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AIBU to call for mother's day to be postponed

79 replies

kateoc8 · 20/03/2020 20:29

Because everything is awful. The world is burning. My business is screwed as of today. My loan company don't want to know and my kids are panicking because their jobs and careers are in jeopardy, holidays ruined, grandparents at risk, and mum is in bits worrying about money. Postpone it!

OP posts:
Darbs76 · 20/03/2020 21:33

Over hyped anyway.

EggysMom · 20/03/2020 21:39

Can we move Easter? I don't think it's healthy for us all to be eating so much chocolate when we are being confined to house. After all, there won't be any 'church worship'....

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Fr0g · 20/03/2020 21:45

14 March 2021?

bridgetreilly · 20/03/2020 21:52

I don't understand what you think would be postponed. There are no big official Mother's Day celebrations. Every family chooses what to do for themselves. There's nothing to stop people still appreciating their mothers in whatever way is appropriate.

Redruby25 · 20/03/2020 21:55

Well I think all there will be less of is people out at restaurants etc celebrating it as some often do. If you live near by and feel safe to visit then do so, if not then phone, I only have cards from myself and my son because I bought them weeks ago, otherwise the way things are going/restrictions, I might not of got any!

nettie434 · 20/03/2020 21:57

Its the one day a year i get meals and cuppas made for me without question

What I think you should do Kateoc8 is to insist on the cooking/cups of tea bit this Sunday. Then, later in the year when things are better declare your official Mothers Day when you can go out for a meal or something nice. If Paddington and The Queen can have two birthdays, why shouldn’t you have two Mother’s Days?

Ineverdidmind · 20/03/2020 21:57

YABU. I know my kids are making me a card and we will spend the day together. What more do you need.

percheron67 · 20/03/2020 22:00

Mothering Sunday (correct title) doesn't need to be postponed and, anyway, postponed for how long? A chat and maybe a card will delight most Mothers.

DioneTheDiabolist · 20/03/2020 22:04

Postpone it OP. That's what my family are doing. We also have at least 3 birthdays and Easter that will be spent apart.Sad

So we're postponing them and having a massive party once this passes.🎉🥳Grin

ItsAllTheDramaMickIJustLoveIt · 20/03/2020 22:10

Won’t be postponing it but also won’t be celebrating it this year. Sent my mum a card, OH has his mum sorted and my youngest has given me his card already (he was too excited to wait). That’s plenty even without the shit show that’s happening right now- I’m not that arsed anyway.

I’m writing off every occasion this year, bar my kids birthdays, as fucked already and hoping next year will somehow be better.

LottieBees19 · 20/03/2020 22:14

Op
You sound very scared and very fraught.
Sending hugs and Flowers
Mothers days doesnt have to be complicated, expensive, just send a card and tell your mum you love her.
Then take each of the above a step at a time.
Your business you can now get VAt payment deferred to June, , HMRC will pay staff wages , will that help.

LonginesPrime · 20/03/2020 22:23

What, OP?

You mean you want everyone to acknowledge that this is no time to celebrate mothers? How can you 'postpone' a holiday which is only really celebrated at family level? It's not they're going to have a big parade.

My DM is, along with most elderly people, going through a really shit time atm, so I'm going to send her something lovely to cheer her up if that's ok with you!

ChippyMinton · 20/03/2020 22:26

Have a different kind of day? My mum was going to be away but was repatriated earlier this week so I posted her a card. Tonight I had to pop over with some food so too her a gift too. We will FaceTime on Sunday.
As long as one of my DC bring me a cuppa in bed I will be delighted. My DC have had a shed load of crap this week - cancelled exams, lost weekend jobs, uncertainty.

I am happy that I can be mum to them at this time, couldn't give a shit about a me me me 'celebration' .

LottieBees19 · 20/03/2020 22:28

The children are just reacting to change, disappointment, let them grieve.
We are at War
We will win
Be kind
Be unselfish
Share your fears with friends, family.
But stay strong

We will unfortunately be experiencing alot of death in the next week or two
What's important wont be the same things.

DogInATent · 20/03/2020 22:28

You'd have to petition Hallmark Cards OP, they invented it.

Rubyupbeat · 20/03/2020 22:28

Mothers day is a pile of crap. Total moneymaker.
My kids tell me they love me everyday and I tell my mum the same, I lost her 12 years ago, but the love doesn't die.

BuzzShitbagBobbly · 20/03/2020 22:29

We just have postponed it. It's not mandatory!

I posted my card but the nice meal we were planning willl happen another time and instead we have a Skype video lunch.

ChippyMinton · 20/03/2020 22:29

By the way it's Mothering Sunday.

And yes YABU

Likefootball · 20/03/2020 22:36

Unlike some other occasions, such as Father's Day, Mothering Sunday is actually marked by the church.
You can no more change the day than you can Christmas or Easter.
This time a phone call or email will probably be better than a visit.

megletthesecond · 20/03/2020 22:39

Nothing to postpone here. I don't see my mum on mother's day as she isn't local and I'm a LP. I even forgot to get my mum a card this week as it's been nuts and I don't think the dc's have made me a card.

JaceLancs · 20/03/2020 22:40

Please try and explain to 81yr old DM with Alzheimer’s who is very religious and believes Mothering Sunday is ordained by the church why you propose to cancel it
I’ve already bought her cards and presents from DC and I
If we are all well I will be cooking her Sunday Roast at my house

eddiemairswife · 20/03/2020 22:40

Mothering Sunday, the 4th Sunday in Lent; also known as Refreshment Sunday.

tinybluerose · 20/03/2020 23:03

FFS home made cards , a verbal thanks and if possible a couple of daffs,

Why postpone?

Genderwitched · 21/03/2020 00:33

YABU how can you postpone Mother's Day? Sunday IS Mother's Day. You either mark it or you don't. Maybe you can take your Mother out later on in the year because you weren't able to do it on Sunday. I'm sending flowers and a card and talking to my Dd on the phone, it's not that big a deal in the scheme of things.

1Wildheartsease · 21/03/2020 00:42

The priest at our local church happily supervises much flower-giving by all the children in church to all the mothers/grandmothers/and other women the children love.

He then gives a sermon on the fact that 'mothering sunday' -the 4th sunday of Lent- was the day those in service were allowed home to their mother CHURCH - (Apparently they were sometimes allowed to bring home cakes made of the dried fruits etc left over after the winter and those cakes went to their own mothers.)

No-one ever remembers - so he can give the same sermon each year. :)