Wedding this weekend

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Due to attend a wedding this weekend - as it stands they are looking to go ahead.

Around 80-100 people.

I know they stand to lose a lot of money but surely they have to cancel?!

DH thinks if they don't cancel, we can't let them down and have to go. I am too nervous.

But as we've been told not to socialise unless essential and we all in live in London, surely this can't proceed?

Yes I wouldn't go. I feel sorry for all the small businesses who will go bust because of the (strategic) decision not to make it a rule that they close, thereby preventing the possibility for them to claim insurance for lost business costs - which would be exactly what should be happening. The French PM assured all small businesses in France that they would be protected. Ours? Well schools are ok.... Just don't go to large gatherings or pubs... Except we're not actually going to make it a rule!!

@staringatonewall hopefully that is where we will be soon as I'm not sure we can slow it fast enough otherwise. It would be contradictory to ask elderly people to socially distance themselves and then 2 days later expect them to provide our childcare.

I do feel for people with events planned in the near future especially weddings but we are talking life/death choices here and a wedding is not essential for life to continue. Keeping our hospitals open and food supply going is.

@Mumski45
That argument doesn’t stand up. Grandparents are in grave danger with the schools open since they are the main wraparound care work force for primary aged kids. Pitching up at the school gates twice a day can’t be doing the older generation many favours.
I wouldn’t resent babysitting the kids of key workers, but it feels wrong to welcome 150 different children into my small room tomorrow. I probably won’t die, but it doesn’t seem right.

Sorry, meant to say that I prob won’t die but somebody vulnerable probably will as a result of all that socialising.

I’m sure a few teachers would happily carry on teaching those key workers children or any parent that has to still work.
I don’t think they need to be teaching the children of parents who are currently all WFH

I wouldn't go. To me, this is an 'extra' optional activity - not like going to work etc. Yes, it's terrible timing for the bride and groom but it's safer to stay away

I can understand them not cancelling. They potentially to have fork out to get notice again and registrar fees etc on top off all the other "extra stuff". Especially given the circumstances I would want to get married if I could just in case things get worse. There's no obligation for you to go, and I'm sure the bride and groom would understand but I don't think it's fair for them to lose their marriage and their money too

Someone on tv has just said that we shouldn't be going to weddings!

Someone I know was due to get married this Saturday and the venue have asked her to cancel ☹️
Not sure how refunds will work.

They’ve literally just answered this question on BBC as I am typing, and the answer is “no” don’t go to a wedding this weekend.

I'd go if you are not in a vulnerable group and/or have no symptoms. As people have said above, teachers are still mingling together and with 100's of children in the day but not allowed out in the evening and weekends - its mad.

I'm going to a wedding this Friday. I have not even considered not going and neither has any of our families. This wedding has been saved for for a few years and as the Hotel hasn't canceled it it's still going ahead. I am very much looking forward to it.

Why does your dh think you have to go if they don’t cancel?? That’s totally irrational. It’s also quite irresponsible.. if everybody did the same cases in uk will go bananas. You never know who you pass it onto either. You could get someone killed..

No, limit social contact.

Anywhere else I might have considered it. But London, no.

If everyone does their job and sits on their a$$ for some time, this will be easier to contain. People going out having fun will make us into another Italy ffs.

The more people who say no, I'm not going, the better as it limits the impact by another vector. Limits the number of people who get sick and spreads out the impact over time. That is vital to saving lives in the long term. Up to you, but I would cancel.

My friend cancelled his wedding today. It was meant to be Saturday. Probably wont get the money back.

Weddings cost crazy amounts. It's likely the couple wouldn't get their money back. I can see why they would go ahead. I'm in a job where I have to continue being in the public, so are a lot of my family. I would therefore go. I'm sure they will understand that lots of people won't attend and it may even get cancelled by the venue at the last minute. I understand completely why they should cancel and also their reasons for not.

I went to a wedding on Sunday. There were a lot of drop-outs and if it had "just" been a friend we wouldn't have gone. But it was a close family member so we went.

You absolutely should go.

As a young fit member of society you'll have plenty of time to regret the decision when Great Aunt Flo dies after contracting the disease that selfish people should have been protecting her from by following official advice.

I’d go, I work in hospitality and I’m a student so have been mixing with people all week until today, dh has been at work as usual on a building site and dd has been at school missing with 500+ people so going to a wedding is no different.

Life cannot stop we need to carry on, obviously if you are in a vulnerable group health wise don’t go but otherwise I’m not stopping doing anything I normally do until it’s made compulsory!

www.washingtonpost.com/graphics/2020/world/corona-simulator/?fbclid=IwAR1jclP2jSrCOE-vYetMB5U0VEAqYPDX4vtsoKuqaxcIJE1uk2D0PpIbFbU

People have been asked to practice social distancing for a reason.
The simulation above makes it clear why.
It isn't about you being okay but keeping other vulnerable people safe.

Why do people find this so difficult to understand! There is nothing contradictory about recommending that mass gatherings such sporting event and weddings do not go ahead whilst keeping schools open.

One is generally avoidable and has some generally localized negative economic impact.
The other will wipe 3% of GDP driving thousands of families towards bankruptcy and leaving a generation’s worth of debt; leave thousands of vulnerable families who get first support from school and school staff even more isolated; leave tens of thousands of vulnerable children at risk as children protection is part education, part social services; leave another hundred thousand or so who rely on free school meals ........
but yes - same thing

The government is risk assessing and strategising for society as a whole not you personally.

@Noname9 The government is going to have to shut schools otherwise a significant number of people just aren't going to bother following the very clear current advice.

midwest
Yes I know. We are in the world of government by public opinion rather than by any form of strategy. The individual is key and what’s best for the whole matters not a damn .... sigh.