Kissing your kids on the lips

[greenflower279]

Have seen a couple posts about this on other SM sites.

Is it unreasonable to think it is absolutely ludicrous to think there is anything wrong with kissing your kids on the lips??

Curious on other people's thoughts.

Yabu. No need to kiss on lips. Cheeks, forehead etc just as sweet/ loving and less unhygienic.

I personally don't do it with my kids but don't see anything wrong with it. I do however think adults kissing parents or other adult siblings on the lips is weird, I don't mean in a sexual way, just in a Ughhhhhhhhh way. The thoughts of kissing my father on the lips makes me come out with hives. The thoughts of kissing my brother on lips makes me queasy. I suppose if you are brought up kissing like this it is normal to you but for me it is 50 shades of weird.

@millymaud I can assure you that there's no 'blurred boundaries or confusion' between myself and my elderly parents or between myself and my teenage boys, so not sure how my kissing them proves your point?

We're certainly not attracted to each other! 🤮

I’m not saying you are, I’m saying that you and your children have muddled ideas about what’s appropriate.

I'm another one who finds it a bit odd.
When they are little it's not so bad, but to me, kissing on the lips is a romantic thing and it just feels weird to do it with family members, especially to other adults! 🤷🏼‍♀️
I am firmly in the kissing the cheek/forehead camp.

We're cheek or forehead kissers here. No real reason and certainly no "ugh" about families who kiss on the lips; it's just what we do. I can't find energy to get upset when I see other families kissing their DC on the lips.

I don't. People do. That's their choice.
I think it helps reinforce the concept of personal space not to. Other people have other ways of achieving the same thing.

I thought it was weird until I became a mum. We didn't do it when I was growing up. But since my twins were born six months ago I've given them plenty of pecks on the lips 🙈😍

YANBU

QuizzlyBear that’s my 15&19 year old sons too 🤣 if they go to bed before me, they shout they are ready to be tucked in! So it’s in, tucked in, kiss, ‘night a bless love you lots sweet dreams and see you in the morning’. If I think they are asleep, I go straight to bed, lights off, snuggle down, and hear ‘mummmmm you haven’t tucked me in!’.

Obviously ds19, is only home occasionally as he’s at uni, and in work when he’s home, so he’s more messing around with me. But ds15 he likes to still be tucked in. (I’m also making the most of each time, as I know each time, is now closer to the last and final time).

I'm confused by the 'it's just not necessary' thing. It's not strictly necessary to kiss anyone on the lips at all, but we do.

Those saying it's creepy have a very immature level of thinking.

Great way to spread Corona virus, colds, flu...
I wouldn’t recommend kissing anyone’s potentially infected mucosal surfaces for at least the next six weeks!

I don’t find it weird or odd to be honest. I still kiss dc2 on the lips/cheeks/forehead, dc1 not so much as they are not overly affectionate and prefer cuddles to kisses. If I can even get one bloody moody Pre teen!!

@Theresnobslikeshowb Glad to hear your boys are as affectionate as mine! Long may it last (I'm sure it won't).

Though if @millymaud is correct, I'm guessing we've just taught them 'confusion' and 'inappropriate behaviour' 😂

Ah, it takes all sorts.

Thanks for all replies.

I'm honestly surprised that some people find it so strange - although remember my mum doing it so could be the reason why! Each to their own 😊

DD is 6 in September and has now stopped kissing me on the lips in front of friends 🤣 although demands them when it's just us two 😄 long may it continue.

I'm also due in 7 weeks and can't wait for another face to smother in huge kisses!

It's not my cup of tea. I prefer the cheek

My 3yo ds loves kisses. He says "mummy you're the best at kisses and cuddles" it's adorable.
He always kisses on the lips, when he had a cold once I tried to turn my face to give him my cheek and he grabbed my cheeks to move it back 😂

YANBU.

It’s in our DNA isn’t it? From when we used to feed kids using our mouths like birds

I didn't, on the cheek or forehead instead. Mine are still really cuddly despite being adults but not kisses (both will snuggle up either side to watch a movie, just with glasses of wine these days!)

When I kiss my kids I either kiss them on the forehead or the cheek, but when my DS (aged 2) always kisses me on the lips.

I just realised that it won’t be long before my 9yo stops kissing me on the lips. It’ll be right, and appropriate, but I’m sure as hell going to miss it! Her kisses are still the high point of my day. Especially the ones where she grabs me and squeezes my cheeks in first!

My younger teens (boy and girl) kiss me on the lips. My older teen (girl) doesn’t. They’ve only just stopped sleeping with me!

My 13 and 12 year olds still kiss DH and I on the lips at bedtime. Never occurred to me to think it was weird!

I kiss DD (11 months) on the lips. She open-goldfish-mouth-with-licky-tongue reciprocates. It's sweet and disgusting at the same time and I hope she kisses me on the lips forever, though with an adjustment to closed lips and less snot as time goes by.

My mother and I kissed on the lips right up until her death when I was 38. It's normal!

But for everyone saying it transmits cold sores, here's my experience. I get cold sores and to avoid giving it to my dc I've never kissed him since birth, not on the cheek or anywhere. I give air kisses sometimes but generally I don't put my face near him. And yep, he still got it. So avoiding kissing may not help you. I've had cold sores since I was 3, yes it was an auntie who gave them to me. It doesn't have to be a parent who passes it on. I've never kissed my 4 kids or 6 GC on the lips, none of them have shown signs that they have it but of course they might but without outbreaks. It is miserable to have cold sores, as a teenager I don't think there was anything important that didn't have me in a photo with a cold sore. Why would a loving parent risk it? A kiss on the forehead or cheek is fine.