Newish relationship, been going so well so far and feel a comfort that I've not felt in relationships before, have a lovely generous caring bf (or so I thought) even if he's not the most emotionally expressive.
But I've been really stressed recently with some important professional exams (and related decisions) and it's the last few days before I sit them. Haven't been able to spend a huge amount of time with bf as he works really late and the last time I saw him he had people over spontaneously who he hadn't seen in a while. So naturally I've been craving comfort from him.
Tonight he had plans which he did invite me to but I didn't fancy socialising much today. I've felt really down and distressed today and I told him so. BF asked if I wanted to meet after his plans tonight, around midnight, which i said might be difficult and I wanted him to honour his plans so we/he decided tomorrow might be better. I'm trying to be reasonable regarding his already set plans but really, I want him to drop everything and come and hug me.
Started feeling anxious later and msged to ask if he'd come and stay over at mine instead after he'd finished. He said he'd try but didn't know when things would finish. AIBU to want to scream at him and ask if he really even cares about me when he'd let me feel this distressed and not even try when I've LITERALLY got days left??!!!''
Of course I want him to have fun and de-stress and I'm TRYING to be reasonable but it feels like a kick in the teeth and like I can't rely on him when I need it the MOST. I just want him to care about me, feel like my feelings only matter after all the fun has been had... makes me wonder if I've picked a wrong'un again 