Was this joke unreasonable?

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Boyfriend loves his night out which is fine, but every other week he complains on the Sunday about how his body is aching and he feels rubbish and alochol is making his body feel awful and ill, so he's never drinking again (i know everyone says this),
So last week was the same story, i was staying at his house on the sunday (we dont live together, still live with parents, im 25 but ive just finished uni and started a job so cant afford to move out right now), and he was hungover, complaining abiut the same thing, and that he's never drinking again. So i said he's like the boy who cried wolf and he'll probably be out next weekend.
Anyway next weekend has come and he's going out so he rang me last night to tell me. I joked that I knew it, he is literally the boy who cried wolf and I guess i'll be listening to it all over again on sunday so here we go again and then we said our goodbyes and i hung up.
He then messaged saying he feels really upset because he thinks i feel he's an alcoholic (i rarely go out but i dont mind that he enjoys it, each to their own), and that he only wants to go out incase the pubs close soon because of the virus.
I rang him back and apologised saying i didnt mean to upset him and i wont joke about it again, but i feel rubbish now, i hate upsetting him

And it's also his friends fault that he's going out Always someone else's fault!
Thanks everybody, i will be taking everyone's opinions into consideration and have a talk to him tomorrow

You've nothing to apologise for OP. Remember that.

I imagine tomorrow he'll make you out to be the world's worst girlfriend. Hold your resolve and don't let him fool you.

Well i didnt really hear off him last night and nothing today,
Wouldnt be surprised if he goes out qithout a single message to me i'll keep you all updated either way

You’ve hit a nerve and it’s unsettled the poor wee poppet, so he’s turning it round on you.

Sod that. Please don’t make the mistake of assuming or hoping he will change if you had children together. The relationship boards are full of examples of this behaviour that doesn’t stop even when dc are involved. There’s a difference between going out to be sociable every week and going out every week to point of blacking out.

Does he ever take you out at the weekends or are you just a during the week girlfriend ?

My first thought was "Why on earth are you going over on Sunday when he's going to be a complaining, hung over mess?". I wouldn't bother. Much rather spend my Sunday on my own with a good book/Netflix/other friends than sit around and listen to someone moan about feeling like shit.

Maybe if you stopped going when you know he's going to be hungover he'll reconsider drinking to excess the night before.

Oh goodness, get rid!

He's going out this weekend in case the pubs shut??!!

What at twat!

He’s sulking and defensive because he knows he’s behaving like an irresponsible idiot around drink and you (rightly) remind him of it. Not your issue. It’s his.

Aside from everything else he sounds so boring! I couldn't be with someone so dull!

How old is he? He sounds very young if he is getting that drunk every weekend with mates who ‘lead him astray’. Maybe it’s time for him to grow up?

He’s a precious whiny little sulky baby and nothing is ever his fault
Ditch him now OP

I think he has a bit more of a disordered relationship with alcohol than he wants to admit. He can’t just have a couple, he can’t say no to going out, he can’t cut back even though it makes him feel like shit.
He seems to be stuck in a teenage drinking pattern. Surely he’s moved past the getting bladdered with your mates is the goal of the night out by now.

He's 24,
His mates are the same - blindly drunk most weekends. It's okay to drink but they all get very very very drunk.
I'm feeling a bit sad now, havent heard off him since the phone call last night at around 7pm and im resisting all temptation to send a message

I did send him a message after the call, as i was watching a dog show competition on TV (i know, i lead an exciting life ), and the winning dog was this tiny dog and i'm quite a petite female so I filmed the dog winning the competition as he was lined up with massive dogs, and i sent him.a video saying "small things are great!" And he saw it straight away and hasnt bothered replying since now,

I'd usually be unbothered about him seeing messages and not replying as he does it often, but because he"ll be out tonight i'm feeling a bit down

Made a mistake - he hasnt bothered replying since now, he hasnt bothered replying at all!

Keep resisting.

So sent the video around 7:30pm and nothing from him

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Well, now you know where you rank in the pecking order.

Stop contacting him. He's really, really not worth it. You're young and have plenty of time to find someone who will treat you as you deserve to be treated.

Not replying to punish you and have you stressing probably. Then will call you to him when he's feeling sorry for himself tomorrow so he can moan and complain and you'll know not to make any comments and to just look after him.
Yawn.
Find someone who doesn't get absolutely wasted every weekend so you can have enjoyable weekends together. You're essentially having to deal with a hangover every weekend and you don't even drink! Doesn't sound like a good use of your time.

Sounds like a loser, what does he add to your life exactly?

God what a tedious little snowflake.

It's no sort of relationship when you have to walk on eggshells and worry about making in joke in case you hurt his poor little feelings.

Stop giving him comfort and advice and tell him to stop fucking moaning about his self inflicted aches because he's boring you to death.

I'm honestly not trying to be mean with the harsh words you just deserve better.
Get snuggly with a book, watch your favourite film or call up your best friend whatever makes you happy and stop worrying about him for a while.

You did nothing wrong.

Honestly these posts are really opening my mind, thank you everyone

He thinks he's still a student. You have to work out if you want a committed relationship with him or is it time to call it a day. There are many men in their twenties who don't get bladdered each weekend and they are not boring goody goodies. On the other hand, a wake up call may force him to grow up, most do outgrow the drunken lads night out phase eventually.

Don't worry about upsetting him, he lets you down so it's natural for you to be displeased. Deep down he knows that.

Thank goodness you're not living with the guy!

Oh dear OP. He'll probably say "small things are great" is a comment on his dick size based on how much of a crybaby he sounds.

Only a year in... can you honestly be arsed to put this much effort into someone who is so exhaustingly self involved?

You know there are fun, kind, interesting men out there who will have a laugh with you and not make you feel guilty all the time? Bin him off, don't waste any more of your 20s apologising to him.