Member of staff stroked my child's face

[FeeFee382]

Aibu to be annoyed that a member of staff in John Lewis touched my babies face today?!

With coronovirus at large, this does annoy me but it's not ok to just touch random babies. Why do people do this?!

Lol if anything she put herself at risk because babies are the carriers.

It's not meant with malice. Babies evoke affection in people.

I understand your annoyance but all you can do is be on guard and try to anticipate and block it before it happens.

Oh the humanity.

@AngstyAnnie I saw it happen in slow motion and said ooooh, sorry please don't - I'm worried about the coronovirus etc.

She looked at me like I was mad! I'm not even that worried, I just don't like when people stick their hands in the bassinet

I’m not usually precious about stuff but I don’t understand why random people touch babies without permission. So weird. Like when people feel your bump when you’re pregnant. What are you doing?

It's likely they didn't think. I wondered what your issue was until I read in and you mentioned corona, maybe the staff member also didn't consider it.

You are paranoid about Corona yet took your baby out shopping? Of course YABU.

@FeeFee382

YANBU at all. Even if coronavirus was not a thing, it's weird as fuck for some random person to touch/stroke/feel your baby.

I would have been annoyed too!

There must be something wrong with me. I've never ever had the urge to touch someone else's baby.

Likewise touching other women's stomachs because they're pregnant.

Used to drive me up the wall when people did this to me; it's bloody weird. And it wasn't just women who did it, men I hardly knew seemed to think it was okay to touch a woman stomach because she's carrying a child.

What @theflis12345 said

Christ, I've heard it all now

I was once on a bus with my bundle of joy as a baby.... 4/5 months old.

She was over my shoulder and the lady sat behind us stood up and kissed her on the forehead 😳 yes it was nice I suppose but really not the done thing

YANBU. I hate this. Poke her in her face! See how she reacts to that!!!

@FeeFee382 it’s kissing babies that bugs me, you don’t know what the random person could be carrying, especially as cold sores can be fatal for babies.

I am one of three children from the same parents who were married 59 years. My mother wanted Dad to feel us moving inside her as we kicked and shifted. My father refused to do so, as he was afraid to cause a miscarriage from gently touching her tummy. This was in 1960, 1961, and 1970.
A person should only touch a pregnant mom's tummy when invited and if the person is someone you would let hold the baby when it is born.

Oh not this again!!!! You are being ridiculous - all this "don't touch my child" is modern day nonsense.

This works the other way too, I’ve had a toddler randomly grab/touch me with their germ infested little claws on a train. I’m probably going to survive this encounter but I would rather not experience it again (regardless of Coronavirus). Parents seemed oblivious and thought it was cute

Modern day nonsense? Fuck off

Not nonsense at all - nobody has any right to touch anybody. Even a baby - especially when the mother has said no.

I despair at this thread.
Oh such precious posters

@Potkettlexx I'd have been tempted to lean over and kiss her husband and see how she liked that.

I was recently on an international flight and the amount of strangers who came over to touch my baby's face was crazy. They are trying to be nice. Doesn't make It ok though

I used to live in the Caribbean where the Indian population pinch the cheeks, arms and legs of babies they think cute.

My mother was so paranoid about it that she kept my pfb away from every Indian woman she saw.
We never did get an explanation for this behaviour which was so extreme sometimes he would be marked.

I get you op. Strangers do not have the right to touch adults. So why children. It’s about germs, yes. But also about boundaries.

Ive had a toddler randomly grab/ touch me with their germ infested little claws . What a disgusting thing to say about a child. Are you so detached from reality to realise you were once a small child and may have done the same when you were 2?

had a toddler randomly grab/ touch me with their germ infested little claws.

Wow. What a horrible way to describe a small child. I can't imagine despising anyone so much, never mind a child.