a lot to their DC to be making the effort for their mothers, and to see their mothers faking being delighted at those efforts.

So why you would cancel mothers' day and snatch the last remaining bit of normality from either your mother or your DC is beyond me.

You do realise that even in 'normal' years lots of people don't see their mothers? I love MN for turning absolutely everything into their own personal crisis, things are bad enough without inventing more!

Not to be funny but I think you are allowed to celebrate whatever you want on any date that you want - you don't need the government's permission for everything

It feels strange to me that only a few years ago the worst thing that you could say about a government was that they are turning the UK into a "nanny state". Now people want nanny's permission for all that they do! (Not meaning to be unecessarily harsh to you OP - your post made me think about things more generally is all.) x

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Mother’s Day visits this year will be the kiss of death for many, I’m phoning mine everyday and making sure she has everything she needs

This takes lack of personal responsibility to another level.

You are allowed to choose not to do anything for Mother's Day. You do not need to wait for an official 'postponement'

I can’t believe some people on here seem to think it’s ok to take family round to see their vulnerable mothers, presumably hug and kiss them. Potentially while being a symptomless carrier of a deadly illness that they caught perhaps from a working family member or other child at school without realising yet.
Happy Mother’s Day right enough, kiss of death.
Why would anyone risk such a thing? Things are different. Do the right thing and keep the hell away from relatives you could infect if you really do love them.

I was being a bit dramatic just to let some levity into things...thanks for this...
Yes, I was being unreasonable!
However, I sincerely hope as many of you as possible avoid the worst of this damn thing, and we keep as sane, sensible and kind through the crisis. Mothers Day, Easter, Birthdays (mine on Monday) , those of you with bolloxed bookings for holidays, festivals, gigs , theatre etc. All are affected, and I and anyone with a heart can only feel for those who have and will lose loved ones due to this awful virus. Its a shitstorm, right enough, but most of us know we have to ride this merry go round as best we can until it stops... loss of or diminishing of businesses, birthdays, celebrations, feast days and minibreaks are just inconveniences and money lost...rather that, than far more deaths. Peace out.

I lost my Mum a couple of years ago and the last time we were all together (grandchildren too) was MD. it wasn’t good circs, but was so special to have it as a way to acknowledge love. you could enjoy saying nice things to her (from afar) and let her know she is treasured, if you can. Def no money needed. Sorry you are feeling stressed. Hope you have a nice one.

We all know it’s commercialised nonsense but maybe these things just help people connect and we just have to relax expectations.

Mothers day is cancelled in our house.
I'd throttle DH if he took DD out to buy me a mothers day gift or card.
At the moment, I'm just feeling like my day will be made by being safe with my daughter, dog and husband.
We can celebrate the day together with a cobbled together roast dinner and a few brownie bites for dessert =)

Celebrate it whenever you like, you are not limited to one particular day.

As long as my children are safe and hopefully ring me I will be happy . Most mums just want to know their children are safe we don’t need anything fancy . it’s my first Mother’s Day without my mum so I will sit and look at photos of us all together and remember how wonderful she was

I'd throttle DH if he took DD out to buy me a mothers day gift or card.

Why does Mother's Day have to be about buying stuff? He could help her make you a card, bring you breakfast in bed, cook your favourite dinner, let you have control of the TV remote, pick you some flowers from your garden etc etc etc.