Wedding this weekend

[oldbeforem]

Due to attend a wedding this weekend - as it stands they are looking to go ahead.

Around 80-100 people.

I know they stand to lose a lot of money but surely they have to cancel?!

DH thinks if they don't cancel, we can't let them down and have to go. I am too nervous.

But as we've been told not to socialise unless essential and we all in live in London, surely this can't proceed?

I certainly wouldn’t consider going.

Crazy not to cancel
Given the news broadcast today. Will the venue even allow
It?

I wouldn't go, very sad for them though.

I would go, but I’m a teacher and I’m going to teach 150 teenagers tomorrow. If it’s safe to do that it’s safe to have a few glasses of wine and a dance.

Depends who they are to you
They haven’t closed schools so if you have children then YABU.
If you look after an elderly relative then it’s a different thing all together

They should cancel, so advice is not to go to a pub but OK with a big party with 100 people.?!

But the advice is totally contradictory. So for example if you’re a teacher or have children
Or work in a shop or work in a pub, You’re going to constantly have access to many people.
As many as you would at a wedding

Don’t go

I don't think I'd go.
I'd let them know ASAP and send the gift now.
It's awful for them but you won't be the only person to cancel, never mind what the venue or even the celebrant will decide.

The advice makes no sense. Don’t go to the pub, but you can go to a school with 1,500 kids in it.

I’d go unless I was in one of the groups mentioned. A wedding is kind of essential, surely?

@DesignedForLife
Exactly. Fucking crazy.

I'd say one of you is coming down with something.

There is absolutely no way on this planet I would go.

But I expect by the weekend the decision will be taken out of your hands when the venue will be forced to close.

Weddings really aren't important right now.

Don't go. Make up an excuse. I'm fact if I was teaching in the UK I'd be claiming a sore throat and staying at home. In a week it might be too late. If enough teachers do this they will be forced to shut the schools.

My wedding was supposed to be yesterday i postponed it. Btw im in ireland and schools were shut from thurs

Unfortunately I think wedding venues are going to hold out for as long as possible or they're going to lose a hell of a lot of money if they start closing, so I doubt they'll cancel unless the local authority forces them to shut. If the venue doesn't cancel, the couple likely won't be able to claim anything on their wedding insurance (if they have any) as it doesn't cover for them changing their mind - which is essentially what this is even though it makes total sense. I'm getting married end of May and pretty sure I'll have to cancel so I've been trawling through the policy and it pretty much only covers cancellations by the venue or caterers themselves, or if the couple or their immediate family is actually sick. I doubt they would pay out for anyone self-isolating as it wouldn't be provable illness with a doctor's note etc.
It's entirely up to you, I'm sure they will understand you not going given the circumstances but they'll also be gutted as I imagine a lot of guests will do the same. It's just such a shame. I'm so upset that I'll likely have to cancel my own wedding but people's health and safety is more important. Just let them know ASAP.

Unfortunately as the government hasn’t banned these gatherings, anyone who cancels (whether a venue or an individual / couple) is taken to have done so voluntarily and will therefore not get any insurance payout. So they don’t really have a choice but to let it go ahead for whoever wants to come.

Really shoddy cop-out by the government. If they don’t want people out socialising they should be clear and just put in an outright ban. Clearly some of the large insurance companies have close Tory links

Going to the pub or a party does not enable essential workers to keep on working and avoid children being cared for by vulnerable grandparents. Kids going to school does so it is ridiculous to equate the two as being the same. Please don't go and take this seriously.

They probably cant cancel without losing all their money

@janebee4 sorry to hear about your wedding. It's really shit and sad for couples with their weddings coming up.

Hopefully advice will have changed by the so you can at least claim.

Congratulations anyway and best of luck!

I'd go - not in a vulnerable group nor do I look after anyone who is vulnerable. I feel for them though as horrible choice for them to make and money to lose.

@corker
You’re right, it’s pretty bad what the government are doing. I don’t know any business whose insurance covers them for this. So it’s ok to say don’t go to the pub but it’s not ok to say, right shutdown and we are going to try and keep business afloat like the French and Italian governments are doing

@Mumski45

In that case close the schools and keep a couple of classes open for children of vital workers. I’m sure logistically that’s doable, if they were really worried about the affect on key workers

I would also go. I also will have approx 150 teenagers coming through my door tomorrow. The advice is confusing and conflicting. X

We went to a wedding on Saturday, stayed two nights in a hotel and had the meal. We avoided the evening do though.