I ended my relationship with him over his disapproving Father.

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Posted here before about a situation where my fiancé's father disapproved of me and I was basically sitting around waiting for him to approve of our relationship.

Despite them knowing we we're together, his dad was trying to set him up with other girls etc.

I have finally walked away with a heavy heart.

He doesn't seem too bothered if I'm honest, as I haven't heard from him all day. I ended it this morning.

We're long distance and both from a Pakistani family.

Guess he didn't want me as much as he claimed.

Feel rubbish and the only reason I've not cried my eyes out is because I'm in work.

You are crying because this man is seeing other women? You have had such a great escape, OP! His dad is horrible and he is weak. Look to the future - without him - it's much brighter than it would've been with him.

It's a weird time for everyone and you've got this to cope with on top. Be kind to yourself and realise it's ok to be sad over this.
But you will look back and say to yourself you dodged a bullet.

Called him several times today for 'closure' and left messages. No answer.

I've learnt my lesson and won't do it again.

May be petty, but in a few weeks time I'm thinking of sending screenshots to the girl his parents wanted for him, just so she knows the real him.

Conversations where he's declaring his love for me and how he doesn't want her and wants to kill her interest etc.

I found her instagram so can always dm them to her in a few weeks time.

DM them now and then block him and his bullshit from your headspace.

I think you have enough closure on this and don't need any further contact. Perhaps, you were hoping for a grande gesture from him.....even if he did declare his undying love for you with 1000 Rose's followed by a brass band, you know that he is weak and will never treat you as number 1 in his life. Don't let that be your future. You will meet somebody else who won't wreck your head. There are good genuine people out there! For now, focus on a new project. If your symptoms are mild try arts and crafts, paint a room, watch a box set, light gardening, read a book, look up a historical event that has interested you etc. You have come so far, dont stumble at the finish line.

I remember your previous thread. You did the right thing. Difficult in laws put a huge strain on a relationship. If the child stands up to the parent, the relationship can survive, if they dont, it wont. Give yourself time. I wouldnt believe he didnt care because he hasnt reacted yet. He sounds like a weak man. It could be months before he reacts. Focus on moving on.

Thank you everyone. Your words are so encouraging and really do help.

He hasn't blocked me on WhatsApp so I was able to see he read my messages.

But I've refrained from contacting him again. I haven't called, I haven't text. Nothing.

I'm hoping I don't feel like this for long. Being stuck at home doesn't help neither.

Have a think about he might say and how each would make you feel.
He couldn't even aPologise for me as it's been going on so long, with deception and lies throughout. He'd blame his parents when actually the blame is his, he could have let you go with no lies or stood up to his parents.
There's literally nothing he can say, just block him

@forrestgreen He is blocked. On everything. I've deleted his numbers too.

What's hurt me the most is he completely ignored my calls and messages. No apologies. No remorse. Nothing. In due course I'll realise he wasn't worth it.

Because it's still new it feels very raw. I had envisaged my life with this man and all the lies and bullshit he fed me was just that, just lies and bullshit.

I'll look back at this thread in a few months and have a giggle at how foolish I was.

Just wanted to say Well Done on taking the decision to end things, OP.

I understand you're feeling very upset and raw at the moment. In a few months time you will feel stronger.

I know this must be so hard for you right now, but you have saved yourself from a lifetime of heartache with the wrong guy.

OP, How are you doing?